[mommie2many]

Since I can't remember from my last m/c. How long did it take for your first af show after a m/c ?

I m/c on Aug 17 and still bleeing. I passed everything on the 17th and had heavy bleeding all week now its turned into spotting for the last 3 days, not sure if its from the m/c or if its my af. I just want the spotting to stop know. Ive been spotting/bleeding for 3 weeks now.


Next ???


How soon can you have sex after a m/c ?

[momof6lopez]

Since your still spotting, your cervix is still open slightly. Dr.'s usually remomend that you wait for sex till all the spotting stops. (increased risk of infection when the cervix is still open.)

Did you get blood tests done to see if all HCG is out of your system? Since your still bleeding/spotting this long, that would be my advice. AF wont show until your HCG is close to 0. You could POAS, but sometimes emotionally this is hard.

Af usually returns once the bleeding from the m/c is done by about 4wks-6wks. Have you had a post m/c checkup?

I pray this all ends soon for you, emotionally it has got to be hard. Good luck to you.

[Celena]

I had a rather long miscarriage in July, spotting for a week leading up to the actual miscarriage, heavy bleeding for 2,3 days then spotting for several more days... I even had EWCM during my spottin!!!

My miscarriage this month lasted longer than my af, it was similar to my loss in July but not as much "stuff" however the pattern of spotting / bleeding / spotting was similar.

The loss I had the summer 2000, I spotted for a day, had aweful cramps and bleeding one day and then the bleeding tapered of for several days after until it was gone.

Anything is possible, I ovulated just after my miscarriage while still spotting!!!

Oh and as far as having sex after a miscarriage, my doctors said it's fine but up to me when I felt comfortable to do so physically and emotionally. Obviously not on the *day of* ya know... sometimes docs do say wait a week... and if you have a D&C then there's limits as to when you can because that is a surgery

[Kary♥RN]

I was given the ok at my two week follow up. I would call your doctor if you don't have a follow appt. You don't want to get an infection. Did you take a HPT? Is it negative? I would say the spotting you are having is still from the M/C. But just to make sure your HCG levels are neg... you can than expect AF... If it is still Positive you know the spotting is still from the M/C.

HUGS

[Oreobaby]

I only spotted for about a week and have since ovulated and am 4 DPO...but I have heard that it is different for everyone...I am still not 100% sure all the HCG is out of my system...last time I checked it was between 0 and 20....I have to go this week for one more blood test, and hopefully finally the numbers are zero!!!

[mommie2many]

I didnt have a m/c follow up with my last one. Waiting to hear back tomorrow how the hcg leves are at.

We had sex 2 nights ago, then I was reading up online and read you can "O" 14 days after a m/c

[Celena]

Mommie, I'm a weird medical anomoly according to my new doc... I ovulated in sync with my cycle prior to becoming pg and then miscarrying our babe. And I became pregnant a second time from O'ing then... it ended up in a miscarriage because of a dip poop doctor I was going to.

Anyways, anything is possible! However I agree with Kary GET CHECKED OUT, especially if you didn't have a follow up and things don't seem quiet right to you. Definitly going to see the doc could clear up your questions

[Banned-Christina226]

Mommie2Many,

Hey hon. First and foremost, I want to say I'm so sorry for your loss. August 5th I had a m/c and it still hurts (emotionally).

