[Alpha_allie1010]

So DH and a bunch of our friends went out Friday for drink and dinner with friends. Since AF was here I can have a few drinks and I could use a night with friends. So we were all out having a wonderful time when two of my DH friends announced that both of the gf were pg...expecting dd are 1 week apart......They havent even been dating these girls very long. One three months and one four.

I was so bitter. I have had sooo many friends become pg lately that i can hardly stand it. So since I had already have two glasses of wine (and I dont drink much) I just lost it.

I had to leave and I sat in the car in the parking lot in the car and cried... DH now thinks that maybe we should put off ttc because maybe i am too stressed out and maybe I am not over losing our first baby yet

The last thing I want to do is to put off TTC. Why cant he understand that the tears are because I want a baby soooo bad!

[dragonfly2006]

I know how you feel... i am the same way, actualy there was a girl on another board that has been ttc for 3 months and is preggers why is it so easy for some??

[taralyn]

I'm so sorry hun. I have an idea of what you are going through and it def sucks. I have a friend from highschool who told me she was preg a couple of weeks after my loss (I didn't tell her what was going on, just coincedence) and we would have been due around the same time. My DH acts likes yours sometimes when I'm crying or stressed about it. Maybe you just need to talk to him and let him know you are def ready to TTC, but the pain of losing your first is always going to be there. I had a week last month where I was just crying every day and my DH didn't understand why. I finally told him that it's something I still think about every day, everytime I see a baby (and a work at a pediatric clinic, so that's quite often ) or find out someone is pregnant, it's always on my mind. I know it's hard...good luck!

[Alpha_allie1010]

Thanks for all your support....I have been pretty good about here that people are getting pg...I love it when girls here get there bfp!!! And we have other friends who are in a good place to have a baby and have been trying and I get so excited for them cuz I know they want it as much as I do! But when people who arent even in a real relationship get PG with a woops we were drunk the other night babie!!! UGH!! It takes me months and a loss and it took then one night!

[Sue46]

I know what you mean. I've had complete break downs before. It is soo stressful especially once you've already lost one.

I know with DH, I had to be REALLY honest with my feelings because he truly had no idea I was still upset over losing our first baby. I was really good at hiding it until it just kinda blew up in our faces.

[klt]

I'm so sorry you had a rough night. It really does seem like when you're dealing with a loss or TTC, everyone around you is PG, has a baby, etc... and it makes the hurt worse. But, I think that's normal for all of us. It's part of grieving. But, it doesn't mean that you aren't ready to TTC. Maybe DH is nervous seeing how much you're hurting and thinks that somehow waiting is a solution? Anyway, your time is coming. You'll get that BFP and that baby. Hang in there and don't feel bad about your feelings. Sometimes a breakdown is exactly what we need KUP! Thinking of you.

I feel the same way!!! the person that I dated for a few years before meeting my great and wonderful DH. Had his first baby this week. I saw the photos on facebook and I had a total meltdown. I wasn't upset that he had a baby or that we weren't together anymore. I'm so much better off with my DH the ex was not a nice person. I was upset because he had the life I wanted, I should have already had a baby. They were only trying for 2 months when they got pregnant. It was easy for them, I thought it was so unfair.

Looking back now a couple of days later, I only wish them the best and it will happen to us hopefully in time.

[Trish36]

[jen805]

I'm sorry!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Hugs hun. I know exactly how you feel.

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS... I know how you feel. This comming month will be very hard for me. I have two baby showers. Both are were I should be... One is due in July (my chemical pregnancy) and One (my sil) due in Aug (I should have been two weeks later in Sept). Every time I turn around someone is expecting. It is so hard. HUGS

[Alpha_allie1010]

Thank you all so much for all of your support! Sometimes I feel like you guys are the only people that REALLY understand.....

[Boble]

hugs hun... i know exactly how you feel. I am ok with people being pregnant if I can reason that they "deserve it" - like one of my friends was ttc for 12 months and got nowhere, took a 10 month and then fell preg 2nd month ttc again.. i could say she deserved it, she had done her time ttc and getting nowhere, so I was happy for her another friend was ttc for 12 months and fell preg so I was happy for her... but then a girl i used to work with fell preg and it was an "accident" (although I feel she did it on purpose but didn't tell her man, i think she is trying to trap him) and she was *****ing and complaining about the pregnancy and about getting "fat" because of having a baby belly and to top it off she is due 3 days before I was due with my last one - i can't stand seeing her or hearing about how she is going because I can't come to allow myself to believe she deserves it .... terrible, i know, but i can't help it.

I hope you feel better about it all soon xxx

[Alpha_allie1010]

Originally Posted by Boble

hugs hun... i know exactly how you feel. I am ok with people being pregnant if I can reason that they "deserve it" - like one of my friends was ttc for 12 months and got nowhere, took a 10 month and then fell preg 2nd month ttc again.. i could say she deserved it, she had done her time ttc and getting nowhere, so I was happy for her another friend was ttc for 12 months and fell preg so I was happy for her... but then a girl i used to work with fell preg and it was an "accident" (although I feel she did it on purpose but didn't tell her man, i think she is trying to trap him) and she was *****ing and complaining about the pregnancy and about getting "fat" because of having a baby belly and to top it off she is due 3 days before I was due with my last one - i can't stand seeing her or hearing about how she is going because I can't come to allow myself to believe she deserves it .... terrible, i know, but i can't help it.

I hope you feel better about it all soon xxx

I am soooo glad that i am not the only one that has those thoughts!

[Momeejenjen]

Aww hun I know how you feel! gosh I just wish I could give us all magic baby beans that grow strong and healthy!

[KDD]

I still have problems when some people announce their pregnancies. Especially when: - they're in a new "relationship" - it happened "by accident" - or they get their BFP the first cycle that they try. It's really not fair that some get what we want without having to "try". And it's not fair either that some of us have to go through so much heartache either.

Big, big to you.

Allie I know EXACTLY how you feel. I swear all of my friends and friends of friends are pg or just had a baby. And of course it's always the first month they tried or they weren't trying, whoops. Oh gag me. I'm happy for these ppl but so so bitter for myself. One time last year after a couple friends announced their pg, I took it really hard and cried and cried and DBF actually pulled out a condom then next time we were dtd...um hello, a condom is not going to get me pg idiot. He thought I wasn't ready. Sometimes I want to smack them.