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April 27th, 2009, 12:23 PM
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I woke up in absolute hysterics. All I could think about was that they'd just taken my baby out of me. I almost dared my doctor or anyone there to call it a 'fetus' or an 'embryo'. I wanted a fight. I wanted to rip someone to shreds. But thank God they were all very kind and very considerate of my feelings. I have a bear that I bought to tell my husband we were expecting. It said 'baby's first teddy' on the foot. That bear hasn't left my side since I found out we lost our baby. I even took it into surgery with me. The doctors were so kind, they even let it into the operating room with me and they made sure it was in my arms when i woke up. I'm hurting but honestly I'm doing a little better now knowing that we can move on and try again. I don't want to wait. I just want to get over this and try for a new little one. Thank you so much for everything you ladies have done for me. You have been the biggest blessing for me so far. Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
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April 27th, 2009, 12:31 PM
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Oh my gosh, I am in tears right now. When I read posts like this I can actually feel the pain I felt when I woke up from my d&c surgery. I am so, so, so unbelievably sorry. I hope you heal up quickly and are able to get that sticky bfp soon.
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April 27th, 2009, 12:39 PM
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April 27th, 2009, 12:49 PM
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Again, I'm so sorry. I've nevr had to have a d&c, but can imagine what it is like waking up like that.
I'm happy you are feeling better, and when you are ready to ttc whether it is now or later, this is a great place to be.
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April 27th, 2009, 12:57 PM
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I'm sooo sorry again. I hope you heal quickly and get your BFP soon. We are here if you need anything.
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April 27th, 2009, 02:05 PM
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wow... you just brought me back to 2 weeks ago. I felt the same thing. They were smart and kept me nice and drugged up that lasted the rest of the day. I have tears in my eyes for you.

I know you won't believe me right now but it does get easier. It is a HUGE roller coaster ride. One minute you are sad and crying and can't breathe and feel like the whole world is crashing on you then you feel a glimmer of a feeling that you remember before this nightmare - happiness. Then back to being sad and crying all over again. At 2 weeks out I am riding that rollercoaster just hoping to get off soon.

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We are here for you. Vent away, we have all been where you are.

I am soooooooooo sorry for your loss and the horrible pain you are feeling.
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April 27th, 2009, 07:19 PM
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April 27th, 2009, 07:31 PM
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Oh honey,

I'm so very sorry!!!!!

I hope you know we're here for you no matter what!!!! I know this is hard, but you will get through this!!!!

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April 27th, 2009, 07:50 PM
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I'm so sorry. Good luck when you start trying again.
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April 27th, 2009, 07:56 PM
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I know that feeling of waking up and knowing how empty you feel. Nothing can take that pain away except time. I had my d&c almost 4wks ago and still remember vividly the first thought that entered my mind after surgery, my baby was gone and I was no longer pregnant. I know I cant give you back that security, no one can, but we are here for you and know your thoughts and pain like no other.

Im so sorry for you hun, and wish you a quick recovery so you can start to TTC again.
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April 28th, 2009, 06:55 AM
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I'm glad the dr's were kind. sometimes they can be very mechanical!!! I'm very sorry you have lost your baby. I know how you feel. I've lost two in the last year. It's devastating!! HUGS to you hun!!!
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April 28th, 2009, 11:41 AM
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I am so sorry you have to go through this. We all know your pain, and when I read your post.. I too had tears. I wish you didn't have to feel this way. I wish none of us were here, reading this, feeling the way we do. HUGS, HUGS, HUGS.... I wish I could make all the pain on this board go away.
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April 29th, 2009, 03:31 AM
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I am so so sorry for your loss... its horrible I know.. I did the same thing, I had gone out and bought a "first bear" and when I came home from the hospital I just lay in bed with it and cried... now he sits on the crib we bought waitng for a new little person to arrive... hopefully one of these days soon!!!
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April 29th, 2009, 08:21 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. When I woke up from my d&c I started screaming/crying hysterically the nurse kept asking me what hurt and I told her I just could believe how I went to sleep pregnant and woke up not pregnant. It is a weird feeling. I hope things slowly get better for you and you can conceive again quickly
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I was just thinking about you. I'm sooo sorry. And, as we all know, that statement doesn't always say exactly how we feel. I'm glad you were treated well. And, hold on to that little bear. My DS bought a stuffed animal at Disney for the baby. When we returned, I had a m/c. I held onto that animal for weeks. And, so did my son.

I can remember the pain of my loss, what you're going through is devastating! I'm hoping it begins to become tolerable for you. Your little angel is watching over you. I hope you feel better soon. Please vent to all of us...we'll listen and support you the best we can.

Take care of yourself. I'm thinking of you. And, please keep us posted.
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