need to vent...

Penguin115 · #1 July 11th, 2009, 06:22 PM

so Dr. put me on clomid last cycle because 5 months after d&c and still no ovulation or af on my own. It worked, I o'ed but no bfp. :-(.. So this month I took clomid again, got some preSeed and been drinking lots of water. Its close to O day, we were suposed to start BD every other day starting yesterday.. So the day before yesterday, yesterday, and today DH is too tired. I am soo mad. He will probably be too tired again tomorrow.

I take this stupid medicine that gives me headaches, makes me really hot at night, and makes me pee alot, all for nothing. Why do I even bother. If I O tomorrow I am going to be very very upset with him..

Loving6 · #2 July 11th, 2009, 06:32 PM

Just tell him how it is...that you are taking this medicine and how awful it makes you feel.He really needs to get it,if you know what I mean.Good Luck hun(((hugs)))

AngelBabies · #3 July 11th, 2009, 06:42 PM

OUCH....... I ve been on Clomid myself and d@mn..... I think the watsee would have hit the fan if DH handntcome to the party 'so to speak'

SO vent away hun..... wtih what that drug does to your emotions and temper....... vent, rant, rave.... do whatever.... and maybe while your at it.... explain to that lovely hubby of yours how you feel......just no sharp objects or anything that could be classed as a weapon in your hand while your doing it ok.....

Penguin115 · #4 July 11th, 2009, 07:04 PM

Yeah clomid makes me pretty moody, mostly while I am taking it. This cycle has been so much worse than the 1st one too. what makes it worse. is that if no bfp this cycle Dr. wants to do a post coital test, which I would really really rather not do. The exam after last cycle to make sure clomid didn't over stimulate my ovaries was bad enough. Oh and I am pretty tired of charting, i've been doing it for about 10 months now.. grr.

I was telling DH that if it dosen't work in a few more cycles, since apparently clomid works best in the 1st 3 cycles, that the Dr. is going to want to do something more proactive such as IUI, especially since we are getting pretty close to the 1 year mark. DH didn't really like that idea but did that change anything NOO.

photogmama · #5 July 11th, 2009, 07:31 PM

I am sorry your dh doesn't want to cooperate! Is he usually willing to bd? Do you think he is just feeling pressure to preform or maybe he is afraid of you being pregnant again? I can't see him having you do all of this (charting, clomid, etc) if he is feeling apprehensive......

No real answers, hoping he decides he wants to bd!

Kary♥RN · #6 July 11th, 2009, 07:47 PM

HUGS.... I think it is time to just jump his bones... Is thier anything that getts him in the mood.. that he CAN"T say no too? sexy little panties? Porn? Whip Cream? Gilr time to pull out all the stops!!!

Del4 · #7 July 11th, 2009, 07:48 PM

(((hugs))) That has to be frustrating!

I would totally seduce him. Make the sex just sex and not about TTC or anything about a baby or the clomid or doctors - none of that! Just hot sex. That may be all it takes. I can understand being too tired if he's feeling pressured or something, but not even the sleepiest guy in the world can turn down spontaneous, no reason for it but sex, sex

BigGrin · #8 July 11th, 2009, 07:58 PM

Yeah something is awry, is he dealing with some unspoken fears/grief since the loss? I don't know many guys who would be "tired" when spontaneous sex is tossed on the table. I told my husband that we are going to have "just for fun" sex for a bit before the baby making starts. In all seriousness I am not going to let him know when it goes from one sex to the other, guys seem to get weirded out sometimes when sex has a purpose. kwim?

KDD · #9 July 11th, 2009, 08:15 PM

I don't have any advice to offer. But wanted to give you a hug.

Penguin115 · #10 July 12th, 2009, 05:43 AM

I don't think it has anything to do with ttc or previous loss or anything. He was just tired/too lazy. he was fine last month. when he left for work this morning he was like are you still mad. i was like YES. I have slight cramps on my left side, just like I did when I o'ed last month.. If I do today then this cycle was a complete waste.

farasha · #11 July 12th, 2009, 06:32 AM

I'm sorry hun. That is so frusterating. I know what you mean though - I've had a similar thing happen with DH. He was just be too tired one cycle. Luckily, I O'd later that time that I thought and he was better by then- but the week before when I thought I was O'ing, I was pissed! I don't really have any good solutions except keep communicating without getting into a fight (As I did... whoops!). And as Kary said - pull out all the stops! I feel for you! Hugs!