[AngelWingz]

Hi everyone, I am new here. I never thought I would be searching for a site like this, but here I am. I had a miscarriage on Tuesday June 2. I have been having a really hard time dealing with it...especially since it seems everywhere I go, there are pregnant people and it seems a lot of my friends are finding out they are pregnant, all in the same week that I lost mine. I already have a beautiful little girl, and am very thankful for her. However, my question is, when can we start trying again for another? Do I have to wait a certain number of cycles? I have heard of people getting pregnant right after their first cycle after a miscarriage, but I have heard this can cause problems with the pregnancy. I have also heard that some people have to wait 6 months or longer.

Thanks.

[starrsgirl]

First, welcome to the board...even under these sad circumstances.

I think the standard reply is a 3 month/cycle wait. There are a lot of variables though. Some depends on how far along you are...the earlier along you are, it seems like it's not as hard on your body to try again right away. It seems like doctors vary a lot on what they recommend. My doctor recommended waiting one complete cycle after my loss at 10.5 weeks. I ended up waiting a lot longer though because emotionally I wasn't ready.

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this...you have found a really great board to join. Everyone here knows what you are feeling. We are here to listen.

[taralyn]

I"m sorry for your loss, and although this isn't somewhere anyone really wants to be, the girls here are absolutly wonderful!

My doctor recommended us waiting one cycle after my loss at 8 weeks...but like Liz said it varies quite a bit. I would talk to you doctor and see what they say...

[ldovey83]

Hi and welcome.. Sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my angel bean last wk.. MY dr gave me the all clear to try to concieve again when I was emotionally ready.. I lost my bean at 6 wks.. SO I wasn't far at all.. Best of luck to you hun..

I'm sorry that you are going through this. Everyone here is awesome, so much support. I would wait 2 cycles at least to give your body and mind a rest. That way next time you TTC you are at your best, body mind and soul.

[AngelWingz]

Thanks for replying everyone. I went in for my 12 week ultra sound only to find out that our baby died at 6 weeks. I didn't have any bleeding or cramps up until the ultra sound day. Either it was a coinsidence or not, I started having brown spotting that night. The next day was bright red bleeding, but not a lot. On Sunday I was still bleeding, a little more, and had cramps, but not really that bad. Monday I started having clots passing and severe cramps, like bad period pains. Then Monday night rolls around and I start getting contractions! I had no idea I would have to go through labour! During the night, into Tuesday I passed everything. It was awful. I was up all night in pain. Once everything passed, the cramps went away slowly...and now, today, I am still bleeding, although it is very little and slowly going away.

Could it of made a difference, even though the baby was only 6 weeks gestation when it died, that my body will react differently than another woman who was 6 weeks along? Because I didn't have the miscarriage until I was somewhere in the 12th week...or so I thought.

What are the risks, if I get pregnant right away without waiting for 2 or 3 cycles?

[Boble]

i was told after having a d&c to wait one full cycle then we would be able to ttc again .

After my natural m/c i was told that the only reason to wait a cycle was more for emotional reasons and so they would know what the EDD if I was to fall that cycle. we decided to ttc again straight away but still have not gotten preg again.

Im so sorry you had to go through the loss... including contractions, pain and passing the clots. It is a horrible experience for anyone to go through. I had contraction like pain for 4 days - so sending you lots of big hugs.

Everyones bodies react differently to m/c so it is really hard to say what it would be like for you compared to someone else. but from what i understand, i believe that your experience would be more similar to someone around 6wks then someones experience at 12wks because the size of your little one would be similar to that of a 6wk old iykwim.

its hard to say what the risks are one way or the other.. some doctors say their is risk of m/c again.. others say that you won't fall preg again if your body isn't ready... its so difficult to say hun.. i guess at the end of the day you need to take all the information and do what is best for you.

sending lots of big hugs your way

[.:Shortcake:.]

Huge hugs hun and Welcome. I had to have a D&C with my first m/c and my second was natural. Both times they said I could start trying when I felt emotionally ready. Your body will not become pg again until it is ready. The only reason they ask you wait one cycle is so they have a date to go off of for the little one. Hope this helps!

[klt]

Wow, I'm so sorry you've had to go through all of this. I hope you're doing OK mentally and physically. Doctors all have different "recommendations" that they give their patients. Some say wait a cycle. Some say try whenever you're ready (including right away). Some say wait longer. Ask your doc and see what he/she says. If the wait seems too long or not long enough, just ask more questions. You need to feel comfortable with the timeframe of TTC again.

