New here... lots of questions

sportsmom2 · #1 June 24th, 2009, 05:57 AM

Hi everyone. I am Dianna, (33 in July) and my DH and I just experienced a m/c on Father's Day. It was devastating.

We weren't really TTC when I got pregnant, but we had gotten really excited about a baby... I was 1 day shy of being 7wks when I m/c.

As of right now, my doctor thinks I will not need a d & c. I am bleeding very lightly now and most of the cramping is gone. I will get my HCG levels checked tomorrow (as of Friday they were at 270) so I don't think it will take long to get to zero. And that was before m/c.

First question- my doctor said to wait 3 cycles before TTC again, which seems like a very long time. What is the length of time most other dr's recommend waiting?

Second question- once my HCG levels reach zero, how long before I begin ovulating?

Third question- is there a "Justmommies board book for dummies"... I can't figure out what some of the shortened versions of words mean. CD? BB? etc.... there are more but I can't remember them now.

Thanks-
Dianna

.:Shortcake:. · #2 June 24th, 2009, 06:44 AM

Hello and welcome. I am very sorry for your loss. After both of my m/c the doctors told me I could TTC again right away. It all depends on your doctor as to the time frame. Generally they say to wait at least 1 cycle so they have a date to go by. But I've done alot of research and there really is no reason you can't try again right away. If your body isn't ready it won't get pregnant. Hope this helps. And here is where you can learn the abbreviations!

http://www.justmommies.com/forums/f2...-and-info.html (TTC Abbreviations and info)

~Lynda~ · #3 June 24th, 2009, 07:02 AM

hi there, i'm so sorry you lost your little one!!! and on Father's Day. That is horrible!!! My name is Lynda and I have had two losses in the last year. It's emotionally draining. My dr. told me to wait one cycle after the m/c. she also told me that if my body wasn't ready for a pregnancy, it wouldn't conceive. so that's what i did. some ladies try right away. it took 6 weeks for my hcg to be down to zero from the last m/c (i was 12 weeks). i ovulated right on schedule the next cycle, but we sat that one out. the next two cycles were screwed up totally. I ovulated a week later than usual. this is really my first cycle that has been fairly normal since the m/c (4 months post m/c). But everyone is different. you just have to wait and see how it goes for you. m/c is very hard on your body physically and emotionally. some drs want you to heal before you try again, so that is probably where the 3 cycles comes in. I'd follow my heart if I were you. G/L and again, i'm sorry for your loss!!

szczepanski · #4 June 24th, 2009, 07:12 AM

Dianna - I am so sorry for your loss.

To answer your questions, DH and I waited one cycle after my miscarriage to try again....and now we are pregnant! After my levels went down to zero, my cycle went pretty close to normal - I ovulated about 11 days later and got my period a few weeks after that. They say it can take 4-6 weeks for your period to come back.

mlyster · #5 June 24th, 2009, 07:12 AM

First of all welcome to the board! I am very sorry you have had to join our ever growing group but I hope you find the support and healing you need. The ladies here are fantastic!

I am Michelle (27). I found out I was pregnant with our first in february and miscarried in March (one day shy of 7 weeks - same as you).

To answer your questions
1. my doctor told me i didn't have to wait at all. In talking to a grief counsellor and other medical professionals I have found out that most doctor recommend the waiting period for emotional reasons and not physical reasons. I know a few people who have miscarried and gotten pregnant the very next cycle (and gone on to have healthy babies). My rationale for not waiting is that if your body is ready to be pregnant again you will get pregnant... if it is not - you won't.

2. a much more difficult question. I think that once your levels are back to zero your body will resume its cycles as it sees fit. It took 34 days for my first AF after my miscarriage (my normal cycles are 27-30 days). Everyone is different in how their bodies react to the m/c and getting back to a normal cycle. For me each cycle after the m/c got a little more normal until the cycle I am on (cycle 4). This one feels completely normal. I suggest opk's if you are concerned about ovulating this first cycle.

Again welcome and I am very sorry you have had to join us.

Trish36 · #6 June 24th, 2009, 08:18 AM

Hi Dianna, I'm so sorry you lost your little one. It must have been especially hard on Father's Day. HUGS!!!!
Dr.s usually will tell you 3 cycles, but it's more for your emotional well being. They would also prefer you to at least wait until your first AF shows after your m/c, so they can date the pregnancy easier, but other than that there is no reason why you can't start trying again asap.

I think that once your levels go to 0 you should ovulate in about 2 weeks, but that all depends on your cycles and your body.

Good luck ttc again!!!!

photogmama · #7 June 24th, 2009, 11:07 AM

Welcome Dianne, I am so sorry for your loss! Like most of the gals have already said, after doing a lot of research, I believe the wait is more for emotional "healing" than anything else. Your body won't get pregnant again if it isn't ready! Hope your numbers return to zero quickly and you can begin your TTCAL(trying to concieve after loss) journey! Hope it's a short one!

Kary♥RN · #8 June 24th, 2009, 12:17 PM

Dianne.. Sorry for loss... HUGS! I am glad you found this board... the support here is what getts me through the day, These ladies are the best! I have had two losses since Nov... My name is Kary 34, I had a d/e on Feb 6th.. on my two week follow up I was given the ok to start right away. I started by buying OPK's ovulation predictors... to try to pinpoint when I ovualated.. along with temping. did I release an egg??? Not sure... I am now going on cycle 4 (have been protecting this cycle) But will be to ttc July 1.. This last cycle I think is the first cycle I have been feeling --almost normal-- is thier such a thing after m/c... GOOD LUCK

rebeccabaltimore and more · #9 June 24th, 2009, 12:28 PM

I'm sorry for your loss. I was required to wait 2-3 months after my stillbirth in February, as any pregnancy that quickly after the birth was going to miscarry. But I had a stillbirth. My sister-in-law got preg 3 weeks after her m/c, and she's 30 weeks pregnant now.

If you are worried about waiting and waiting for your cycle to normalize, you could go on birth control for a weeks. That's what my doctor had me do, and my cycle got right back on track, saving us time.

sportsmom2 · #10 June 25th, 2009, 10:06 AM

Thanks for all the helpful replies and advice. I hate that we are all here because we have experienced losses... but pray that we will all be able to conceive and have a healthy baby soon.

I go today to get my numbers checked. Praying I am going down quickly. Last check was 270 and that was prior to the actual miscarriage. Down from 400 two days before that...

Thanks again-
Dianna

Boble · #11 June 25th, 2009, 04:53 PM

hi Dianna.. everyone has answered your questions but i just wanted to pop in and say hi.. im sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find the support here that you need *hugs*

KDD · #12 June 25th, 2009, 08:14 PM

I'm very sorry for your loss Dianna. I had a natural m/c and AF returned 23 days later (28 days from when I first started spotting). My Dr. said to wait 1 cycle before TTC again.

JMbreaksthelaw · #13 June 26th, 2009, 11:02 AM

My last m/c was on Mother's Day and what a slap in the face that was! My dr. said you dont have to wait but I waited one cycle. I just wanted to make sure my body was back to normal and the d&c had not caused any issues. Good luck!