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photogmama · #1 May 26th, 2009, 12:37 PM

Hi, I'm Laura and have been lurking here for a while. I finally decided to join in and say hello! We suffered a miscarriage on Feb 1, 2009 at 11 weeks. I miscarried naturally over the next 10 days. Started bleeding again a week later (for a week) then it stopped and I had my first post miscarriage period the end of March (although I showed no signs of it being a fertile cycle), so I thought things were back to normal, but NOPE, I bled on and off the entire month of April (never going more than 4 days without bleeding...not just spotting, but bleeding requiring a pad/tampon), after not bleeding for 9 days towards the end of April, I got a period May 6th and it FINALLY seems to be a normal cycle, with me showing all my normal fertility signs. I don't know if we caught an eggie this month, but I feel so much better knowing that things finally seem to have settled back down! Part of me would prefer not to be pregnant this cycle, since my duedate would be so close to my miscarriage date, is it weird to feel that way? Anyhow, looking forward to getting to know everyone better.

Laura

mlyster · #2 May 26th, 2009, 12:43 PM

Welcome Laura. No that is not a weird feeling (not wanting a due date close to the miscarriage date). We don't like having to welcome new people here because it means others have suffered the same pain we have. But I am glad you decided to join. The ladies here are fantastic and you will find great comfort in talking to people who have or are going through exactly what you are!

Welcome - I hope you get your BFP soon!

KDD · #3 May 26th, 2009, 12:52 PM

Welcome Laura. I'm very sorry for your loss.

farasha · #4 May 26th, 2009, 01:27 PM

Welcome! I'm so sorry for your loss, but you are very welcome to be with us here. What you are feeling is not weird at all. In fact... I'm not sure there's really anything that any of us feel that is weird! After being this this kind of trauma, I think a lot of these feelings are completely normal. That said, I am so happy your body is back to normal and I really hope you get your BFP soon. I hope you'll join in with us!

Kary♥RN · #5 May 26th, 2009, 02:38 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to board. Ditto to Michelle.. not wierd at all. I don't think I would want my due date close to my m/c date. I had the deliema when we TTC again. But it didn't happen that month so no worries thier. I hope you get your bfp soon!! Good Luck and KUP!

tobynscarlett · #6 May 26th, 2009, 03:30 PM

Welcome to the board!!! I have come to realize that any feelings you have about TTCAL are not weird, someone has shared those same thoughts. Please stick around and feel free to jump in and start posting. We can't wait to get to know you better!!!

Heather

Loving6 · #7 May 26th, 2009, 04:43 PM

Welcome and sorry for your loss

photogmama · #8 May 26th, 2009, 05:58 PM

Thanks for the warm welcome. I really thought I was coping OK but I have no one IRL to talk to about all of these and my feelings just seem to get more and more jumbled up. I was so happy to stumble onto this board a few weeks ago and after reading for a while realized that I really needed a community for support. Thanks again for being so welcoming.

Laura

Trish36 · #9 May 26th, 2009, 06:08 PM

Hi Laura, so sorry to hear about your loss and about all the bleeding you had to deal with. Hopefully this cycle wil be back to normal for you. I know what you mean....I also was so glad to have found this place and to be able to talk about my feelings and ask questions that so many people just don't understand if they haven't gone through a loss. It has helped me tremendously...hopefully we can be of help to you too!

HUGS and good luck ttc!

Boble · #10 May 26th, 2009, 06:55 PM

hi Laura and welcome to the board. Im sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you get a speedy bfp and your next pregnancy is an uneventful one

starrsgirl · #11 May 26th, 2009, 09:20 PM

Just wanted to echo all the welcomes. This board has helped me a lot...i honestly think I might have been in the loony bin without having some wonderful women to chat to about things they understand too. I love this board. Welcome, welcome, welcome!

charm · #12 May 27th, 2009, 03:43 AM

Hello Laura and welcome I am sorry about your loss it sounds like you have had a very rough few months I am glad things are settling down for you and It isn't weird to feel that way about dates you do what feels right for you and makes you feel comfortable I hope you find great support from all the girls I know I have and I don't know what I would do without them.

.:Shortcake:. · #13 May 27th, 2009, 04:00 AM

Welcome hun. I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray your TTC journey is short. And thats great that your cycles are back to normal.

~~~Sara~~~ · #14 May 27th, 2009, 12:55 PM

I am sorry for your loss, but if you have to have gone through it, i am glad we have each other for this journey. After 2 losses, I am hoping for a healthy, sticky bean next time around, but we are waiting to TTC until after my cycle returns after the most recent MC.

Oh and I'm Sara

missy123 · #15 May 27th, 2009, 01:02 PM

Hi Laura, I am so glad you found us. There is nothing that is weird about TTCAL, we have been through so much already. I am sorry for your loss. This is such a great group of girls and a fantastic place for support.

Everytime I post something that I think is crazy, it seems that others have felt the same way. Just being able to vent has helped me greatly.

jen805 · #16 May 27th, 2009, 06:03 PM

Laura--

I'm so sorry for the loss that brings you here, but happy to share your TTC journey and make a new friend! Please feel free to share anything... vent, cry, scream... it's all ok, and we've all walked the very same path, so you're among friends that understand!