[Oreobaby]

I have been trying to think of how I can give baby J to God, and trust that He is watching over them. (I know that he is, but I guess it is a way of closure for me...I don't know)

I scrapbook, and I do have a couple of ultra sound pictures that I was lucky enough to get. I was thinking of making a scrap booking page in memory of baby J. I'm just not sure if this will just end up making it a painful memory as opposed to something beautiful? What do you think? Did you do anything to remember you angel babies?

[AngelBabies]

Oreobaby when I lost the twins I did a scrapbook for them and a website. The scrapbook is huge and captures everything from ttc, during the pregnancy and after. I m so glad i made it cause sometimes its good for me to just reflect back on it...... it s certainly not stopping me from moving on its no different from the vase I have with their ashes in it.... it acknowledges that they were here and show my love to them. The web site on the other hand is done to try and help others. I dont want to put the address here but if you google my name you will find it. angelbabies . (if you cant find it send me a pm and i ll send the link to you..... if you want it) I love the fact that it has had thousands of women look through it and I love the messages that they leave saying that it helped them. To me its not me that helped them it was my angels.... its what they left the world no matter how short a time they were here.

At the end of the day ..... you do what you feel is right for you...... its your mourning process and you have to deal with it in your way..... hugs hun.......we are all here for you while you do

[momof6lopez]

Oreobaby, I did make a little box of my u/s, i.d. bracelet from the u/s that showed the heart beat and some other things as well. It has been 4 months now and I still have not looked in it. Im not ready yet, but I did not want to take a chance and regret it later. Whatever you choose to do, just know that it might take some time to actually see the beauty of it instead of so much sorrow.

[sportsmom2]

I think that is a wonderful idea...

The only ultrasound I had was after I had started spotting and cramping and it showed that my uterus was empty... the ultrasound still printed off a picture (of no baby) and the doctor wadded up the picture and threw it away. It broke my heart. Most likely my pregnancy was doomed from the very beginning...

If I had anything to scrapbook, I would... just for the fact that I had dreams for that child and it would have helped me feel better to honor his/her memory.

[PixieQueen]

I passed the placenta (sorry, TMI) so we saved it and come spring we planted an apple tree over it. I have two angel apples on it this year. I never had an u/s, and I tossed the hpt, so I have nothing else. But every time I look at my tree I think of my baby.

[..Penelope..]

Marci, I think that's a beautiful way to remember your baby. If it feels right, just do it whenever you're ready, and then you can look back on it if/when you want to.

Right after we lost Autumn, I was so angry and hurt that I thought about throwing away all of the stuff that reminded me of her, and burning the letters that I wrote to her. But something stopped me, and now I'm so glad. I have everything - the letters, the CD of the ultrasound pictures, the onsie - put away in a memory box. I also made a memorial post on Pregnancy Loss about the 9 weeks that I had with her (there is actually a section on that forum just for remembering).

I also have a teddy that her aunty bought for her when I first shared that I was pregnant, that sits somewhere in the living room. It is a reminder of her, but in a good way. Sometimes when I really miss her, I can hold the teddy and it brings comfort.

I found that once I got past those first raw weeks, I started wanting people to remember the little life that I carried for such a short time, and that talking about her and remembering her felt good, and that it really helped me. If that happens for you, please don't feel shy.

Thinking of you.

[~InHisHands~]

I did 2 things actually.

1. I framed my u/s pic & put it on the mantel with all our other family pics. I also beaded some beads together representing the baby's birth month if he/she would have been born. The bracelet at the bottom that says fear not is a bracelet that some fellow church members made baby during VBS this year.

2. I got a charm bracelet early on in my pg & one charm was left off so that when I found out the gender of the baby I could go & buy a boy or girl charm. I bought an angel charm instead.

3. Haven't done this yet but I have ordered a pg loss Bible study that I am excited to start... Threads of Hope, Pieces of Joy: A Pregnancy Loss Bible Study - By: Teale Fackler, Gwen Kik - Christianbook.com

Pictures...

[KDD]

Marci, if it will make you feel better and help you in the healing process, then you should do it. Trust me, the pain will fade and there will come a time when you will be glad to have a reminder of Baby J.

I didn't really do anything for our angel. I tried to find a memorial necklace, but I didn't like any of the ones that I saw. All I have left to remind me of our angel is my due date necklace (that arrived in the mail right before my loss - so I never even got to wear it). I do plan to get a tattoo (I've designed it and everything). I haven't gotten it yet because I want to get it on my stomach (on top of my uterus) and so I'd like to have my pregnancy done before I get it.

[Kary♥RN]

I think you should make up the scrap book... or at least put everything together, so when you are ready to make you can.
I have a ring I wear with the name I gave our little girl (our second loss) "Hope" I also have a necklace that I have with the Dream and Believe that I got right after our first loss. Every day when I put on the necklace or when I look down at my ring I think of the babies I lost. I want to put together a small book of the U/S pick and two cards that were sent to me by two very close friends... But I haven't gotten around to that yet.

[..Penelope..]

Amanda - Your display is really beautiful.

[JessP]

I missed this post earlier and am now a little late but thought I would say something. I think it is a great idea. I have a number of u/s picutures and I have been trying to decide what to do with them. I have thought about framing them but I just don't know. We had many complications from the beginning so I think I have 4-5 printed pictures and a c/d. I had DH put them away at one point because they kept making me cry. I am not sure I am strong enough now but maybe later, I am planning to put them in a safe box soon so they don't get ruined. I also had a belly book that I had started... gosh even after 5 months its so hard to see those things. Someday maybe though. I hope you find something that helps you.

[szczepanski]

My DH got me a necklace - its a little angel and the skirt is the November birthstone (DD month) and the face is a diamond (lost our little one in April). I haven't taken it off since he gave it to me and it really helps. I can rub it when I'm anxious and I can look at it and remember. I had a dream the other night that I was looking down and a little baby arm and hand reached up and tugged on my necklace as it was dangling. I feel like that was a sign from my little angel.

[Oreobaby]

I am definately going to do a scrap book page or two...the more I think about it, the more I find things that I want to put into it. I did delete some things off of my desktop on my computer, but have pictures and things still on photobucket!! I like the idea of a necklace as well, and will be talking to DH about that...I did get a book for Baby J (my aunt gave me when she found out I was PG) I this weekend I wrote in it...this book belongs to baby J!!

Amanda, I think your display is AMAZING!!

[irishblessing]

I think you should make a scrapbook page for you Angel. You might not want to look at it right away but you will probably look back one day and really appreciate it.