im joining you ladies (mc mentioned)

kitkat83 · #1 August 19th, 2009, 12:08 PM

I notice a few of u ladies from my ddc. Im Kat and im 26 me and my bf Matt just lost our precious little angel a few days ago i found out on sunday due to some spotting and and trip to the er that my little one never developed they did an ultrasound and found nothing at 5w3d so i knew she was gone. ive had a few days to prepare my self for what was gonna come and today i started. We are gonna start trying again as soon as we can while this really devastated us we are trying to look at the positive parts because we now know that we are able to get pregnant with out the help of drs as i have PCOS and we never thought it could happen naturally.

Now I have a few questions for u ladies if u dont mind
1.How long did u bleed for after your m/c i was only 5 w3d the doc said mine should be too bad i jsut wanted to know how ur ladies was

2. Will it hurt my next baby if i get pregnant soon after loosing one

3. Did u guys name your little one and get anything to remember her/him by? im looking in to getting me a little bracelet or necklace with her birthstone on it just something for me to remember her by and one of the m/c ribbions for my car.

i know some people think im weird for this cause they say she wasnt a "baby" yet but she was a baby to me the minute i saw that line on that test and she will always be my first little one and the one who made me a mommy

even though she not here with me in my arms she will always be in my heart

jensma · #2 August 19th, 2009, 12:11 PM

i miscarried at 5w 4d and the bleeding was similar to my normal period...just heavier throughout. It lasted the same time too. It is different for everyone.

So sorry for your loss.

SkyBaby · #3 August 19th, 2009, 12:45 PM

I am so sorry to hear. I miscarried at around 5 weeks on the 23rd of last month. Never had a u/s done though. Like you, i felt like a mommy the second i saw the second line on that test.

1. Bled 3-4 days. My periods are generally that length but my cramps weren't bad at all with the m/c.
2. I read on here that the only reason doctors recommend waiting is mostly for your emotional well-being. If your body is ready, it will happen. I'm waiting because I want to lose some weight.
3. I didn't do anything to remember our baby by. We didn't get a u/s done. I do regret that. That baby will never be forgotten. The most we have to remember him by is well.. our memories. Our happiness, love for the baby, all that.

You are NOT weird for feeling you are a mother the second you see that line, as I mentioned above I did as well. *hugs*

Kary♥RN · #4 August 19th, 2009, 01:00 PM

Kat, I am so sorry for you loss.. HUGS, I am glad you found us, Welcome! I always talk about my little girl, even though she will never be in my arms on this earth... Your a mommy as soon as that pregnancy test is +! HUGS

mrsissa · #5 August 19th, 2009, 01:00 PM

I think most of us develop a relationship with our babies from the first BFP. Do whatever it is that you want to do to remember your little one and anyone who doesn't understand just remember they have no idea what we are going through.

My 2nd loss was early on like yours and my bleeding was pretty much the same as a period it just took a little longer for af to return the following month.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you heal quickly mind and body so can start ttc again. Best of luck to you and lots of hugs.

Trish36 · #6 August 19th, 2009, 01:12 PM

I'm so sorry honey to see you here. HUGS!!!!!

I've lost my first at 12 weeks, so the bleeding was pretty bad, but the other 2 were chemical pg just under 5 weeks, so it was more like a very heavy AF. You may bleed a bit longer than normal, that's what keeps happening to me. I used to be 5 days now it's more like 8-10.
It definately will not hurt the next baby if you get pregnant right away. Good luck and I hope that next time the little bean will stick!!!!
We haven't named our babies. My first loss ended in 12 weeks, but the baby was only 8 1/2 weeks, so barely anything there. I don't even know if it was a boy or girl because I m/c at home and unless they did genetic testing you wouldn't be able to tell. I call my babies my 'angels'. And I definately love them all and will never forget them, no matter what anyone else says. My DH thinks it's the same baby trying to come back again and one day he/she will be here with us.

