annoyed at myself!

FruitLoopLace · #1 May 21st, 2009, 10:37 PM

I am so touchy about being pregnant, getting pregnant, and it is like self torcher! I try to ask questions in other boards, and it just seems so harsh sometimes, and when I see someone else pregant that doesnt want to be, I am angery! I shouldnt be!! I am terrible! I think I need to stay away!! I am not likeing myself more and more...

mum74 · #2 May 21st, 2009, 11:28 PM

I think it's just natural to go through the feelings of anger (I know I did) but if some boards in particular make you feel angry or sad, may be give them a rest for a while?

Boble · #3 May 22nd, 2009, 02:04 AM

sorry to hear you are going through a bad time. It is normal to be angry at times and I agree with Lenore... maybe you need a bit of a break from the boards that are particularly hard for you to be around *hugs*

.:Shortcake:. · #4 May 22nd, 2009, 04:11 AM

Huge hugs hun. Like the other ladies said if some of the boards hurt bad just try not to go to them for a little while.

klt · #5 May 22nd, 2009, 05:59 AM

I agree with everyone. Stay away from the boards that hurt too much. It's not good for you. Being angry is normal. It WILL get better. Many of us agree, it doesn't hurt less, but you start to get used to it and accept it. Let us be there for you and take care of yourself. You're in my thoughts!

missy123 · #6 May 22nd, 2009, 06:32 AM

Being angry at everything is part of the grieving process. I too have felt times of anger. And it still hurts a little when I see a pregnant woman. Not nearly as much as it did a few weeks ago. I promise, it DOES get easier (although it is hard for you to believe that now).

For some reason it doesn't bother me at all when girls in here say they are pregnant or announce a BFP. I feel true happiness for them. Maybe it is because I know they have gone through the same stages of loss that I have.

tobynscarlett · #7 May 22nd, 2009, 10:08 AM

I agree with the other girls, taking a break from the boards that cause you pain is a good idea. If you are looking for some extra support on JM try the pregnancy loss boards (if you haven't already). Those ladies are wonderful and you can ask tons of questions there too!!! Until your emotions even out try not to go to the places that might upset you

..Jessica.. · #8 May 22nd, 2009, 10:09 AM

I'm sorry girl!!!

I agree with the other ladies, stay away from the boards that will bother you. With the new layout here on JM, you can hide all of the boards you don't want to see. I have a lot of the boards hidden, to be honest. It still bothers me to see it!

KDD · #9 May 22nd, 2009, 02:16 PM

Some of the boards still bother me too. It does get easier with time. Right after my loss I couldn't even look at a pregnancy ticker. Take a break if you feel that's best for you.

FruitLoopLace · #10 May 22nd, 2009, 04:37 PM

thanks ladies,i am better today, i think, until i am ready to ttc i will stay away from certain places, what would i do without all of u?

Trish36 · #11 May 22nd, 2009, 05:56 PM

oh hun..... it's only been a couple of weeks since your loss..it's totally understandable. I still get angry, so I don't blame you one bit. I think it's a good idea for you to stay away from certain places, just so you don't torture yourself.

szczepanski · #12 May 22nd, 2009, 06:42 PM

I still probably have 3/4 of JM's collapsed. You can do that on the far right hand side, on each group of forums you can click the arrow and make them hidden. I still have due date clubs, pregnancy, etc. collapsed. I do check in on my old DDC to see how the ladies are doing but I don't post. Its too painful to post, but its nice to see they are all doing so well.