[charlierays]

So I would have been due 2 weeks after my SIL in November. She has expressed that she feels very bad about our m/c but she just goes on complaining about her pregnancy anyway...just what i want to hear. She couldn't understand how i feel because she's never been through it...and i get that, but please, shut up already! I hate being around her...

I always told her that whenever she has a baby I would lend her all the stuff we had for DS...clothes, boppy pillows, bouncy seats, infant carrier, play mats...etc...no sense in buying as we have a ton of stuff that we don't need/use anymore. I started to give her some things already because I'm cleaning out the attic...i feel like throwing it at her! ya know what i mean? I should be keeping it and using it for my baby, darnit! I know its not her fault...but Ooooh i'm so mad!

thanks for letting me get that out...i just don't know where to direct my anger anymore...and i don't like feeling this way **sigh** its just not me and i wonder when i am going to get back to being myself again...

[.:Shortcake:.]

Huge hugs hun! I am sorry it is always hard seeing people like that. I am going through the same thing.

[Trish36]

It's totally understandable that you ar angry and sad. You've been through so much already on your road to ttc. But look on the bright side, you have a wonderful son and it will happen again for you!

[..Jessica..]

I'm sorry girl! I know it's not easy, but you are being the bigger person and not throwing a fit! Because you aren't! She should respect what you've been through and show a little compassion!

[~Lynda~]

hugs!!!! i've been there too. it's hard, but you just smile and nod!!!! sorry it has to be that way!!! HUGS again

[..Penelope..]

[Boble]

sorry to hear that you are having a rough time... im in a similar situation where a friend of mine is preg and due 4wks before when I was... she is pretty good but every now and then she says things that just really get to me. I think the biggest one was when she emailed me and told me that a work friend of hers was preg and how exciting it was... I emailed her back and said that I find it hard enough dealing with all the people that i directly know being preg and having newborns without having to hear about random people that I don't know. She was apoligetic.. but i shouldn't have had to say anything.. some people just lack common sense and you are right.. they just don't get it when they haven't experienced it themselves.

I hope you feel better lovely *hugs*

[sallyk61]

Maybe speak to her. My best friend is due 4 days after my ed with Lilly and I was so concerned I was shutting her out. She said to me that I needed to really think about this, I am only 1 person she cant talk to about her pg, everybody else she knows she can and it would be cruel of her to put that on me.
That is why she is my bf...
I told my sister what she said during a conversation to outline why she shouldnt talk all the time about it to me.. When you think of it like that, you are probably the only 'one' person she cant, it should make her feel pretty heartless....

It will also mean when you are having a good day and YOU ask her questions, you geninuinely (gosh tooooo early cant even remember how to spell that word....) want to know...

I dont know if she is someone you can talk to like that but otherwise you will end up shutting her out to protect yourself, and your sanity needs to come first!!!