[Boble]

Just wondering.. what things are you superstitious about or paranoid about while ttc or in early pregnancy. Are you someone who feels that if you tell people before 12 weeks you will jinx your pregnancy? Do you feel like choosing names before you are preg will make it take longer? Do you feel like having baby stuff in your house (for those without bubs already) will jinx you? etc

After 2 m/c's in the space of 6 month DH is now adamant that we not tell anyone when we next fall preg. Mainly because both times when we have openly told people in our lives about our pregnancies that is when we have had our m/c's I'm not sure how I feel about it because im not very good keeping secrets and I hate people thinking that im lying to them. Although, im sure they would understand

Also.. normally in the lead up to AF I get 10 days of spotting.. all day long, each and every day.. before AF comes on in full force. This month I have had no spotting at all and AF is due in 2 days time... Up until yesterday I didn't want to tell anyone because I was worried that as soon as I said it (or typed it) then the spotting would start... I also think that "the curse of the white undies" applies here too... a lot of the time it will start if im wearing white undies (sorry for tmi) so.. I rarely wear them at this time of the month

[Mel1979]

Bel,

I am paranoid about just about everything!

We have our names chosen (we chose them when I was pg the first time when we still had the 'innocence'). I did have a cupboard full of baby/kids clothes (hand me downs from my sisters 2 boys) but I actually packed them all up and put them in a bag away from everything a few months ago.

This time I was so worried we were jinxing it by telling people but we only told immediate family and they would be the people we would tell about a m/c. I am not even sure I would tell all of them the next time though for fear of jinxing things.

When I do fall pg, I analyse every little thing I eat just in case I shouldn't be eating it. And I was too paranoid to BD this time as I was scared it would cause a m/c.

I know what you mean when you are secretly hoping this might be the month but you don't want to tell anyone in case it brings on AF. I try to tell myself now that if AF is going to come anyway I would rather it sooner than later.

So in answer to your question, yes I am totally paranoid and anxious in early pg and when ttc I drive myself crazy with every little twinge or pain thinking this could be the month!

Sometimes TTC is just all too hard!

Still have everything crossed for you xx

[charm]

I never used to to be supersticious I went and bought a stroller,cupboard and some baby stuff because I never thought I would m/c yes I was one of those ppl ignorant maybe and the bam all over. I had told family and friends then next thing you know the whole town knew I thought at 12 weeks we were safe I was showing alot so it was obvious and 5 months later I am still saying no sorry we lost the baby I think next time around will be different I will be to scared to tell anyone.

[Trish36]

I've never been paranoid and always told everyone on the planet as soon as I found out I was pregnant. Which was really bad when I had my first m/c. thankfully I only told a couple of pople at work, so I didn't have to deal with that aspect, but it was still hard.
This time I didn't tell anyone except my sil & sister (didn't even tell my parents) because of the fear...and that really didn't help either because we lost that baby too and no one even knows what I am going through.
So yes, I am not planning on telling too many people unti after 12 weeks, but other than that, I don't have any paranoia or superstitions in regards to buying things or names etc.

[JMbreaksthelaw]

With my first pregnancy I told everyone right after I got a positive test. Luckily I had a healthy boy. With my last 2 pregnancies I told NO ONE except my parents and I had miscarriages both time!!! I think if I get pregnant again I am going to announce it to the whole world right away. haha. Plus after 2 m/c I am pretty jaded so I think people are going to know if I am pregnant because I will probably be trying to stand on my head for the entire 9 months!!

[photogmama]

I can't really say I have any superstitions, but am LOL over the white undies comment...I just was thinking to myself that I wanted to go out and buy a ton of black underwear because I am sick of spotting on my white/light undies!

BTW, we did tend to wait to tell people we are pregnant....just something I have always done, not out of superstition...just more my personality! We will see this time around (if there IS a THIS TIME)!

[KDD]

We never told anyone when we were pg "just in case". I actually regret not telling some people (like my parents). It's not fair that they only got to mourn the loss rather than celebrate the joy.

Next time, I may tell my parents and a couple of close friends. Some of them know how long we've been TTC.

I don't know what I'll be like if we get pg again. I won't buy any maternity clothes until I absolutely have to. I still buy the occasional baby thing now if it's on sale - I figure I can always give it as a gift.

[L-SBB]

i didn't have anything i was superstitious/paranoid when we were TTC, but we didn't tell anyone about this pregnancy until we passed 12 weeks, and i still haven't bought any maternity or baby items yet (but probably will really soon)

With the first pregnancy I felt I jinxed myself by joining my DDC formally...I had been lurking for a few weeks waiting for first u/s appt...then just a day or two after i joined we got the bad news and i had to announce i was leaving right after i joined.

