[Oreobaby]

Going to see my friends new baby that was born today, was a lot harder than I thought that it would be and it sucks. I am going to meet my neice in 2 weeks, and it makes me sad that I could feel this way when I meet her. It just reminds me of what I lost, and as much as I say we will just keep trying again, what if it is like another 14 months before I get a again?? It's just so hard...And I can't talk to DH about it because he just says...it will happen, you just have to stay positive.

Ok...vent done now...

[Trish36]

I'm sorry! Big hugs to you!!!

Vent away!!! We all have our days. Big hugs!!

[jensma]

my DH doesn't really understand the fear either. He doesn't really understand the stress I went through to get pregnant over the last year, he just acts like it "happened". I am so sorry Marci. I have recently had a lot of friends GET pregnant that I was excited to be pregnant with and now they are still pregnant and I will have to hear and see how their pregnancies are progressing as mine should have been.

I so understand what you mean and I am so sorry!!! If you need anything I am always here!!

[mlyster]

Marci I went through this a few months after my miscarriage and it was HARD. I have no idea how I got through it and commend you for going to meet the little one so soon after your loss. That took tremendous courage and strength. I can tell you that it gets easier to see the child again... the first time is the hardest. I try not to think too much in terms of what I lost but what I WILL have in the future. It is not easy but its what gets me through the days. I also try not to hold my niece (who was born 3.5 months after my loss) around people who don't know what I have gone through... I can't handle the "oh a baby looks good on you, when are you going to have one of your own" comments.

Congratulations on taking a HUGE (and hard) step forward!

[irishblessing]

*hugs* it is hard to go through. I hope seeing your niece isn't too hard on you in a few weeks.

[Celena]

Originally Posted by Oreobaby

I can't talk to DH about it because he just says...it will happen, you just have to stay positive.

This sounds familiar, I was actually going to bring this topic up... Talking to DH's and what they say

Oreo, I have to admit that I cannot look at a pg woman or newborn right now without getting a huge knot in my throat and eyes watering. My neice was born this past thursday and all the pictures are adorable, but it also is gutwrenching for me because our loss is so fresh for me still.

Just when I think I'm doing ok, I'm really not

You're not alone, it's 1,000% ok, you're human!

BIG HUGS for you!!!

[JessP]

Big hugs hun. Its ok to vent here. I hope it doesn't take you to long to get a bfp. And kudos to you for going to see your friends baby. That takes strength that others just don't understand.

[mum74]

[krystal g]

Go ahead and vent. What you're feeling is normal. My co-worker's wife just had her baby the same week I miscarried and he had to show me pictures of his little baby girl the other day...men are not the most sensitive creatures...and it was so hard on me. Seeing photos of a newborn was difficult enough.....so what you've done is very brave...I'm not sure I could've handled that.

[~InHisHands~]

[SkyBaby]

... my DH tells me exact same thing. i get quite jealous seeing pregnant women... DH does too... I hope you get your BFP!!

[..Penelope..]

My sister came over with my nephew shortly after my loss to keep me company. I wasn't prepared for how hard it was to have a little one in the house.

Don't beat yourself up about what you can or can't handle when your neice is born. You're going to be ok around her eventually, but for now, it's ok to need to step back a bit.

Jeff is the same way as your DH...so I understand needing to come here to vent.

[Celena]

OREOBABY, how did it go?


I hope that you're doing okay and know that we're all here with you and for you!