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HarpersGirl · #1 May 14th, 2009, 11:51 PM

The last time I wrote such a topic title was a week ago, to the Jan DDC. Never thought I would be posting it again, for this reason.

I got a BFP last week, but Sunday (Mothers Day of all days) I started spotting and ended up with heavy bleeding. My tests came out positive still, but the doctors are saying otherwise. It seems as so that we lost this little one, but we arnt stopping here. I refuse to let this get to me! I was looking for a place where there are members that are going through the same thing, I have never looked in here before. But I do want to lurk around, grab some info and such and rejoice with you all when you get your BFP's!

A little about us, I am Donna (24) and engaged to Joe (34). We are raising my son together, Kaleb who just turned 1 May 6th. This was our first pregnancy, his first child, and our first loss. We were going to TTC this month, but got an unexpected BFP first. We plan on TTC asap, but our doctor is saying to wait 3 months. Along with us humans, we have Fate my 4 year old Staffie, Hailey my 6 year old kitten cat and Monster my 3 year old Bearded Dragon. Full house!

I hope to stick around for a little while, but do not be offended when I say I'd like to move on to a DDC soon! I hope we all get to go together.

Ohh and a question, why the 3 month wait? Is it nessesary? I know you tend to be more firtile after a loss, I figured that would be our best shot? Thanks Ladies.

Boble · #2 May 15th, 2009, 02:21 AM

Donna.. hi there and welcome and i am so sorry for your loss *hugs*

the 3 month wait thing is normally a wait for your emotional well being rather then any physical need to. I have had 2 m/c without 6 months of each other. the last one a natural one and the one before that I had to have a d&c for. with the d&c i waited one cycle before we started to ttc again.. and with the natural one we started again straight away. In the end you need to do what is best for you and if you feel you are ready to ttc again then there should be no physical need to wait (unless your doctor is telling you a specific reason for it of course)

good luck and i wish you a speedy bfp

.:Shortcake:. · #3 May 15th, 2009, 03:25 AM

Welcome Donna. I'm sorry you have to be here. The waiting period that doctors give you ranges from you can start right away to 6 months. My doctor told me we could try after 1 cycle but when I asked why she said that way they would have an accurate due date when I got pregnant but there isn't an extra risk of m/c even if you try again right away.

charm · #4 May 15th, 2009, 03:28 AM

Hello Harpersgirl and welcome I am sorry for you loss it is horribe to go through you will feel very welcome here as we have all been through the same things some of us more than once I had a missed M/C in Feb which resulted in having to have a D&C as I was 3 months and the baby had died 4 weeks previously my doctor told me to wait 3 months I asked why lol he said more of a mental thing but we having been trying to ttc straight away there is no good news as of yet but I have only had one decent AF so I hope soon it will be my turn best of ttc and I look forward to getting to know you.

ilovefh · #5 May 15th, 2009, 04:34 AM

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Originally Posted by HarpersGirl

The last time I wrote such a topic title was a week ago, to the Jan DDC. Never thought I would be posting it again, for this reason.

I got a BFP last week, but Sunday (Mothers Day of all days) I started spotting and ended up with heavy bleeding. My tests came out positive still, but the doctors are saying otherwise. It seems as so that we lost this little one, but we arnt stopping here. I refuse to let this get to me! I was looking for a place where there are members that are going through the same thing, I have never looked in here before. But I do want to lurk around, grab some info and such and rejoice with you all when you get your BFP's!

A little about us, I am Donna (24) and engaged to Joe (34). We are raising my son together, Kaleb who just turned 1 May 6th. This was our first pregnancy, his first child, and our first loss. We were going to TTC this month, but got an unexpected BFP first. We plan on TTC asap, but our doctor is saying to wait 3 months. Along with us humans, we have Fate my 4 year old Staffie, Hailey my 6 year old kitten cat and Monster my 3 year old Bearded Dragon. Full house!

I hope to stick around for a little while, but do not be offended when I say I'd like to move on to a DDC soon! I hope we all get to go together.

Ohh and a question, why the 3 month wait? Is it nessesary? I know you tend to be more firtile after a loss, I figured that would be our best shot? Thanks Ladies.

What a weekend huh? That's when I m/c too. No offense taken, I think we all want to move on to a DDC asap! My Dr. told us to wait 3 months as well. Ours I think was for two reasons, emotional and because I am overweight, he is hoping I can lose some weight in three months. I think we might only wait one cycle, but we'll see how long that one takes to show up.
This is also my first loss as well. It's heart wrenching! But the ladies in here have been great so feel free to post anytime, even to vent. They all know what you are going through and are so understanding. I think this has been my savings grace this past week!

sallyk61 · #6 May 15th, 2009, 05:17 AM

Donna,
Im so sorry you are here but it is a wonderful place to be in a horrid time.

About the 3 months, emotional healing plays a huge part but also with anything like this I think it has to do with the thickness and quality of the lining that is left. You need to be sure your lining is thick enough to support a pregnancy.

I waited 1 proper cycle (6weeks before af showed up!) but for me the emotional strain of TTC was like a tiny pressure cooker and I imploded and exploded a few times...

GOod luck and I hope your TTC wait is quick!

~Lynda~ · #7 May 15th, 2009, 05:39 AM

Hun we're not offended, we all want to move on to DDCs too. I'm very sorry for your loss. I have experienced three, with two being in the last year. it's devastating!!! hugs to you!!! i hope you get a sticky bfp soon. and welcome!!!

Trish36 · #8 May 15th, 2009, 06:17 AM

Hi Donna, I'm sorry about your loss HUGS!!!! Good luck ttc and hope you get that BFP quickly!

*SamF* · #9 May 15th, 2009, 07:02 AM

Donna, I'm so sorry!
I hope you get that BFP soon! This board is awesome! It has been a great place of support for me, and why I find it so hard to leave!

tobynscarlett · #10 May 15th, 2009, 07:13 AM

Hi Sweetie, welcome to the board. I think you will find that this is a wonderful place to find support from other women who have been there. Another great place is our 'sister board' the pregnancy loss forum. If you scroll down the list of forums you will see it under the grief and loss section. Many of these ladies are active in that board too.

Please feel free to jump right in and start posting away- we can't wait to get to know you better. As for moving on to a DDC, that is a goal all of us share. Just know that we don't expect you to abandon us when you get that BFP!!! We love to have our graduates stick around as long as they are comfortable

Once again, welcome to the board!!!

Heather
Co-host