[krystal g]

OK, so here's my dilemma...

I had a miscarriage & D&C 2 weeks ago (I was almost 12 weeks). It was awful emotionally, but I'm healing, and physically I'm fine. I stopped bleeding after a couple of days and had a negative HPT, so I know my levels are down. And I feel great.

While I'm still sad, and I do have my weepy moments, I absolutely know I want to TTC as soon as we can and DH agrees. And through BBT charting, OPK & eggwhite CM, I'm almost positive that I'm ovulating today or tomorrow (for which I am glad my body is working correctly again). My doc told me to wait a couple of weeks-ish to heal before sex (I've reached that time now) and to start trying after one cycle (for dating purposes). He also stressed that he believed that there's no medical reason to wait and that my body would get pregnant when it was ready.

All that said...my DH has been out of town for for 12 days (he had to leave a couple days after D&C) and he comes home tonight...yay!....and obviously I want to BD tonight...but I read all the time that people/Dr's say to wait and wait and wait before TTC again!

Am I crazy to want to do it now when there's a chance I could get pregnant right away again? Because I really want to!

[momof6lopez]

Im so sorry for your loss. Im happy your body is getting it together for you so quickly as well. Alot of opinions on this one, but basically your body will know if its ready to concieve again or not. If you and your husband are on the same page, and your body is giving the signals, then go for it! Be prepared for some early u/s's to date the pregnancy though. Those can be emotionally tough to get through so soon after a loss. This was the only reason I waited a cycle. It has been 4cycles now, and my body finally feels ready, emotionally and pysically. Good luck to you and your dh.

You're not crazy! Different docs will tell you different things, but if YOU feel ready, do it! Good luck!

[.:Shortcake:.]

If you and DH are ready both physically and emotionally then I say go for it! I was 13w when I lost my son and had to have a D&C and when I asked when I could try again she said to wait one cycle for dating reasons. I asked if there was any other reasons like if it would be risky and I would lose another one and she said no. If your body isn't ready it won't conceive. So my advice is go for it! Sending you lots of

[farasha]

I'm sorry for your loss. But you're not crazy at all. Many doctors will say it's all about being emotionally ready. It seems like yours agrees. And, it sounds like you are ready! So good luck!

[BigGrin]

You and I are almost in the exact same boat. (except I was not as far along on my pregnancy) I am having trouble reading these cheapie online OPKs but basically I believe I have/will ovulate this week. I had discussed TTC immediately with my husband and he said he was fine with it as long as I was okay with it.

Doc's basically give time limits because they want the patient to be emotionally ready for another pregnancy. Every woman is different and grieves in their own ways. Personally for me I needed to TTC as soon as possible to give me something to focus on besides the loss. It makes me feel like I am in control of some part of my life, even if I can't control the end results. With that said, we've been actively TTC this last week. You know when you ready so trust your judgement.

[krystal g]

Originally Posted by BigGrin

You and I are almost in the exact same boat. (except I was not as far along on my pregnancy) I am having trouble reading these cheapie online OPKs but basically I believe I have/will ovulate this week. I had discussed TTC immediately with my husband and he said he was fine with it as long as I was okay with it......

That's exactly how I feel. I need to have a bit of control even though I know in the end really I have none. But it makes me feel better to do all the testing and be back in the game. And although I still grieve my angel, and probably always will, I want to move on.

It really helps to have support from all you ladies.

[Kary♥RN]

I am so sorry for your loss. For me we didn't wait.. and I'm glad we didn't.. Since we are now are cycle 5 with no luck so far. I would of looked at like... what if that was out month... I had to protect for one month... and it killed me... All I could think was, the what if that was supposed to the month we concieved? It all comes down to when are YOU ready? I wish your BFP quickly! GOOD LUCK!

[MrsB1227]

I had a natural m/c at 6 weeks and the doc said to wait two cycles. I researched on my own and it seems that the consensus is that it really makes no difference. We started trying after the first cycle and we're now on cycle 5. I got pregnant on the second cycle trying last time and am getting frustrated that it is now taking this long, so my advice would be to go for it and not waste any time! Best of luck to you and I hope you get your bfp very very soon!

[mlyster]

I say relax and do it. My doc told me there was no medical reason to wait and that my body would not get pregnant until it was ready. If you body is not ready it will not happen... if your mind is not ready you wouldn't want to do it. Relax and enjoy your time with your DH and don't stress about whether "doing it" is the right thing or not. (but still do it ).

[mrsissa]

When I had my first loss at 12 weeks my doctor said to wait two cycles but when I had my 2nd loss at about 6 weeks last month I decided not to wait. I'm trying to hold off until at least Friday to poas. Hope we will all have lots of babies in 2010!

[JessP]

So sorry for your loss. I agree with many other ladies it is doctor dependent on when you start trying. If you are ready then go for it. Your body will get prego when its ready. Good luck and I hope it happens fast for you.

[Loving6]

I'm sorry for your lossI say if your ready then go for it