Once again, I'm sorry for your loss and please know that we are here for you.

ablake06 · #7 August 19th, 2009, 02:08 PM

i am sorry for your loss !
i have lost 2 angels both at 13 weeks (both were missed - they passed around 11 weeks)- seeing both of them on the ultrasound makes it hard - each of them made me a mom!!
i have a friend that is making me a bracelet! she is making if with clear and silver beads and with a butterfly charm and by that charm i am having 2 beads that dangle - with their birthstones and once we get pregnant again and have our child she will replace some of those clear beads with their birthstone and once we have our 2nd the rest of the clear beads will be replaced with that childs birthstone - so its kind of a mom's bracelet! that i can wear everyday to remember my children angels on earth and angels in heaven!!!

stay strong and have faith

tatedivine · #8 August 20th, 2009, 03:40 PM

I didn't bleed for very long after either of my mc's. My first was natural and the second I had a d & c.

I don't think that it'll hurt your baby if you get pregnant soon after this mc, I actually think that when your body is ready for it again, you'll get pregnant. At least, thats what my last doc told me, so now I'm just waiting for that to happen.

To remember my little angels I am going to get 2 little baby angels tattooed on my forearms.

kitkat83 · #9 August 20th, 2009, 03:53 PM

thank you ladies

My sister bought me a necklace with her birthstone and and a baby tear drop on it and my mm bought me earrings with the pink and blue ribbion on it plus a ribbion for our cars

I also am going to get a tattoo i found the cutest pic of a little angel sleeping on a cloud and it looks just like i thought Savvy would look

Loving6 · #10 August 20th, 2009, 04:08 PM

First I am so very sorry for your loss.I m/c at 6 weeks 1 day.I saw the heartbeat and then 4 days later there was no longer a heartbeat.I had a d&c.I bleed for 2 weeks after d&c.I got my first AF 81 days after(11.5 weeks).We have been ttc since.Also if you are ready to try again then do so.Good luck to you and hugs.

starrsgirl · #11 August 20th, 2009, 06:01 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. It looks like the other ladies gave some great answers. This is a wonderful board for talking it all out.

momof6lopez · #12 August 20th, 2009, 06:27 PM

Im so sorry for you loss Kitkat. I lost my last one at 9.5wks, saw the heartbeat at 6.5wks. and then it was just gone. I had a d&c, and chromosone testing, so I know she was a girl. I have 4 living children on earth and 4 in heaven. The moment the test turns +, we all become a mommy.

I do have u/s pictures and the bracelt from the hospital when they saw the heart beat at 135bpm, and the bracelt from two weeks later when she passed. My dh bought a angel trinket box to my memories of her in. I still have not opened it since she passed and its been 5 months. Just cant do it yet.

I got first AF in a few weeks and they were all messed up for the first few months. Now back on track again, and hoping for a miracle again.

Good luck to you and never feel silly for having something made to remember your little one.

irishblessing · #13 August 20th, 2009, 09:52 PM

I lost mine at about 5 weeks. The bleeding was similar to my regular period (but started more with an obvious clot and I knew I had lost it) The bleeding was more clotty than usual and lasted for about 5 days. I got my regular period 2.5 weeks later.

I don't think it does hurt the next pregnancy if you get pregnant immediately afterwards. I've heard of people getting pregnant right away and going on to have a successful pregnancy.

No, I haven't done anything to remember the baby/pregnancy. I don't really have anything to remember it by, no pictures etc.

charm · #14 August 20th, 2009, 10:06 PM

Kat I am so sorry for the loss of your baby I know it's hard when they say it's not a baby but I am with you I classed my little bean as a baby as soon as I found out I think the girls have covered your other questions. We tried for another baby straight away it took six cycles to happen I think your body will only do what it is ready to do goodluck hun ((HUGS))

Elijah'sMommy · #15 August 21st, 2009, 04:36 AM

First, I am so sorry for your loss.

I naturally miscarried around 6 1/2 weeks. I bled or 2 weeks and got my first AF after 3 months. After that AF, I got my BFP. Although I never got anything for the baby I lost, I thing about and talk about this baby often with my hubby, and know that my angel will never be forgotten.

.:Shortcake:. · #16 August 21st, 2009, 05:37 AM

Welcome hun! I am very sorry for your loss. I had to have a D&C since I was farther along and I bled for 5-7 days. The beginning was pretty bad with clotting and cramping. As for would it hurt your next little one no. You can start trying right away and get pregnant and your little one be fine. My doctor said if your body is not ready you won't get pregnant. I have a ribbon on my car and a book with all my sons ultrasounds. I also have a necklace that says mommy to an angel. Your not weird. She was your baby and still is. Your an Angel Mommy.