some friend I have...rant

hearts.0nfire · #1 July 2nd, 2009, 11:59 PM

So all of my close girlfriends know how long i've been trying, that I had to use a fertility drug in order to have gotten pregnant, and know about the loss. I had some really good support from some of them even though I didn't want to talk over the past week. Well I started to feel like I was getting better only until one of my friends lets me know she's pregnant.

Seriously? Tell me this right now?

Jennifer-Jacob's Mommy · #2 July 3rd, 2009, 03:41 AM

i totally can relate to how you are feeling and you have every right in the world to feel sad, angry, any emotion you are feeling.

The same thing happened with me, I got pregnant, lost my baby and 2 weeks after my friends told me ( that they really didnt have to!!), that this girl I used to be best friends with that was sleeping around on her man, is now pregnant.... it hurt a lot...and my friends couldnt understand that I was upset over it....really couldnt understand and started to get on my case that i should just "get over it".... how are you spose to get over it if you can't let yourself feel the way you do and not talk about it? you need to talk about it in order to start to move on........

vent all you want/need..... It hurts now, but it does get better....you will get pregnant again..and i know hearing these words ain't that comforting when you are grieving over your little one.......xoxoxo

Trish36 · #3 July 3rd, 2009, 04:43 AM

Hugs!!!

missy123 · #4 July 3rd, 2009, 06:02 AM

((HUGS)) It is really hard sometimes for our friends to give us the support we need as they do not know the true darkness that comes with a loss. They don't understand the raw emotion and pain. I am sorry they seem to be insensative to you and your needs right now. I am sorry that your friend is pregnant, it does hurt because we wish it was us.

~~~Sara~~~ · #5 July 3rd, 2009, 07:58 AM

I am sorry, I think some people really do not understand.

KDD · #6 July 3rd, 2009, 01:56 PM

I'm so sorry Erica

Some people just don't understand the pain of a loss.

Kary♥RN · #7 July 3rd, 2009, 02:08 PM

HUGS.... Unless someone has gone through a loss... they don't know the pain... HUGS

MrsB1227 · #8 July 3rd, 2009, 04:00 PM

i'm so sorry, people who have not had a loss truly do not know what to say or how to act sometimes about this topic. I think a lot of it is just being naive and often not intentional on their part.