[sweetxxonexx]

i just want to say i am very glad to have found this board.. i am 22 and lost my daughter at 23 weeks last june(2008) i am currentl 17 weeks pregnant and have this everlasting thought that nothing will go right. I expect bad news constantly and I freak myself out so bad.. Is there any way to get over this? Help? thanks

[Celena]

GIGANTIC HUGS TO YOU

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss sweetone! However, CONGRATS on your new pregnancy... you know the risks of miscarrying again is very slim! Just because you have had one loss does not mean you're going to lose this one. It's easier said than done, but stressing and expecting bad news isn't good for you or your pregnancy now honey... and you don't get to enjoy it either. Try not to worry so much, go with the flow and your appointments... get a dopplar to listen to your baby's heartbeating would that help give you reassurence?

I hope I'm not to intrusive, just wanted to ask a few questions...

Does your doctor monitor you more closely than last pregnancy?

Have you expressed your fears to your doctor?

I'm sure in talking to your doctor he or she could help aleviate some fears some, or that they have, right? I wish I had some magic fix to cure your worrisome feelings and fears! I can imagine how you feel, I think we can all relate! Hope we can help ease your fears and help you so you can enjoy your pregnancy!!!

[Trish36]

I am so very sorry for your loss!!! I totally understand what you are going through and I am not sure if it will ever entirely 'go away'. I think that once you've been through a loss you always have that fear in the back of your mind. That being said, just because it has happened doesn't mean it's going to happen again. You just have to try and enjoy the pregnancy as much as possible. I wish you a H&H pregnancy to the end and a beautiful baby in your arms in a few months!!

[~*Kixs*~]

(((HUGS))) I am very sorry for the loss of your DD.

As far as your current pregnancy...just take it day by day and enjoy every second you can with this new little peanut.

I have been pg 5x and have 2 living children...both came after a loss. Nothing ever makes it easier. Sadly we know the ugly side of pg.

JM has a stillbirth board that you may find some comfert on. The women of that board are so beautiful and accepting (not that the women here are not) and since your DD was a late term loss they may be able to offer you more insight. There is also a subforum on that board for PG after Stillbirth.

T&P for you and your new little one.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Hugs hun. I wish I had some advice for you but I really don't once you have had a loss its hard to enjoy your next pregnancy. I am sending you super sticky vibes though hun.

[Kary♥RN]

I am so sorry for loss... HUGS. I am so glad you found JM... The support is amazing! I am posting a link for the Pregnancy after loss board.. These women are right were you are! They probably can give you better insight on how to handle what you are feeling. Hope you start feeling better about your pregnancy! CONGRATS!

Pregnancy After Loss - JustMommies Message Boards

[sweetxxonexx]

yeah i talk to my doctor all the time and he said im going to drive him crazy!! (in a joking way of course) yes i go every 2 weeks and am going to a high risk doctor after the big ultrasound this thursday to double check everything.. thanks for all the kind words ladies

[momof6lopez]

Im so sorry for the loss of your dd and praying your little baby will be here in your arms soon. Sounds like all is well with this pregnancy and you are being watched closely. Did they have a reason for your dd's passing? I know its difficult to find the joy of this new pregnancy, so I would just take it one day at a time. Your big milestone is right around the corner and hopefully it will be smoothe sailing for you. God bless you.

[Celena]

Originally Posted by sweetxxonexx

yeah i talk to my doctor all the time and he said im going to drive him crazy!! (in a joking way of course) yes i go every 2 weeks and am going to a high risk doctor after the big ultrasound this thursday to double check everything.. thanks for all the kind words ladies

Awe, I'm glad you have a GOOD doctor!! That makes a nice bit of difference I hope you have an awesome ultrasound appointment this thursday... praying that your fears lessen with each passing day and everything is perfect in every way

[charm]

I just wanted to say ((HUGS)) I am sorry about your DD I don't have any advice sorry but I am glad you found this forum all the girls are great and full of beautiful support Take care and nice to meet you xxoo

[Mel1979]

I don't have any advice but I wanted to give you huge and wish you the best for the remainder of your pg. I hope joining us here at Just Mommies helps get you through the next few months.

[sweetxxonexx]

thanks so much guys you are all amazing! yeah my daughter had a tumor growing on her tailbone and it was so much for her little heart to handle and just passed away. I question every day why me.. i mean 1 out of 40,000 and it was my daughter.. i dont understand but i am trying to find joy and happiness in the little things in life and remember that no matter what she is my first born and love her with every inch of my heart.