New here...hello

onthebrink · #1 April 20th, 2009, 03:54 PM

Hi, I am coming over here from the November 2009 DDC. We lost our little one at 9 1/2 weeks. I just had a d&c yesterday and am still recovering both emotionally and physically. My daughter, Ashlyn, was born still two years ago at 33 weeks gestation due to an abruption and pre-eclampsia. I do have 3 living children that I cherish.

My doctor said I can start trying right away, even before my next period, though I have read that other people are told to wait one or more cycles. I think I am just going to let nature take its course and see what happens. At my age (41) getting a bfp will take me longer anyway.

I just wanted to say hello and though I am sorry that we are in this situation I hope that we are all provided with what our hearts desire. Plus I could really use some support.

KDD · #2 April 20th, 2009, 04:00 PM

Welcome Margaret. I am truly sorry for your loss. This is an excellent group full of love and support.

Patriciamomofboys · #3 April 20th, 2009, 04:11 PM

Welcome. I'm sorry for your losses. The ladies here are great and very supportive.

MrsB1227 · #4 April 20th, 2009, 04:42 PM

welcome and I'm very sorry for your loss.

yowzer · #5 April 20th, 2009, 07:14 PM

I'm sorry you had to make your way to this board...
My Dr told me I could start trying right away as well... I'm no spring chicken either (35) so maybe that's why we got the go ahead?

Take care of yourself...

:hugs:

tobynscarlett · #6 April 20th, 2009, 07:53 PM

I am so sorry to hear that you lost your little angels. You are in a wonderful and supportive place. Welcome to the board.

szczepanski · #7 April 20th, 2009, 08:04 PM

I am so sorry for your losses. I was in the November DDC as well and lost my little one at 8 weeks.

This place is amazingly supportive and no question is off limits. It has kept me sane over the last few weeks.

momof6lopez · #8 April 20th, 2009, 08:19 PM

Hello and welcome. I too was in the Nov DDC and lost my baby at 9.5wks. I even got to see a strong heart beat at 6.5wks, only to have it taken away. Im so sorry you are here and have to start over again. At least we can do it together and know that we are here for you whenever you need an ear to lean on! Im 38, and will be trying right away too. I had my D&C almost 3wks ago, and have already had a AF.

onthebrink · #9 April 21st, 2009, 03:49 AM

Thank you ladies. I have tears in my eyes right now because I really needed to tell someone about this latest loss...nobody knew I was pregnant as we were waiting until 12 weeks.

I am so sorry for all of your losses.

Trish36 · #10 April 21st, 2009, 07:04 AM

Once again, I am really sorry to hear about recent loss as well as your previous loss. We are all in the same boat here and at least we understand and can relate to how you feel. You know that no one on here is going to tell you things that people who haven't gone through a loss would say, like 'be thankful for the children you have' or 'you will have more'... We are here to support you in any way we can! HUGS!!!

Halloween81 · #11 April 21st, 2009, 07:20 AM

Welcome. I am sorry to hear of your loss. I hope being here is helping a little.

amandakay29 · #12 April 21st, 2009, 07:22 AM

I'm sorry for your loss. The girls here are amazing. Welcome to the board.

SailorsWife · #13 April 24th, 2009, 03:11 PM

hi, i'm in the same boat. i'm coming from the nov '09 ddc as well. we found out wed that we'd lost our little one. I haven't had my d&c yet, I'm going in on Monday and I'm absolutely terrified. When I saw that you came from my same ddc, I just felt like I could relate. I hate saying that I'm sorry for your loss because for me at least I hate hearing it. It doesn't help any but at the same time I'm well aware that there's really nothing else to say. So I'll settle for I can relate and if you ever want to talk please don't hesitate to send me a message.

#14 April 24th, 2009, 03:46 PM

I'm truly sorry for your heartbreaking losses. You've definitely come to the right place for support.

L-SBB · #15 April 24th, 2009, 04:52 PM

welcome Margaret...very sorry for your loss HUGS. This is a really great group of women - feel free to lean on us when you need some extra support.

klt · #16 April 24th, 2009, 06:53 PM

Welcome Margaret. I'm sorry you have to go through this...I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Please lean on all of us whenever you want. This is a great group of women. Their support has been unbelievable! I had a loss in October and this group has been phenomenal. I also have three children (my boys are 13, 10 and 8) and I'm also 41. We waited to ttc until 3 cycles after my m/c. (the doctor said to wait because I had hemorrhaged and I needed to get my blood counts at a normal level before trying.) Whether you decide to TTC right away or not, please stay. We look forward to getting to know you better. You're in my thoughts and prayers. And, if you need anything, I'm only a PM away

Take care!

Jenn218 · #17 April 25th, 2009, 04:20 AM

I am so sorry for you loss. You have a great group of women for support.

taralyn · #18 April 25th, 2009, 09:55 AM

Welcome and so sorry to hear about your loss. The ladies here are fantastic so jump right in!

megal40 · #19 April 25th, 2009, 11:10 AM

Welcome Margaret. Feel free to say what is on your mind. I have learned that, unfortunately, a lot of women are going through or have been through the same things. This is a great place. I am sorry we all have to be here.

mum74 · #20 April 26th, 2009, 03:52 AM

We hadn't told anyone in real life either - it's very hard when you want (or I did at least) acknowledgment that your baby existed when no one knows you were pregnant. I in the end did tell a few close friends after my miscarriage. I just needed to tell them that my baby was real and very much wanted. But the online support here at JM has definitely been huge as well.