[twoboys]

OK, so I have to share this.. I was talking with my friend today about ttc a specific gender.. just casual, I just want healthy baby, be it a boy or a girl, I will love it all the same!! we were talking about the extreme of "boy/ girl" diets, etc. She told me about a website called www.ingender.com. DONT go to this website unless you are prepared to be shocked. I am completely disgusted with the way these women are talking.. It is horrible.. I understand wanting a boy or a girl, or having a preferance.. but this website is exteme.. I couldnt read any more.. Am I the only one who thinks this is horrible???

[Kary♥RN]

I agree.... I would a baby girl.... but I would NEVER act like that... But than again we know what it is to loose that dream of just having a baby. I did see one woman has had a loss. and is expecting her 6th... But I just want to have that baby at the end of nine months healthy and happy!!!

[twoboys]

I know.. and I am sure they have their reasons, I just feel sorry for those poor babies who have mommies that cant stand to "enjoy" them, because they are boys or girls.. just seems crazy to me!

[tobynscarlett]

That is really disappointing- I would give anything to have my baby back- boy or girl!!!

[szczepanski]

.....wow. Just...wow. That's all I can say. Why would someone even care that much?! DH and I don't care at all...boy or girl....we just want to start our own little family!

[~~~Sara~~~]

I didn't go to the site, but I am disgusted by anyone that cares that much. If you want a certain gender that bad, pay the price, otherwise shut it, and be happy you are pregnant and carrying a healthy babe!

[Boble]

OMG that is terrible. A friend of mine is having her third boy, last baby she is having.. and she was slightly disappointed by it but she got over it quickly (or at least i think she did... although she doesn't have a name picked yet at over 30 weeks.. and they had a girls name picked from 4wks.. makes me wonder?)

I just don't understand these people.. a friend of mine who has had one m/c and one eptopic preg (plus a failed round of ivf) has said she wants a baby... whether it be "boy, girl or monkey" - i will be happy, so long as my bubs are healthy !

[~my2beauties~]

ugh, they actually have a section and forum on gender disappointment. how disgusting.

Some people out there are just so naive and can't appreciate just having a healthy baby. I can almost guarantee that most of these people who care so much have never had a loss. Just a thought.

[HarpersGirl]

I was going to say the same thing, must be nice to be so picky when there are many women out there who would love to have another baby in thier arms, or their first and could care less what the gender is, as long as he/she is a healthy baby!!

Me and DF want a girl soo soo badly, but Ill take a mitt full of boys if given the chance! I do understand the want for a certain gender, when you have 3,4, -5 of the other. But just let God or whoever you look up to handle it, you are given which ever you are ment to have.

[szczepanski]

Originally Posted by Boble

OMG that is terrible. A friend of mine is having her third boy, last baby she is having.. and she was slightly disappointed by it but she got over it quickly (or at least i think she did... although she doesn't have a name picked yet at over 30 weeks.. and they had a girls name picked from 4wks.. makes me wonder?)

I just don't understand these people.. a friend of mine who has had one m/c and one eptopic preg (plus a failed round of ivf) has said she wants a baby... whether it be "boy, girl or monkey" - i will be happy, so long as my bubs are healthy !

I can think of literally dozens of girl names. I can't come up with more than 3 boys names that I like...but that doesn't mean I want a girl more. I just can't come up with a "good" boys name - and neither can DH!

[~Angela~]

I have to admit after my 2 boys I wanted a girl, after losing my last pg. I see things totally (180) differently. A baby is such a blessing, who cares...I think unless something happens to you to make you see how fragile life is and what a blessing a baby is, then you almost feel 'invincible'.

[jen805]

OMG, that's truly sad! I didn't even look... I don't need to, Ive seen similar. I have to admit that with my last m/c I wanted a girl so bad, as I already have 2 boys... and I remember feeling so guilty when I m/c'd... thinking that God was taking my baby because I wasn't grateful enough to just be pg.... Now, while I would still love a girl, I'd be just as happy to have a healthy baby boy!

[Trish36]

As much as I would like to have another boy, the only gender swaying I will do is trying to time BD'ing close to O'ing. I will be thrilled just to be pg again. When I got pg with Isabelle I was hoping for a boy and when we found out it was a girl I have to admit I was a bit disappointed, but that didn't last long. I would not change anything in the world - she is my little princess and I love her to pieces!

[AngelBabies]

I clicked on the link and as it came up I had this sickness rush over me. I know its all choice and I know everyone is entitled to their personal choices in life........ but I couldnt even read through the site. I have 2 boys and I so desperately wanted a girl. I was told my youngest son was a girl. Then I have the twins and if I could have said "its alright, make them both boys if thats what they need to be to survive" then I would have done it in a heart beat.

[mum74]

My dh was keen for a girl (we have two gorgeous boys) and I did look on that site but I couldn't go to the extremes of douching or the supplements etc that can supposedly sway the gender but have side effects. I felt it was too risky and we would rather follow the adage 'what will be, will be'.

I can tell you I am so glad I decided that because when I did miscarry, I didn't carry around guilt which I might have done if I'd decided to go an 'extreme' route to conceive a specific gender. Also when we decided we didn't care what our 3rd baby was - I felt great - we could just enjoy the ttc journey! It must be an awful lot of pressure to try to get all your 'ducks in a row' to try to get it right.

I also saw the gender disappoint forum. At first I was surprised to see it there but I do think I 'get it' (just offering another perspective). When a woman wants a certain gender Soooo badly, and does ALL the swaying methods on offer and it doesn't work out...well I guess it's about getting past all that and just realising that no matter what, they love their baby. I didn't understand this a year or so ago but when dh wanted a girl and I started looking into it (because I would love to see the look on his face to be told 'it's a girl!'), I guess I saw the other side too.

But at the end of the day I agree with you all, all WE want is a healthy baby - boy or girl I will take it thank you!!!

[photogmama]

I have a friend whose husband desperately wanted a boy, they already had 2 girls together and each had a boy from previous relationships...when she got pregnant the last time they did every "trick" they could come across to try and get their boy. When they found out at 16 weeks (or so) that she was carrying another girl, her husband didn't speak to her for almost 3 MONTHS because he was so mad that the "tricks" didn't work. What a jerk, I can't even bring myself to be in the same room as him since he pulled that with her. Their beautiful daughter is now 3 yr old and he really has hardly anything to do with her. Can you imagine?

Laura

[rebeccabaltimore and more]

I have no problem with women who want one gender or another. If they have the income to do PGD, whatever. A little gender disappointment is to be expected. But extreme gender disappointment is just ridiculous. Some of them actually BLAME their children. That's not healthy AT ALL.

It was just so tempting to post on their forums that after a stillbirth, I'd just be happy with a LIVING baby.