[Mommy2Addie]

Well I officially lost my baby yesterday, I was around 6 1/2 weeks to 7 weeks. I just have some questions and wondering if you guys could help. So my doctor said we could start trying again in 6 weeks, well I was just wondering, does anyone just start trying again and get preggo and everything is fine? Im so scared this will happen again.
I lost the baby in the doc's office, so they are sending the "tissue"(as they called it), to the pathology lab, does anyone know what we will find out from that? I have to wait a whole week and its driving me crazy. And then finally, and this may seem silly, but am I having my period or is this just the lost of my baby?
Thanks so much for you help!

I am so sorry for your loss.

Your dr. saying you could try again in six weeks means they want you to heal up physically and emotionally and hopefully you'll probably get your period within the next six weeks.

What you are having right now is still from losing the baby I would guess. I didn't have a natural m/c but I bled for about a week after I lost the baby.

And the tissue would be tested for chromosomal abnormalities I believe. The other ladies will be more of a help than me.

I hope you get some answers soon and again I am so sorry.

[rebeccabaltimore and more]

My sister in law lost a baby in November, got pregnant again right away, and she's now well into her second trimester (maybe her third, I can't add) and she's doing great.

[twoboys]

Firstly, I am so very sorry for your loss (((((( hugs ))))))did you have a d7c? The bleeding could be from that, if not the bleeding could be from the loss of the baby. There are women on here who have gotten pregnant right after a m/c, I would say wait just one cycle and then try again.. only you can decide when the time is right. When I went in for pathology results, they were very vague, just told me it was nothing but nature... It is so heartbreaking.. I am sorry you have to go through all of this.. but there are a bunch of great gals on here who can help out with all your questions, or if you just need to vent!!

[*SamF*]

First I'm so sorry for your loss. As far as the bleeding you are having now it depends on how your body handles it, it is definitely from the m/c, but also your body may process it as your period especially since you are so early.
The pathology can just tell you if there was anything wrong or if it was just nature. Hopefully it can alleviate some fears.
There have been several ladies here that got pregnant the cycle after a m/c, and are doing great! They always say you are most fertile after a loss.
I’m glad you joined us, this is a great group of ladies. I’m sure you will find a lot of support here.

[lmunoz8517]

I am so sorry for your loss. a little bleeding is normal. I had a d&c though so I am not real sure about natural m/c. As for getting pregnant after, I m/c in February and just got pregnant again.

[amandakay29]

I'm sorry for your loss. And I can't add anything more to what the other ladies have said. Good luck!

[Mommy2Addie]

Thanks so much Ladies! I did not have a D&C, the baby and the sac just came out at my appointment yesterday. It was devastating. The bleeding is starting to lighten up, but I still have cramps and just achy. Thanks so much, I am glad to meet all of you!

[tobynscarlett]

I am so sorry, I know you must be feeling the entire range of emotions right now, the next few weeks are going to be very hard. I just want you to know that you WILL get through this- we all have. You are going to be a different person in the end, but different is not always bad. It can be a difficult road to travel though.

One thing I would like to tell you is that there is a possibility that you will not find out any news from the pathology testing. When I lost my little boy (at 17 weeks) the pathologist could find nothing "wrong". Now, obviously SOMETHING wasn't right, but the testing was not able to show any problems. Just don't put too much stock in the testing and don't fully expect to know exactly what happened. It is not always possible for us to know what the problem is. It would be great if we all knew exactly what went wrong so that we could prevent it from ever happening again.

As far as waiting to TTC- there are lots of women who go on to have perfect pregnancies after a loss (and I truly hope that you are one of them). I have never seen any physical reason to wait, most of the time the recommendation to wait to TTC is due to emotional reasons. I can tell you this- I got pregnant 3 months after losing my son, currently I am 10 weeks, and it is terrifying. I am truly not trying to scare you, I want you to know the truth. Even though I had 2 perfect pregnancies before I lost Zachary, I constantly worry about this one. I now understand why they tell you to wait for emotional reasons. I filled a void in my heart with TTC. That helped me focus on something else while I was grieving for my son. Then when I was successful at TTC I realized that I was not as stable emotionally as I thought I was.
So, my advice to you is- take your time, let your cycles regulate and take it from there. You are going to go through some very difficult times in the near future, this is a great place to find support. Cry when you feel like crying- but more importantly, LAUGH when you feel like laughing. It does wonders for your soul. You may have to give yourself permission to enjoy life but when the opportunity presents itself be sure to take it. Also be sure to talk about your baby anytime you feel like it. Some people may feel uncomfortable about it, so try to find that one person who has been there and talk to her. She will understand. Otherwise, we are always here for you. Welcome to the board.

