2nd trimester loss and ttc questions

sharilyn · #1 July 2nd, 2009, 09:25 PM

Hi everyone...my name is Sharilyn and my dh is Nate. We just lost our little boy at 15 weeks and i'm now waiting on AF, i was wonder how long those of you who had late losses waited b4 trying again...i ended up having a natraul m/c, not by choice but it was much better that way...anyways, i really have been feeling pretty good, i know my baby is in heaven waiting for me and that seems to make things ok. but i'm kinda afraid of not being preggo at his due date, i guess that sounds dumb, but i really want another baby, not to replace him but i want someone for my daughter and i loved having a baby around. so guess my question is how you all delt with it and how long you waited

Trish36 · #2 July 3rd, 2009, 05:18 AM

Hi Sharilynn. I'm so sorry for your loss!! This is such a hard time to go through and I'm glad to hear that you are doing okay. I was 12 weeks when I had my m/c - induced by meds because the doc wouldn't do a d&c. technically I was 12 weeks, however my baby had died weeks before (only measured 8 1/2 weeks), I just didn't know it. We decided to start trying right away, so pretty much as soon as I stopped bleeding. The dr. said to wait a couple of cycles, but it's more for the emotional well being and so they can date the pregnancy better. There really isn't a reason why you can't try right away. Good luck and hopefully it won't be long before you have another BFP!

..Penelope.. · #3 July 3rd, 2009, 10:27 AM

Hi, Sharilyn. I'm so sorry for your loss

DB and I lost our angel at 12 weeks, but development stopped at 8 weeks. If we had decided to TTC right away, we probably would have started as soon as AF came for the first time. However, we're now WTTC until an unknown time.

I'm glad that you found us

~~~Sara~~~ · #4 July 3rd, 2009, 10:41 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I think when you try again is up to you and your doctor, there are so many different theories out there.

Our 2nd loss was at 13 weeks, and I am still waiting for my cycle to show up so that we can TTC again. Parts of me can't imaging being pregnant again (I am scared) but the other part of me just wants to do it and hope the baby sticks this time. I wish you the best in your TTC future.

photogmama · #5 July 3rd, 2009, 03:03 PM

Welcome Sharilyn, I am sorry for your loss and that you have had to join us here. We started TTC as soon as my cycle returned (about 8 weeks after my m/c at 11 weeks), we haven't had any success yet, but we keep trying lol!

I understand what you mean about wanting to be pg again by your duedate, mine is quickly approaching (Aug 24)....I am hoping we get our BFP soon! I can't articulate why it is I feel that I need to be pregnant by then, but I do....just wanted you to know that you aren't alone!

You will find great support here. Hope your TTCAL journey is a short one!

MrsB1227 · #6 July 3rd, 2009, 03:56 PM

I am so very sorry for your loss. My loss was early (at 6 weeks) and I was told to wait two cycles before TTC.

AliciaF · #7 July 3rd, 2009, 04:00 PM

We lost our little boy almost a year ago at 20 weeks due to a placental abruption. We were told to wait one normal cycle before TTC again.

Unfortunately for us it took us 8 months and 3 chemical pregnancies to get our sticky baby, but we are now 20w2d pregnant with our little girl

jaypbee · #8 July 3rd, 2009, 04:15 PM

we lost our baby at 8w 3d. i found out there was no heartbeat on a thursday, and had a d&c the next day. it took 1 day shy of 5 weeks for af to show. my o/b told us to wait until after my first post d&c af before trying...

rebeccabaltimore and more · #9 July 3rd, 2009, 06:21 PM

We lost Ethan at 18 weeks exactly and had an emergency d&c five days later. We were told (very strongly) by the doctors to wait 8 weeks. We chose to wait 12 (well, DH chose). I was desperate to TTC sooner, but in the end I am REALLY glad we waited. I feel a lot more ready to be pregnant again.

Kary♥RN · #10 July 3rd, 2009, 07:19 PM

HUGS so sorry for your loss... I had an early loss.. lost hb @ 7 1/2 wks d/e done a week later. At our 2 wk check up we were told to go ahead and ttc right away.

mary30 · #11 July 3rd, 2009, 07:29 PM

I hope you don;t mind me poping in.. I had a loss Last September at almost 20 weeks. I ended up having a D&C ,but to answer your question we started right away.. See I have had three miscarriages in the month of September and For Me I did not want to be pregnant at all in that month no matter how far along I was.. It took 6 weeks before my period came back. My cycles were longer ,

I am so sorry for you loss and Pray that you get pregnant soon

sharilyn · #12 July 3rd, 2009, 08:34 PM

thanks ladies for your thoughts, our dr said that we can start after our first normal cycle. it's crazy how everyones bodies are different, and how long it can be before af shows up. my thoughts keep going to how do we know we will not get preggo while waiting? we dont prevent and i seem to ovulate at different times, so i guess we just have to wait and see....

~~~Sara~~~ · #13 July 3rd, 2009, 09:00 PM

I don't see a problem getting pregnant on accident if it happens. My OB said if your body is not ready a fertilized egg will not implant so basically you can't get pregnant if your body is not ready.

I'd keep taking your prenatals and just see what happens. Good luck and again, I am sorry for your loss, ebing physically ready and emotionally ready are two different timelines.