[brandimomof2]

Hi, I posted here once about DH not wanting to ttc again after our loss. We have 2 dd ages 4 and 7. We decided we wanted to try for another baby. I lost it at 11wks 6days but didnt miscarry till I was 14wks. It was horrible just horrible.

I get very very ill during pregnancy for some reason. I am pretty much bed ridden even with phenegrin. It helps the throwing up but I still feel horrible and so so weak during the first 3mths. I have never understood why I get so very sick and others dont. Its very hard on my family when I am that sick. I also have stomach issue. I have had my gallbladder out and when I was pregnant this time my stomach would hurt when I ate any type of fat at all so I had to be on a low low fat diet. It still hurt with that but not as bad. Anyhow its very hard being pregnant so I can understand my dh doubt.

I just really want another baby. I am not sure if we should in the way that its hard because I am sick but in the other ways it will work out fine. I am just so scared to ttc again and dont want to be sick like that. I just cant help but wanting and longing for another baby.

I just dont know what to do. DH says he is still thinking about it. I thought about adoption but its so expensive and then you cant get a baby with the state very easily. I just dont know what to do. The miscarriage was so horrible and I never want to go through that again. I had to be rushed to the hospital due to hemmorage. It was so bad.

[Trish36]

HUGS!!! I'm sorry about your loss and all that you went through. It is a hard decision to make, but one that only you & your DH can make. Just remember that just because you've had one m/c it doesn't mean anything will happen the next time you will be pregnant. Also every pregnancy is different, and maybe this time you will not be as sick as the previous times. Good luck with whatever you decide!

[missy123]

It is a really hard decision to TTC or not. My Boyfriend and I went through the same thing. It is a decision only the 2 of you can make. We are here for you.

[~~~Sara~~~]

I just want to say I am sorry for your loss. I know it is tough to imagine ever going through a loss again, but I think in time you and Dh can reach a decision. Hugs.

[~Lynda~]

i know exactly what you are feeling right now. it's a hard decision, but only one that you can make for yourself. miscarriage is horrible in and of itself, but it sounds like you have even a rougher time with the hemoraging!! i'm so sorry girl. i wish it were easy for everyone who wanted to have a baby!! i really do. take some time and really think about what it is that you're willing to do for another baby. when i talked to my dr. about trying again, she told me after my second miscarriage that is was all about how much i could stand. her words were, it could happen again, and it might not. so as we know, there is no way of knowing what will happen again. HUGS, if you need to talk PM me girl!!

[brandimomof2]

Thanks. I wish it were not so life altering for me to become pregnant. I wish I could just carry on with normal like those first 3mths. The decision would be easy. I would so do it again. Since I have to put my family through so much I am just not sure what to do.

Thanks for understanding ladies!!!

[missy123]

Brandi,

I replied in the loss board but I just wanted to give you huge hugs. Sorry you are going through all of this.