But, until you decide to TTC again, please feel free to stay and get to know these awesome women. They were exactly what I needed while I was waiting (for med reasons I had to wait 3 cycles). The support was fantastic and it was great to have people that knew how I was feeling all here to listen, answer my questions, etc...

I'll be thinking about you and I'm hoping we all get to know you better. Welcome (even though none of us like to welcome anyone here under the circumstances of a loss )

[Trish36]

I'm so sorry for your !!! Losing a child is the hardest thing in the world and I'm glad that you found this site for support.
Your story sounds very similar to mine. I went in for my NT scan at 11 1/2 weeks only to find out that the baby had died at 8 weeks 4 days. I also had no bleeding, cramping or anything to make me think that something was wrong. (except for my hair falling out like crazy for a couple of weeks before I found out). I had to take meds to induce the m/c but once I passed all the tissue the contraction like pains went away. yeah that was quite a surprise to me too, that I would actually have to go through labour.
I got AF exactly 4 weeks of my m/c. Now unfortunately I have not gotten a BFP yet, not from lack of trying though. I am 36, so my age may play a factor. My dr. told me to wait at least 2 weeks to make sure I stopped bleeding, before ttc again. They usually say 2 - 3 cycles, but that's just for your emotional well being and to make sure they can date the pregnancy properly. There really is no 'medical' reason why you can't try right away, if you feel ready to do so. Good luck and hopefully you will get that BFP rather quickly!!!!!! Lots of baby dust!!

[KDD]

I'm sorry for your loss. Your story is similar to mine. I m/c at 10 weeks, but my baby died at 6 weeks. I also had a natural m/c. My Dr. said to wait 1 cycle before TTC again. I see that you're in Calgary - were you referred to the Early Pregnancy Loss Clinic? They are full of great information.

[..Penelope..]

I'm so sorry for your loss, hon.

[photogmama]

Welcome. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your stay here is short. I don't know that anyone (dr included) really know how long anyone should wait.....I think if you feel emotionally ready and your body ovulates, it is telling you that it has recovered enough to try again.

[AngelWingz]

Originally Posted by KDD

I'm sorry for your loss. Your story is similar to mine. I m/c at 10 weeks, but my baby died at 6 weeks. I also had a natural m/c. My Dr. said to wait 1 cycle before TTC again. I see that you're in Calgary - were you referred to the Early Pregnancy Loss Clinic? They are full of great information.

I have never heard of that clinic. I wasn't really given much information about what to do now....I wasn't referred anywhere.

[missy123]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is so painful and no one really understands how it feels and what you go through emotionally unless you have been there. So you know, there is also a loss board here at JM. My midwife told us to wait 1 cycle, but you should go with your doctors recommendations. ((Hugs))

[mum74]

Originally Posted by ldovey83

Hi and welcome.. Sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my angel bean last wk.. MY dr gave me the all clear to try to concieve again when I was emotionally ready.. I lost my bean at 6 wks.. SO I wasn't far at all.. Best of luck to you hun..

I m/c at 9weeks and was told to wait one cycle before ttc again. As everyone has said I think it varies a lot depending on how far along you were and also from doctor to doctor. I am sorry for your loss.

ldovey83 - I just wanted to say that I really liked your ttc after m/c blinkie and I hope it's okay that I copied it to mine...

[Elijah'sMommy]

I am so sorry for your loss. My doctor recommended waiting 1 full cycle after my m/c in dec (miscarried at 6 weeks, betas/ultrasound showed I was 4 weeks). I wish you all the best.

[Kary♥RN]

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. I lost my baby at 7 1/2 weeks. I had a d/e.. at my 2 wk check up was given the go ahead to start ttc again. Not to wait for AF, or anything. It is all what you dr tells you. If you look it up.... No real medical reason to wait, and no increase of miscarriage if you due get pregnant after a m/c. So it is up to and your body. I was told my body wouldn't get pregnant if it wasn't ready. Good Luck. I hope you get your bean soon!

[..Jessica..]

I'm very sorry for your loss!!!

I agree with the other ladies in waiting 1 or 2 cycles before TTC. Simply because you do need to give your body time to heal following such a traumatic experience in miscarriage.