Someone in my PR posted that she really wants twins so she thinks Clomid is her best bet. She has had no losses, no fertility issues, she just wants twins! I told her that was like saying I want a new hairdo so let me go get chemo to start all over.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Oh hun that is such a terrible thing for her to say. But for her with never having any losses she doesn't understand what we have been through and how lucky she will be just to be blessed with one bub. Hugs hun

[~Lynda~]

wow is all i can say!!!! i do like your analogy! sorry you had to deal with that!

[sportsmom2]

Some people don't think before they speak...

[aaclzamora]

That is just crazy. I really hope that no doctor is stupid enough to put her on Clomid. Any doctor who did would just be unethical.

[BigGrin]

Let her waster her money on the clomid and still end up with a singleton. The stats for twin conception isn't really that high on clomid, some people just need to be fools before they learn.

[Frangipani]

wow. she sounds pretty insensitive.

[MonkeyBugMommy]

Uhm, yikes! I'm sure she didn't mean to offend anyone, but that was pretty bad.

[Kary♥RN]

All I can say is that it just goes with the whole ball of ttcal wax.... When ttcal we have had our share of incensitive comments, and people saying things that are always the right things to say... They are ignorant to what we have had to go through and deal with on a daily basis.. While she was SO off base to say that.. she is ignorant, she is uneducated, and is talking out of her butt. No doctor is going to say here is meds you don't need. Unless she goes about illegally.. (paying for it, or ordering it off line) And if that is the route she takes... it is sad. She is sad. I am so sorry you had to deal with the ignorance of a person who will never know what you and the rest of us have had to go through!! HUGS

Thank you ladies, I knew you'd understand.

[KDD]

Originally Posted by aaclzamora

That is just crazy. I really hope that no doctor is stupid enough to put her on Clomid. Any doctor who did would just be unethical.

Now I'm being played out as the bad guy for being offended. I was called "angry" and "judgmental" and hopefully the OP doesn't stop asking questions because of my reaction.

[jaypbee]

em-i'll respond here instead of in our pr since giving any more attention to that post is not my goal!

i totally understood where you were coming from with your post. you know we have 2 or so girls in our pr who will always twist things around. i thought your last response was very diplomatic, and i think you should leave it at that. because, you know, no matter what you add, you will always get a response, as *she* must always have the last word. LOL. i've had posts removed and threads locked, in my opinion, because i'm pretty conservative. and i've been told my opinions aren't supportive. anyway, hang in there, my virtual friend!

Thank you Jenni, I was looking forward to your response. I'm chalking this one up to plain ole ignorance!

[AngelBabies]

Well I m not going to agree or disagree as I do not walk in anyones shoes but my own.

We all are who we are based on our experiences in life and everyones experiences are different. What your view was 20 years ago may not be what it is today because of the road you have traveled.

My view on things is to TRY not to let what other people say, sometimes through ignorance or innocence, effect me in a negative manner. Yes I know..... so much easier said than done...... but I just dont like the energy it takes when I do allow it to effect me. If I have trouble, and it keeps eating at me I tend to distance myself from those people.

I have a saying......... my sons could recite it in their sleep they have heard it that many times.

"You can not control what other people say or do...........You can only control how you choose to deal with it because ultimately, you only have control over yourself"

I am sorry that you were offended by what was said and I hope you can get to a better place.

[Trish36]

I totally agree with Angel. Don't let her comment get to you! HUGS!!!