[rebeccabaltimore and more]

I wasn't superstitious before . . .

I'm not scared of another stillbirth - we fixed the problem that caused Ethan's loss - but I am OMG TOTALLY FREAKED OUT PARANOID about a miscarriage. Not because there is an underlying problem, but because miscarriages just happen sometimes and my only pregnancy experience ended in a major loss. (Major because of how deeply it affected me and DH). So we are only telling parents and siblings (and you guys) when we get pregnant next. I don't normally keep big secrets. But I am going to be a clam on this one.

And since it was my undiagnosed diabetes that caused my loss, I am so paranoid about blood sugar. Even when I'm in the 2ww I am super careful about my sugars. Last 2ww, I had a spike in my blood sugar and I left work and drove to my parents house in a panic, because that is the closest place I keep extra insulin.

[starrsgirl]

Ok...here's what I'm paranoid about...I am worried when I don't get really morning sick. In fact, for both my pregnancies, I didn't have morning sickness at all. With my second one, I kept telling my DH that I thought something wasn't right. But then, we went for the second ultrasound and everything was perfect so he told me I was just being silly. But then the hearbeat must have stopped a few days later. So, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let me be disgustingly green and sick for this whole pregnancy. I can take it!

Also, this time around I want to wait FOREVER to tell people. I'm really hoping I can make it to 16 weeks without showing too much. OK, also I work with all guys so they probably wouldn't notice anyway, which is a good thing. Honestly, I'm even worried about telling my parents cause they get so excited and tell my whole extended family.

[Kary♥RN]

I never really thought of it. With my first loss it was so early.. I didn't even have time to think. As for the second... I started bleeding a few weeks, (it was only a one time deal) before we lost our heatbeat.. I swear it was due to me cleaning.. I get very early nesting... so I don't think I will do heavy cleaning like I did..

[Boble]

Liz that is exactly what dh has said too and what I had agreed to just after our last m/c - he wants to wait till at least 16 weeks.. if not longer - He has basically said he doesn't want to tell anyone till we can't hide it any longer.

I remembered another one of mine. Last pregnancy I didnt take any of the tampons/pads out of my hand bag.. I was worried that if i took them out I would m/c - im fairly sure that will be another one I do next time too

[sallyk61]

I am too, Bel. I cant have or hear about people wanting to buy me any baby things, I will NOT be fiddling with the baby room till the baby is born, except possibly set up a cot.
I cant wear white undies and actually even through all mine out.
I believe all my dreams and I think if i tell people im pregnant it would end badly and I (from my whole 1 experience) was right...

[LissaDawn]

My last pregnancy I waited until I was further along than my 1st miscarriage to tell everyone at work that I was pregnant. Then I m/c a week later. So, it was harder for everyone to understand that I was already really attached to my pregnancy (not that I wouldnt have been earlier) because they only knew I was pregnant for a week. So this time, I told everyone the week I found out.

Also, the two times out of 4 pregnanacies that I m/c I started a pregnancy journal right away, so this time I waited until I was in the 2nd tri.

Lastly, I started a new kind of prenatal sample my dr gave me 3 days before I m/c last time, so I refuse to take them this time.

When we first started ttc, I had a few friends who had m/c - so I was paranoid from day dot & dh & I decided not to announce our pg until we hit the 12 week mark, which is what we did with 1 & 2 pg (both ended in m/c) & DD (only immediate family knew & we told not to tell anyone). We didn't buy any clothes/nursery items until I was 20 weeks pg.
Our immediate family know about our recent m/c & that we are ttc. This is unusual for us as were are very personal people when it comes to things like that, but I find that I need their support & understanding when I am not feeling so great this time around. My mum even referred me to the acupuncturist/Chinese Herbalist for help. If friends ask when we are going to have another baby - some I tell about our m/c, others I just fob off with a passing comment. It really depends on who it is asking.
We don't dtd during the first tri if I fall pg - I have heard that it increases chances of m/c. I also watch my diet (in terms of foods/drinks to avoid).
My gf gave me a cot matress & I've put it under the spare room bed - which will be the nursery. I have also visualised where I put the nursery furniture once I am pg.
I am not really supersticious since speaking to a gf, who is a firm believer in the power of positive thinking & also since seeing the Chinese Herbalist as he says the reason for m/c is due to a blood disorder/deficiency in the body,which he is trying to correct for me.