[Celena]

Yesterday was our wedding anniversary, it was a horrible day! No celebrating, nothing!

Then, I think *it* finally hit me yesterday out of no where and I feel so empty, crying nonstop

My husband is being such a jerk, he doesn't even try to understand or be there for me. He says he;s just tired of me being miserable and doesn't want to be miserable too. Well duh, what did I just go thru and why can't he *get it* to understand

All I want to do is crawl away and hide, alone feel so empty and alone

[Trish36]

HUGS!!!! You're not alone.

[KDD]

I'm sorry. We are here for you anytime.

[Celena]

I'm curious, do you and DH's ever have rough spots when going thu your emotions about having the loss(es)?

[momof6lopez]

Im sorry Celena, sounds like an emotional day for you and DH. Men have a natural instinct to fix us and when the tears wont clear up, they feel "broken" too. The same kind of broken that we feel after m/c. Its the way they are made up. I hope you and your DH maybe pick another day to celebrate. Your not alone.

[mum74]

My dh and I definitely had different emotions after the loss.. for example to make things 'better' - ie. to make me smile he wanted to get a friend to babysit and take me out to dinner on the Saturday night after my m/c. I think he was disappointed I didn't want to go! It was actually hard for me to explain that I only found out on the Wednesday that there was no heartbeat, spent the day in hospital for my d&c on the Thursday, so NO, two days later I do NOT want to go out to dinner because I felt very vulnerable and all I wanted to do was stay home and cry my heart out.

I'm sorry your dh isn't being more understanding. You have gone through a very big roller coaster with everything lately and it's not very fair for him to be annoyed that you're still feeling sad.

[Boble]

*hugs* sorry to hear you are having a hard couple of days.

even though you didn't celebrate your anniversary i just wanted to say congratulations. *hugs* we are always here for you

[Mel1979]

I am so sorry you are going through such a hard time Men are just different to us and don't know how to cope when they can't 'fix' things. I'm sure your DH's heart is breaking not being able to make you feel better. I hope you get to celebrate your anniversary sometime soon

[..Penelope..]

I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time, honey.

I hope that you and DH are able to talk it out soon. Please know that are NOT alone.

[Oreobaby]

I am so sorry sweetie...when we first experienced the loss, DH was also very sad...I am still sad, and have very difficult days, and DH doesn't understand some times, so we definately have rough patches with that. I have found myself leaning more and more on my JM girls when I'm have a bad day...I think because we are mom's and are more attatched to these children, that it is harder on us, and sometimes DH's don't understand because they don't have the hormonal and physical attatchment to them!! I hope that we can help encourage you here and help to make it easier as the days go on!!

[JessP]

So sorry you are having a rough time. I hope you are feeling a little better tonight. Men are just different hun as the other ladies have said. That is why we have each other . Lot of hugs.

[Kary♥RN]

OH Celena HUGS.... I can tell I had a very hard time with my dh... he didn't want me to be upset, or to cry.. would tell me stop.. (not meanly... but to stop because he didn't want me upset). We had many fights that I would say to him... you didn't care enough, or as much as me, or care like I did. Untill I was crying and telling my dear friend.... and she said to to stop... she had talked to Tom and he said to her.... "I don't know what to do, I don't know how to help her, I am upset too, it was my baby too". Do you know he has never told me those words, He has never said that to me, I know he never will. He wants to be able to make it all right. And because he can't it kills him. And he will forver try to be strong for me. What you are going through is another crapy part of what we have to go through... Haven't we been through enough? Why do we know have to go through this? HUGS... Things will work out Celena.. and as my friend above would always say... And this too shall pass.

[starrsgirl]

I'm so sorry you are feeling down. DH and I have had some rough times coping with our last loss too. I told him the other day that I will probably always be sad about my losses and he just couldn't understand that. He thought there was something wrong with me.

I was not very well for about 3 months after my second loss. I actually don't remember too much of those months looking bad. I was so lucky that my work was good to me. They put me on paid medical leave for 2 weeks after my loss and even once that was gone, they were still cool with me wandering into work hours late and in a daze. But, my point was, I was NOT doing OK. In retrospect, I think I should have gotten some professional help...but that was a scary thought to me. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I get that you feel like you are losing your mind...and that your heart is broken. Just hang in there. I don't think it's ever going to "be better" but I do think better days are ahead.

[Celena]

Aaawwwwee, thank you I'm so thankful for each of you