I have several bridal showers, baby showers and weddings coming up this spring and summer. Just wanted to get opinions on how much you spend on a shower and how much you spend/give at a wedding. I know it depends on if they're a close friend or whatever. Just give me your honest opinions, DBF and I are having a difference of opinion. Thanks!

[~Angela~]

Depends on how many your talking about. I usually spend 35-40 average

[Ryleeroo]

Baby Shower about twenty bucks
and Weddings (We dont go to many) about 40-50.

[rebeccabaltimore and more]

$40-$50, depending on the person.

[megal40]

I usually spend about $40-50 for a shower gift and we give $75-100 for weddings. (the weddings are usually close friends and family). Just a note: we go to about 1 wedding and 2 showers a year. I have some friends that have 6-12 weddings a summer to go to. I am sure that they don't give that much. I guess it depends on lots of things.

[lex1078]

I just had a bridal shower yesterday and spent about $60. We have 3 weddings this year and DH is in 2 of them. For the first one we'd probably give about $150, for another $200 and the last one of the year we'll give $500. The last one is DH best friend's wedding.

[PixieQueen]

Personally, I usually give $20-$30 at showers and $40-$50 at weddings, depending on finances and how close we are. We aren't exactly living high on the hog ourselves though. If we had it, we'd give more. And we also usually don't have that many.

Thanks for all of your opinions. For showers I've been doing $50 which DBF thinks is too much (All of our friends are doing very well financially and he thinks showers were meant for very young couples to help them start off, so he thinks it's just greed now...) And for weddings we do about $200. The two weddings we have coming up in June are the only weddings we have for the foreseeable future so I was thinking $250 for each wedding. He was thinking more like $150. They are both in June so it's kinda a big chunk of change but he's been extremely successful with work so I don't see what the problem is. I guess it opens a whole can of worms b/c he doesn't want ppl to know how much he makes b/c then ppl see you differently and maybe expect you to pay for more things, buy the drinks, buy dinner, etc.

(And keep in mind we live in Chicago so everything costs more and ppl spend more on everything than smaller towns, I didn't want to come off snobby like we spend sooooo much, it's Chicago, we have 11% sales tax, the highest in the nation, so it's like on another level when it comes to money.... )

Just a vent, sorry.

[*SamF*]

Erika- DH and I have very different opinions on spending for gifts. I tend to go around $100, if the person is a friend. DH is very small town minded; he typically would spend under $50.
I'd go with an amount you both can agree on. It will be appreciated no matter the amount, and it's not worth causing stress between you to about.

[AliciaF]

Well, I live in Southern California and the cost of living here is as high or higher than Chicago. Our sales tax isn't that high, but our housing is more, as is everything else.

We spend roughly $20 or so for showers and $40-50 for weddings.

[amandakay29]

I agree with you Erika. Especially if those are the only 2 that you know of. I just realized the last wedding I went to was my own 2 years ago in August.

Amanda- I'm hoping to have a wedding someday! And it will probably be the last wedding I go to bc it will take so long for him to cave in! Just think in less than two years of marriage you have made two babies! Wooohoooo

[mary30]

We live in Iowa ( if that really matters ) I noramlly spend around 20-25 for a shower and for a wedding around 50. Now if it is a ver yclose family member I would spend a little more..

[..Jessica..]

For baby showers, I usually give something on the registry or clothes and it all usually costs me about $50. Wedding showers are different, I don't go unless they are family or CLOSE friends. I've only been to 2 showers, one was my cousin who I spent $100 on her gift, and the other was a close friend, spent about $100 on her's too. Any of the weddings I've gone to, same thing..close friends or family. I usually give $100 in a card for that. Because that's usually how much the plate is costing that I'm eating. All those courses and wine too!

What you have decided sounds good to me, I can see why Zack won't agree to the $250 for the weddings, since they are both in June. If you both put money aside now, it wouldn't be as hard hitting for then, you know?

[Kary♥RN]

For me depends... For baby showers... It is usually more.. I start shoping when I am told they are expecting... So when I go to wrap the gifts.. about 75-100. That is for close friends and family. If it is not so close.. I get a gift when the invite comes in.. $25-$35. (Most of the time I do diaper cake). As for weddings... Shower $50-75. Avg.. (unless I am in the wedding.. than I have never got out under 300-400 for shower and gift). As for the Wedding usually 75-100. Depending on close friend or not... (close friend refer to shower.....)

[Elijah'sMommy]

For baby showers I usualy do $20-$30 and for bridal showers $50. For weddings we give $200 (unless they gave more or less for our wedding). I know that sounds bad but we're not in the best of financial situations (hopefully getting a house soon) but I want to make sure things are fair.