[Sandy222]

I miscarried my baby boy at 18 weeks about 3.5 weeks ago. I think I just ovulated based on changes in my cervical mucus. Is that possible so early after the miscarriage? Is it true that we're more fertile right after a miscarriage?

From what I read, every woman returns back to a normal cycle in their own time. I've never tried charting before but I just ordered ovulation strips - I want to get pregnant again so badly! I know a new baby won't take away the pain - my DH thinks I'm just trying to replace the baby we lost.

It took us 4 months to conceive the first time - I know that's not that long but it felt like an eternity!

Without any clear answer as to why I lost the baby, I'm trying hard not to be scared of what may happen the next time around. How do you deal with the fear and anxiety of losing another baby?

[sallyk61]

Hi Sandy,
The fear doesn't ever go about the next pregnancy.
I had to be really careful that I had dealt with the grief and make sure my TTC efforts were not to fill the void left when we lost our little girl.

I know you are supposed to be more fertile after a d & C but Im not sure about the miscarriage part!

I hope you get to you BFP happily and quickly.

Just make sure when you start trying its the right time for you.

Sally

[Trish36]

Sandy, I am so sorry about your loss!! HUGS!!!! It is possible for you to O a few weeks after a m/c, just depends on how quickly our hcg levels go back down to zero. It takes some women a few weeks to get back to a normal cycle and other a few months, so it's really hard to say. I wish you good luck on your ttc journey and hope that it happens quickly for you.

[Sandy222]

I thankfully didn't need a D&C - the delivery was so emotionally difficult it would have been even worse to have had to go through surgery - maybe more so for my DH than I.

Well I'm hoping I'm more fertile than usual - it's just surprising that my body could be back to normal after losing a baby. We've been doing the BDover the past 3 days - but I'm not even sure my CM was a sign of ovulation or just my cycle getting back to normal.

It was suggested to me that I don't try for another baby until after my original due date (mid-Sept). That doesn't feel right to me - and I'm 36 - I don't have all the time in the world to wait.

Originally Posted by Trish36

Sandy, I am so sorry about your loss!! HUGS!!!! It is possible for you to O a few weeks after a m/c, just depends on how quickly our hcg levels go back down to zero.

Can I take a pregnancy test to measure my HCG levels? If the pregnancy test is negative would that mean I likely ovulated? And if postive that I didn't yet ovulate?

[Sue46]

Its been about 4 weeks since your loss? If you take a pregnancy test I would assume it should be negative and that would say you have no HCG in your system, it won't tell you if you ovulated. Have you had a period since your loss?

I'm very sorry you lost your little boy, we lost a little girl at 17 weeks this January. We didn't start trying til after my first period.

[tobynscarlett]

We lost our son at 17 weeks in mid december. We still don't have any definite answers as to why, but I can tell you that I did not wait to TTC. I know I O'ed about 4 weeks after (I delivered my son, but had a d&c due to retained placenta). I got pg again on the 3rd cycle (after my second period) following my loss. I did lots of searching and asked several Dr's WHY they wanted me to wait 3-6 months to TTC, but no one could give me a MEDICAL reason to wait- it all came down to my emotional state. THEY thought it would be better, but THEY are not ME!!! I decided to try again right away. Of course I am afraid that something will go wrong again, but I don't think 6 months of doing nothing is going to change the way I feel when I am pregnant.

Welcome to the board, I hope you find lots of help and support while you are here.

[missy123]

Hi Sandy. I am so sorry for your loss. You are still young, don't pressure yourself because of your age. I am 40 and hoping for 2 more.

[Kary♥RN]

Hi Sandy sorry for your loss...

Ditto to all the above.. Yes you could of O'd.... Good luck of getting your sticky bean!!

[Sandy222]

Originally Posted by tobynscarlett

I did lots of searching and asked several Dr's WHY they wanted me to wait 3-6 months to TTC, but no one could give me a MEDICAL reason to wait- it all came down to my emotional state. THEY thought it would be better, but THEY are not ME!!! I decided to try again right away.

Exactly! There doesn't seem to be a medical reason to put off trying to conceive. If my body is ready and able then why not? Of course everyone is different in dealing with the emotional effects - and what's right for one might not be right for another.

Thanks for sharing everyone. I felt so alone after the loss and while it's somewhat comforting to know this does happen to others it is sad to realize just how many women do experience second trimester losses.

[twoboys]

I am so sorry for your loss.. I think its very normal to want to conceive right away, and I dont believe you are trying to "replace" the lost baby.. I think we all want to conceive again asap.. and I think when your body is ready it will happen... I hope it happens soon for you (((( hugs))))

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't really offer any advice, the other ladies covered it. I'm glad you found us, this is a great group of ladies for support. I hope you get a bfp very soon.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Hun I can tell you that I asked my doctors why I was supposed to wait and she couldn't give me a real reason. I hope that you get your BFP right away. And I did want to tell you that you can Ovulate even 2 weeks after a miscarriage. I am so sorry you have to go through this.

[Ryleeroo]

Just wanted to let you know that I'm sorry for your loss. And yes, anxiety is quite normal! We are going through it!