Well my SIL got the bright idea today to box up all her old baby stuff (my nephew is 14 months) and drop it off in my garage today while I was at the office. I got home to a message on my voice mail and my 2 1/2 garage half full with baby stuff. She has no idea that we have been trying for almost 6 months to get pregnant again. But she said on the answering machine " this is her gentle way to start getting us to try again. And that she ovulated 15 days after AF started so I should count 15 days and if I need any advice on how to get pregnant to call her. ***?????? really dude really!!!!!! I really want my house filled with baby stuff when I'm still struggling with our loss and stress about going 6 cycles without a bfp. DH is upset just as much as me. But what do you do throw it out, give it back. she is going to expect us to have it here when we do finally have a baby. URGH!!!!!!!!!

[Kary♥RN]

OH How rude! Oh Aimz... I'm so sorry, People just don't get it. I would just say thanks... put the stuff away... Or you can really make her feel bad and just tell her your story.. And than ask her "got any other bright ideas? To concieve" Since we all know on this board if thier was an easy way to concieve we would have found it, used it, and spead it around!!!! You will get through this... a stronger woman!!

Oh my geez, the nerve of some people. I'm sorry! Although Kary's suggestion is a really good one... Make sure you tell her in person so you can see her face!

[mrscales]

wow, hun...that's kinda harsh. i'm assuming that she doesn't know your situation? i know that it's not really any of her business but maybe you should just tell her so she will understand.

good luck hun!

[rebeccabaltimore and more]

Wow, that is beyond rude. I lost my ability to stick a cork in it and be nice long ago, I wish I could call her myself and tell her how unhelpful she was today!

Oh she knows that we had a loss last year. She didn't get why we didn't start trying right away. She is just one of those people that if you shared something with her she would telling everyone and announce it on facebook. So we agreed that she would not be told this time that we were trying again. My mom and dad are coming on Monday while we are in Chicago for a few days and removing it from the house.

[KDD]

If having the baby items really bothers you, I would donate it to a womens' shelter or something.

My super, uber fertile friend made a comment to me about how I should just have sex every day. I simply replied with "oh, you mean we have to have sex to get pregnant?! That's what we've been doing wrong". The super fertile actually know less about conceiving than the infertile.

[starrsgirl]

I would donate that crap! (Ok, it's probably not actually crap but it's too painful a reminder for you and someone else can probably use it now). Yeah, donate it and then you can just get new stuff at your awesome baby shower that you will invite SIL too...haha.

[Celena]

Oh brother, I mean sister (sorry about my corney fieble attempt at humor lol)

Some people just *DON'T GET IT* they think they're being helpful when in all reality it's hurtful. I wouldn't hesitate to tell her your feelings and perhaps ask if she could please pack it away until you're ready for it. Most definitly tell her that her pg comment was unwelcomed, how unkueth (sp?)

I'm really sorry to hear about your SIL's behaviour... my MIL is psycho, I won't go into it here now BUT perhaps we can just have them both commited together? Or ship 'em off to guantanemo bay!

[mum74]

Originally Posted by KDD

The super fertile actually know less about conceiving than the infertile.

I'd never thought about that before Kimberley but how true!!

I have plenty of boy's baby clothes and all the other baby paraphenalia we need. However, my friend had twin girls and she is keeping her girls clothes for me in case we have a girl. I said to her recently that yes I'd still love her to store it for me 'just in case'... that I would offer to store it myself but I'm just not sure I can have it in the house, because it places too much hope on us having another baby. She totally understood and said she had already thought she would store it for me at her house.

Now that would have been the nice thing for your SIL to do... to say, whenever you're ready, it's here for you at my house. I'm sorry she was insensitive .

[mrsissa]

I can't believe it either. Until you've had a loss of your own I just don't think you understand...same with infertility. I don't think anyone I know outside of this board understands how I feel. Hugs you're very strong.

[farasha]

Ugh! How frusterating! I would tell you that you definitely need to let her know that it was very insensitive, and perhaps give her a lesson on the fact that not all women have the same ovulation schedule! I hate that! Course, I would probably play passive aggressive and just give the box away and not say anything. Big HUGS hun. That's really difficult. I would be very upset too.

Kimberly - SO TRUE! If I have one more person tell me when and how to get pregnant, I'll probably be put in jail for beating them up! Everyone "Else" just thinks its so easy.

[midwestmama]

Wow, I'm speechless. She really just doesn't get it. Good for you on being the better person. Have fun in Chicago. I'm about an hour north of Chicago but don't go there very much anymore.

[..Penelope..]

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with that, honey.

Have a wonderful time on your trip!

[JessP]

So sorry that you are frustrated. Some people just don't understand. Sounds like she had good intentions just didn't have good execution . I might call her and say thank you but that you don't have space or ask if she would mind storing it until you get preg and find out the gender. Because if you don't have the right gender then it would not be needed either way. Donating it is a good option if you know she isn't going to go looking for it and then you have to explain it. Not sure how you feel. I hope you find a solution that works for you and have a great time in Chicago. Lots of hugs hun.

Thanks everyone. My mom came over today and took it all to store it for us, I couldn't wait till Monday to get it out of the house.

[..Penelope..]

Yay for mom's!

[Trish36]

All I can say is WOW!

[irishblessing]

That was very unconsiderate of your SIL. I wish people would never do things like that because there is just no way they know the whole story. Some people just don't get how painful such acts can be.