[Kary♥RN]

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. I have also never found a "physical" reason to wait with an early loss. They say to wait on one cycle to date the pregnancy if you should get pregnant right away. We waited one cycle to start ttc only because my dh had back surery and had to wait. We are now on cycle two after our m/c. I had a d/e.. they did send the tissue for testing.. it came back as trisomny 22. This is the most common first trimester reason for m/c. I had a heartbeat one week, and it was gone the next. I also found out I would have had a little girl. When I found out they would know the sex also.. I had to really question if I wanted to know that. After my d/e it also took my 35 days for AF to show up. All these little things no one tells you about..... I found out so much frm these amazing women on this board. Ask any thing you want here. We are here for you! **HUGS**

[HippyMomOf4]

I'm so sorry for your loss, with my last loss i was almost 9 weeks and i had a D&C and they sent the baby to pathology and they were able to tell if there was any genetic problems and also they were able to tell me the sex of the baby. I think that was the hardest thing finding out we lost a baby boy. Again I'm so sorry for your loss

[Trish36]

I am so sorry that you have to go through such hard times. HUGS!!! What you are experiencing right now is bleeding after the m/c, it is not your period. That should show up (hopefully) in 4-6 weeks. If you are one of the lucky ladies, you will O as soon as your hcg levels have gone down to 0 and then get your AF 2 weeks later, so it's really hard to predict when that will be. It all depends how your body deals with the m/c. There is no reason why you can't start ttc again as soon as you stop bleeding even before you get AF. The doctors want you to wait to make sure that you don't get an infection (for at least 2 weeks) and then to make sure you are emotionally ready and also to be able to pinpoint conception date easier. But that is up to you! Good luck ttc!!!! We are here for you.

[..Jessica..]

Welcome to the board...

I'm very sorry for your loss!!!!!

I agree with the other ladies, your doctor probably told you to wait 6 weeks, so you can heal.

I wish you the best of luck when you begin TTC!

[missy123]

Hi. They said it all already. I am so sorry for your pain and loss. If you want to you can join us in the loss room. Pregnancy Loss - JustMommies Message Boards They have helped me a lot over the past 2 weeks and 6 months ago.

(((Hugs)))

[MrsB1227]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had an early loss. The bleeding you are having now is not a real period, I bled for around 5 days and got my period 28 days later. I have heard of women getting pregnant right after a miscarriage and having perfectly healthy pregnancies. best of luck to you and hope you get your bfp and sticky bean very soon!

[mary30]

I am so sorry for you loss. I did have my second loss In September of 05 at around 11 weeks. We were not trying or preventing another pregnancy . To my surprise I took a test at the beginging of October because I still had not had a period. I just thought my cycles were off due to the natural miscarriage. I was so shocked to see two pink lines.. I went on to have a healthy pregnancy and now he is a normal almost 3 year old ..No matter what you are always going to be scared. I think once you experience a miscarriage a pregnancy will not be the same. I went on to get pregnant again in May of 2008 and again lost this baby at 19 weeks 3 days. They did the testing too and again found nothing wrong with the baby. Now again I am pregnant and I am almost 25 weeks and I am still scared to death that something is going to happen..

I wish you the best and again I am sorry for you loss

[Halloween81]

Welcome to the board. I am sorry for your loss.

[megal40]

I am so sad when I see another new member, but I am glad you found us. Like Missy said, the pregnancy loss board is also a great place for support.

I m/c in Feb '06 and conceived my daughter the very next cycle. She is a beautiful, healthy two year old. I unfortunately had another m/c about 40 days ago. My point is that it is absolutely possible to get pg soon after a m/c. Just take care of yourself and let your body heal. I am sure the dr. recommended waiting 6 weeks because that is the average length it will take for af to arrive again. I know it may feel like waiting forever but you will be back to TTC soon.

As you can tell this is a wonderfully supportive place. If you ever need anything or have a question, as silly as it may seem, just ask. You learn very quickly that there are so many women going through this.

Take care!

[..Penelope..]

Welcome to the board, Jenn.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[mum74]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My ob advised me that I would get af 4 weeks after my curette and that we could ttc again after that. (I miscarried at 8.5wks).

I've read a fair bit on the net, and while there are many encouraging stories out there, I've also read a lot of posts from women who had a 2nd early miscarriage after not waiting one cycle and they had written that they wished they'd waited a cycle. I'm not trying to scare you at all - it's just that when I read these stories it made me hold back and make sure I didn't get pregnant before I got my first af post miscarriage (it was still very tempting to try).

As for the bleeding, I assumed it was the loss of the baby/the endometrial lining. Your cycle will begin again and you will ovulate before your next af - so if you don't want to get pregnant before the 6 weeks your doctor advised, just be careful.