[photogmama]

It has been such a long week.....sorry about the long whine that is going to follow, but I have no place else to complain about this....

Last Tuesday, one of my daughter's friend's came over and told me she is pregnant. BJ is 16 years old, a real party-er (smokes a pack a day, drinks 3-5x a week,smokes pot a couple times a week), she is pretty sure that this 25 yr old is the baby's father, but a little "scared" because she kind of had sex with 4 other guys one night when she was drunk.... OK...so you are wondering WHY my daughter is friends with this girl and why she would come and talk to me (BTW, I am the only ADULT she has told....well other than the 25 yr old she is having sex with) I guess we are just LUCKY...lol.......anyway the situation sucks, she is here visiting her dad for the summer, she won't tell him, so we can't get her any prenatal care becasue she is a minor......at least she has quit smoking pot and drinking.....she is down from a pack of cigarettes (sp) a day to only 5....and I got her prenatal vitamins and tons of stuff to read...... Now I am TOTALLY NOT JEALOUS when someone who wants to get pregnant gets pregnant, or when someone who doesn't want to get pregnant but at least is in a stable relationship and knows who the baby's daddy is.....but I was just SO PISSED over this, why is she pregnant and not ONE OF US HERE ?????......I am trying to be supportive and I am proud of her for not terminating the pregnancy and I keep talking up the possibility of her not parenting her child and placing him/her up for adoption...but she is heading back hometo her mom's in a few weeks and will be facing the rest of this pregnancy alone....she isn't planning to tell her mom until at least the end of her first trimester (I think she is about 7 weeks right now)....

Then on Wednesday my son's girlfriend went into labor.....we were due 3 weeks apart (yeah, I know how screwed up is that....my grandkid will now be older than my kid if we ever manage to get pregnant again!) ...she ended up delivering a 9lb baby boy Thursday morning via c-section. My son is SO PROUD is is doing awesome adjusting to his role as a father (well outside of the fact that is girlfriend's mother is a PAIN in the ***)..... I did fine seeing my grandson and holding him, I was really surprised, in a way it was healing.....well until my husband got there and was holding the baby and talking to him and cuddling him and then I totally just LOST IT.....I kept thinking it should be his son/daughter that he is making baby talk to and loving on......of course no one can understand how I am feeling.....

Now to top it all off...I AM SICK...some kind of chest thing with a cough and green mucus coming up...so I can't even go over and see my grandbaby!

OK...that's my pity party for the day.......

[.:Shortcake:.]

Hugs hun. Its situations like that, that suck so badly. Stay strong and know that we all understand and are here for you.

[mlyster]

laura, what an absolutely draining week! Congrats on being a grandma and on helping a young, misguided girl do what is right for her child (even though I can tell it was really hard on you).

I do hope you get pg again soon and that your baby and grandchild will be the best of friends (regardless of how weird you think that situation would be).

[farasha]

Wow Laura.. that really is a tough week. I am so sorry. I'm glad you got that all out! BIG HUGS to you. You're being such a good person and a good support for those around you who need it. I'm sure this is something you are great at, but I can see how hard that must be when you are at a time when you need support too. I hope we're able to give that to you.

[~InHisHands~]

[..Penelope..]

Oh my goodness, hon, that's a lot to deal with. No wonder you needed to get it out.

Congratulations on becoming a grandma!

[Boble]

firstly congrats on your grandson.. as hard as that must have been im glad it was a little healing for you in a way *hugs*

wow.. what a draining week it must have been for you as a whole though. That is full on stuff! I hope the girl who is preg makes the right choice for her baby and well done for putting your emotions aside to help her through what would be a very hard time. I don't blame you for feeling a bit down from it all. I would be really hard for anyone to deal with in your situation

[JessP]

Wow you are an amazing women going through all of that. I bet it was so draining. Congratz on your grandson and that mom and baby are doing well. That is amazing as we all know. I hope that young girl gets the same guidance and support from her mom that she has from you. That is an amazing thing and a tribute to what a good person you are that she came to you. That she trusted you enough to tell you. I hope your week starts getting a little brighter and you start feeling better. Lots of healing no more green mucus vibes heading your way.