[BrittanieH]

hi i don't know what i am doing its my first time so i hope this works!

Before me and my boyfriend got together he told me he might have gotten a girl pregnant and okay she was with more than just him and it wasn't a big deal. we have been together for 9 months now and 4 months ago i had radio active iodine treatment for thyroid cancer and last month i fond out i had a miscarriage and its really hard but what makes it worse is that we fond out that the child who is now 3 months is his and i want to be there for him and the child but it is so hard to go shopping and help him with his kid when mine is dead and it makes me want a child so bad but i am afraid of another miscarriage because its only been 4 months since i had RAI and i don't want him to 2 kids because we are still young and i didn't even want kids right now until the miscarriage and now i really do. i am so confused and upset.

thank you for listening to me...........

[momof6lopez]

Im so sorry for your loss last month. Being pregnant, even if for a short time, does change us from the inside. And it must be difficult with your current situation, I hope that your bf and you take the time you need to make sure this is really what you both want right now. You may want to take a couple of months and try and heal emotionally from your loss and see how your bf does with his new baby. It seems so far away, but a couple of months will fly by and hopefully your dr. can tell you when you should start trying to concieve. good luck to you.

[Celena]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Brittanie welcome to TTCAL

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS... I am so sorry for your loss.... Lossing a baby is hard. I am glad you found us. If you ever need to talk we are here for you... HUGS

[krystal g]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Brittanie. It is a very difficult and emotional time after a miscarriage...we've all been there. I agree with Lori, you should probably take some time to heal, especially when you have your BF's new baby to deal with as well...I can imagine that would be very hard on you emotionally. My miscarriage was only 5 weeks ago and these ladies have been wonderful. If you need to talk, vent, cry, we are all here for you.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I'm so sorry hun. I know its tough. Maybe you should wait a few months and talk it over with your BF and see what you guys decide. Hugs!

[BrittanieH]

thank you guys. its nice to find someone who understands. it seems like everyone else acts like its no big deal and i should just get over it.

[missy123]

Hi Brittanie. I am so sorry for your loss and that people feel that you should just get over it. From the moment you find out your pregnant you fall in love and have an instand bond. When you lose the baby, all of your hopes and dreams are shattered along with everything else. It takes time to heal emotionally and everyone grieves in different ways. Big Hugs and I am glad you found us.

[JessP]

I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I knew how to help. Sounds like a rough situation. I hope it all works out for you. Lots of hugs and support. Welcome to the board.

[Brittanie]

Hey I found this on a random search (I was having issues with my own screenname) and I saw this. I'm the cohost of pregnancy loss (and my maiden name starts with an H, so I felt like I was looking at myself =p). Feel free to come down and talk to us if you ever need us.

Anyway, don't let anyone ever tell you how you should feel. Yes, you have right to be upset. It's hard to look at others' healthy babies when you are missing your own. You have every right to grieve, too. It doesn't matter when you lost your baby, though other brush it off like since it was early, it should be easy to get over.

I think you should have an honest conversation with your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel, and see how he feels about the whole TTC situation.

Good luck!

[Trish36]

I'm so sorry for your loss!!! Please take care of yourself and take the time to grieve for your child. No one has the right to tell you to get over it. You have lost a child! Doesn't matter how far along pregnant you were or whether you originally wanted children or not. A lot of people don't understand or just say the wrong thing, even if they are trying to help. I totally understand your need for another baby to fill that void, and especially when someone close to you is having a baby, but you also need to take care of your health.
If you think that you are really ready to ttc again, speak to your doctor about the treatment you had and how it might affect a fetus if you were to get pregnant now. HUGS!!! I hope you will never have to experience another loss!

[BrittanieH]

Hey i don't know if any of you will see this but thank you all you were really sweet and it really did help. I have recently rejoined JM in the October 2010 PR!! haa We were talking to my doctor (6 months after) trying to set everything up so we could try and it was suppose to take 6 months to get my pills and everything right so we could start they were going to take me off of bc and told us to use condoms so we don't have to worry about the hormone getting in they way when we wanted to start and well i ended up getting pregnant the same month the doctor took me of of bc I was scared because it wasn't suppose to happen now but HE turned out very healthy! And We did get married before the baby so he is no longer my bf lol

On the other hand.... the girl wasn't so happy that he didn't get back with her when he found out the child was his and lets just say.. we have been in and out of court the last 2 years trying to see the little girl... who unfortunately we have only met about 10 times!

And that is so weird that we have the same name! i have never met anyone with the same spelling before!

I hope everything is going great with all of you ladys! Here is a pic of my little boy a few months ago
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[missy123]

He is so adorable!!! I love happy endings Congratulations.

[TnPhotoMama81]

aww congrats! I am so happy everything worked out

[outnumberedX3]

He is a cutie pie!! Congrats on your rainbow baby!!