Seriously...Why is it taking so long to get another bfp?!? RANT

MrsB1227 · #1 August 18th, 2009, 04:55 PM

I am starting to get really impatient and frustrated with the TTCAL process. My previous pregnancy that ended in m/c, I got a bfp my second cycle trying. I m/c in March and it is now August and NOTHING! We are bd'ing during my fertile times, and sometimes even when i'm not fertile just in case. My EDD with my m/c was November 4th, and I just keep dreading that that day will come and I will still not be pregnant. Everyone says I should relax and not focus on it,but that's easier said than done. I bought the ov-watch and just started using it this cycle. Hoping it works for me like it did for the women in the reviews i've read. Good luck and baby dust to us all

starrsgirl · #2 August 18th, 2009, 04:58 PM

I feel you! With my first two pregnancies, I got pg the first cycle trying! Now, we have been TTC for 4 cycles and nothing. I dunno, it's hard to stay positive sometimes.

Boble · #3 August 18th, 2009, 05:15 PM

i hate to sound insensitive because I know it is a hard road (and i mean no malice whatsoever.. we are all in the same boat) but my heart really goes out to those who have been ttc for so much longer. Kimberley is onto cycle 16 after her m/c. I know a couple of other ladies on here who have been ttc after there loss for 2+ years. I know its hard and each and every month feels like a kick in the guts.. but you will get there. I just hope it doesn't take as long for you as it has taken some of these other lovely ladies.. My first m/c was july 08.. preg again in Dec, m/c in Jan and I am still ttc since then.. so its been 8 months since my last m/c and my due date is just weeks aways (31st aug).

again i mean no malice.. I just wanted to point out that maybe compared to some you are a little bit luckier iykwim.

I hope you get your bfp very soon

Kary♥RN · #4 August 18th, 2009, 05:38 PM

I understand how this road goes.... My last m/c was 7 months ago... my due date is next month for that one.. my first loss was in Nov.. that edd was last month. It has been over a year... 13 months for me (actively TTC, 15 months since going of BC).. and still no baby. While understand both sides... I never thought I would be still trying this long into the game. But I can also understand you ladies that had no problem concieving right out of the gate. When we have a BFP boom... I think it brings emotions to the surface.. while we are happy for those who get their BFP.. it reminds we dont. Regardless if we are waiting for AF after a m/c and just want to be pregnant again, or on cycle 16... we all want the same thing. And we just have to remember when we get that BFP how we felt right now, right here. And remember when we post.... how we feel when we read the posts of those BFP's. I LOVE YOU LADIES, I wish BFP's for all of us.... HUGS

MrsB1227 · #5 August 18th, 2009, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Boble

i hate to sound insensitive because I know it is a hard road (and i mean no malice whatsoever.. we are all in the same boat) but my heart really goes out to those who have been ttc for so much longer. Kimberley is onto cycle 16 after her m/c. I know a couple of other ladies on here who have been ttc after there loss for 2+ years. I know its hard and each and every month feels like a kick in the guts.. but you will get there. I just hope it doesn't take as long for you as it has taken some of these other lovely ladies.. My first m/c was july 08.. preg again in Dec, m/c in Jan and I am still ttc since then.. so its been 8 months since my last m/c and my due date is just weeks aways (31st aug).

again i mean no malice.. I just wanted to point out that maybe compared to some you are a little bit luckier iykwim.

I hope you get your bfp very soon

i understand your point and realize that you did not mean to be malicious. My heart does go out to those that have been TTCAL much longer than myself, but in this world there will always be some who are worse off or have it harder than we do. some women can't get pregnant at all and probably think those of us that have gotten pregnant, even if it was a year or two years ago and ended in m/c are "lucky" and shouldn't complain because we at least CAN get pregnant. but i still feel that everyone has a right to be upset, to vent, show frustration on this board, whether you're just waiting for AF to show up after your recent m/c or have been TTCAL for a year or more.
everyone's journey is different and their experiences and feelings are no less than the next person's.
i would hate it for the newer girls on here to feel that they shouldn't share their frustration because there are others who have been trying longer. no hard feelings, just wanted to make that point

Boble · #6 August 18th, 2009, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by MrsB1227

i understand your point and realize that you did not mean to be malicious. My heart does go out to those that have been TTCAL much longer than myself, but in this world there will always be some who are worse off or have it harder than we do. some women can't get pregnant at all and probably think those of us that have gotten pregnant, even if it was a year or two years ago and ended in m/c are "lucky" and shouldn't complain because we at least CAN get pregnant. but i still feel that everyone has a right to be upset, to vent, show frustration on this board, whether you're just waiting for AF to show up after your recent m/c or have been TTCAL for a year or more.
everyone's journey is different and their experiences and feelings are no less than the next person's.
i would hate it for the newer girls on here to feel that they shouldn't share their frustration because there are others who have been trying longer. no hard feelings, just wanted to make that point

oh hun, i wasn't trying to say dont vent - far from the case - what i was trying to achieve by my post was to maybe give you another prospective... we all have down days and we all need to vent and be heard and just get out some of those feelings.. and for me I have found it easier to "move on" from those feelings (for lack of a better term - sorry, just can't think of a better way to put it) when people have pointed out that I am in fact a little bit luckier then others on this board - and out in the world in general - I was just trying to pass on that little bit of a gem to you as well iykwim in the hope that it may also help you too.
Again, i did not mean to offend or come across as a heartless b..ch or anything like that.. I was just trying to help a fellow ttcal'er.

momof6lopez · #7 August 18th, 2009, 09:23 PM

I wish it were more simple too

I had a loss between my second and third son, and it took 5 months to concieve. I believe it was due to the fact that I was further along and had a d&c. I'm now in cycle 5 again, coming from my 9.5wk loss and another d&c. I know in time it will happen, and if it takes a bit longer, I have no control over it.

I was due on November 2, and hoping that I will be pregnant again too before this day comes. But if it dosent, I know it will happen "one" day soon.

I just know that no matter how long it takes, when we loose our babies, any length of time to conceive again is too long

#8 August 18th, 2009, 10:06 PM

I just wanted to come and give us all hugs. I have read the posts and have agreed with all of them.

I guess a positive to this is that we are all here for support & to give support. We can share stories (good, bad), pass on hints/tips, listen etc... Thank goodness for forums like jm - I know that I would not have gotten through my ttc journey as well as I have without it and the people here.

Sending us all baby dust. x

Loving6 · #9 August 19th, 2009, 07:21 AM

I think ttcal just suck period.For everyone no matter the time.We all feel loss and dispair.We have each other though.

photogmama · #10 August 19th, 2009, 07:21 AM

I had hoped to be pregnant again by my duedate (8-24) but it isn't going to happen....well maybe technically it could happen, since I should O by then, but I won't know I am pregnant. I am really not sure how I feel about it, but part of me things that for some reason, my body needs to get past that milestone before it will move on.....like it is giving my angel its space in my family...its way of telling me that there is no way to fill the void that was my child.

I feel for everyone here.....wishing BFP and healthy babies for everyone....I am so glad to have this place to share my feelings with other that are travelling the same road.....Good luck to each and every one of us!