my friend is in labour

Boble · #1 July 16th, 2009, 12:37 AM

A friend of mine had her waters break yesterday and although she didn't have very much going on they have induced her today. She went in at 9am - collapsed in the hallway to the birthing suite due to high blood presure... and was wheeled in. She has been updating me throughout the day and at around 2:25pm her contractions had started. By around 4:10pm she was 4-5cm and had started making use of the happy gas.

I am her "birth buddy" on another site which means its my job to update her "due in.. " thread with her process and announce the birth of her little man when it comes time.

Im really excited for her.. super excited that she will have her little bundle soon.. but there is that small part of me that is feeling a bit down for me.. We fell preg within a month of each other.. and she is welcoming her little man... and im happy for her.. but sad that my pregnancy didn't progress... sad that im not pregnant again... and sad that i'm not even feeling as though pregnancy is something that will happen for me in the short term (not to mention the probs i'm having with dh atm)

and... to make matters worse.. i have a cold so im not going to be able to go and have baby cuddles

but.. yaya... there will be a new baby in our circle of friends soon.. I hope the labour isn't too hard on her and that her little man doesn't give her much grief in the birthing process

Magicaledelishus · #2 July 16th, 2009, 12:50 AM

Aw yeah.. That's exciting to watch, though. I can totally relate to it being sort of sad in a way, too. My best friend and I got pregnant at the same time, too. Of course mine did not progress, and hers did just fine. Hang in there, my dear. I hope her labor goes quickly and her blood pressure doesn;t cause too much distress..

.:Shortcake:. · #3 July 16th, 2009, 03:42 AM

Hugs hun! I know how you feel. You will have a little one in your arms before you know it.

~InHisHands~ · #4 July 16th, 2009, 04:05 AM

How exciting but how hard on you!

I'm so sorry but am kinda in the same predicament as you... I asked my church to pray for us to get pg & we did but so did 2 other church members. Now, I'm not pg & they still are... which I am sooooo happy for them but watching their bumps grow isn't fun & I know when Jan (EDD) rolls around that I am going to be miserable!

aaclzamora · #5 July 16th, 2009, 07:24 AM

*HUGS* I know how you feel. It is completely normal.

JessP · #6 July 16th, 2009, 08:56 AM

Oh I hope her labor is an easy one and that her blood pressure doesn't cause her any problems. Sounds scary. I am so sorry that you are going through the loss and not the labor. Lots of hugs to help you feel better.

MrsB1227 · #7 July 16th, 2009, 12:48 PM

i'll be in your shoes soon. my friend is due 3 days after I should have been due in November. There's not much I can say to make you feel better, it just sucks and life is not fair sometimes! here's hoping our bfp's are around the corner!

Boble · #8 July 16th, 2009, 05:07 PM

Well She had her little man. Reiss Robert was born at 2:01am. 7lb 11oz and 50.5cm long.

Im happy for them.. but it was also very... confronting.. for lack of a better term... she was updating me sooo regularly, which was nice.. and I got a text from her only 6mins after he was born.. but it was also hard. Just trying to focus my mind on the positives of it all.

.:Shortcake:. · #9 July 16th, 2009, 05:39 PM

Hugs hun! BTW it looks like we are cycle buddies! Shh but I'm having alot of promising symptoms!

Frangipani · #10 July 16th, 2009, 06:00 PM

I'm sorry. That really is hard. Happy for your friend but yes, that's hard to deal with too.

raeleyfan · #11 July 17th, 2009, 01:22 PM

my thoughts are with you....I know you will be there to support ur friend, regardless...and it is ok to feel the way you are right now. My sis is outta state finalizing an adoption that literally fell in her lap 2 weeks ago...We were supposed to be "pregnant" 2gether, I lost mine and she got hers 7 months early!!! So, yes I admit I have had a slight case of jelousy, but I am not beating myself up over it...She will never know how I am feeling, I wouldnt want to take any of her joy away...and I will get past it and love my sister and my new niece to pieces when I finally get to meet her!

Stay strong and go easy on yourself, we are only human

Trish36 · #12 July 17th, 2009, 07:27 PM

Congrats to your friend! Hugs to you!!!! I'm glad that you are holding up so well.

mrsissa · #13 July 18th, 2009, 05:46 PM

I can also relate to how you feel. I have one sister who just gave birth and another sister due in October. She got pregnant right after my first loss and was not ttc. I was there when she took the test and got the BFP and she was upset at 1st. I've since had my 2nd loss. Even though it's hard I'm always happy to hold a baby and have one around. It's just hard not to take them home with you. Hugs. Hope she and the baby are healthy.