Anyway, this is my story: I was 9dpo when I woke up and used the bathroom. I wiped and saw PINK blood on the TP. I thought af was coming. I was pretty upset because I was having pregnancy symptoms and dh and I were ttc and I KNEW we had the right timing and everything (when it came to ovulation and sex). I put on a pantyliner and told dh that af is starting. We went to a friends house. I had VERY little cramping, like I had way before the bleeding started. They just felt like af cramps. I kept using her bathroom because I STILL had to pee a lot (just like I had to keep peeing prior to the bleeding). I would wipe and see very little pink blood and the pantyliner didn't get fulled at all for the entire day. I told dh I wasn't sure what was going on but I figured af would start anyway and I'm probably not pregnant. My friend kept telling me she KNEW I was pregnant even though I was bleeding. She thought it was just some light bleeding during early pregnancy but I just felt something "different". Well, when we got home I checked the pad and it was completely brown and just like, streaks of brown. No blood whatsoever. Not even PINK, like the way it started. Every day I'd wear a pantyliner because I didn't need a pad. Even at night I'd only wear a pantyliner. I'd wake up in the morning and check and wipe and there would be very little brown with CM mixed. For 3 days I had this brown "blood". August 5th rolled around and I had a feeling I was going to wake up to RED blood and sure enough, I did. I laid in bed afterward, and after putting on a pad because I just KNEW it was going to get worse, and I cried. I couldn't figure out what was happening with my body. If this was af or what. A m/c didn't enter my mind just yet. I spoke to my mom on the phone and she told me she thought I should still take a test to be sure. I really wasn't going to but I guess in a way it was meant that I did. She came over in the early afternoon, maybe it was 3 something, I'm not too sure of the time. Then dh came home. My mom asked how the bleeding was and I told her that the pad isn't FULLED yet but the blood is turning dark reddish brown but MORE of it. I still didn't have cramps though. Just lower back pain and pains in my legs. I still had pregnancy symptoms. I can't count how many times I peed which led me to keep checking of course and the more I checked the more I noticed the bleeding getting worse. Anyway, I took a test. Accu-clear. There were 2 in a box. I peed in a cup, dipped the test, looked away as I wiped because I figured it would be ONE line as I told my mom this was a waste of money because I can't be pregnant. It wasn't even a minute that gone by when I looked at the test that was laying on my bathroom sink. I couldn't believe my eyes. There was a second line and PINK. I was amazed. As I was doing this, I heard my mom tell dh that she knows I'm going to come out that bathroom and have a positive test. Well, I came out and just by the look on my face my mom knew there was 2 lines. She looked at the test, I went online and googled images of a positive Accu-clear test and it looked just like mine. I was so confused and kept asking why would I be bleeding like this. My mom was convinced it was my last af. I kept thinking maybe it's just an evap but it really didn't look like one. She left, dh and I laid on the couch and he told me to be happy because we finally got what we wanted but I told him that I couldn't be happy because the bleeding isn't NORMAL. Well, I decided to take the other test maybe an hour or so later and the line took a longer time to show up and it was a lot lighter than the first test. I knew something wasn't right. To get 2 evaps on the same brand...I knew something wasn't right. I told dh to look at it and he even said it didn't look right. I took pics of it and sent them to my mom and she said it's just probably the bleeding. I told her the bleeding wouldn't hold back a bfp. Around this time the bleeding was getting a tad bit heavier. I decided to take a shower and by this time it must've been around 8 something. I rememberd feeling a little lump down there like a baby or something. I had some pains in my lower back and groin again. Still no cramps. Definitely not like af at all. Usually I need motrin when I get af but I didn't at all. After my shower I peed again and still more blood and this time it was (tmi) stringy with a lot of CM. I called my mom when I got out the shower and told her and she said it sounds like a last af. She was still convinced it was my last af. I still knew something wasn't right. I stared at those tests for hours. At around 10:30pm I was online talking to one of my best friends and I told her what was happening. I told her I'm going to check again. Dh fell asleep on the couch and luckily the kids (we have 2 little girls) were still up. I passed a quarter-sized blood clot. I looked in the toilet and said to myself..great now I know what's going on. I went back to my friend online and told her and she suggested I go to the ER right away but instead I called a hospital and spoke to a ob/gyn and I explained everything and she suggested I go in. I woke up dh and I told him what happened in the bathroom and I told him I have to get to the ER. We got the kids dressed and my friend told me to go and pick her up. Dh asked me how did I feel and I told him that I felt like I was having a miscarriage. On our way there, my back was hurting a lot more but still no cramps. I kept having to pee once we got to the ER. Anyway, the doc took blood and urine. He did a vaginal exam and told me my cervix wasn't bleeding a lot (I didn't understand that part). He told me it's most likely a miscarriage and it's common. It happens in 20-30% of pregnancies. I didn't take anything he was saying serious though. I figured it was probably just him warning me if anything. I actually thought the doc would come in and tell me I was never pregnant and the tests were evaps (I thought this because it happened to me in June so I thought it would just be typical to happen again). Well we were there all night. We didn't get out til 8am. Anyway, he did a transvaginal u/s and said he couldn't see anything. My urine came back negative and he told me it seems as if I passed everything already. I was just like ok...um...when can my husband and I try again and he said right away if I feel up to it and that he didn't want me to leave yet til he got my beta results back so I said ok. My friend and I sat around in the ER room waiting and waiting. First, I went and told dh who was in the waiting room with the kids and he was really upset. I was holding up pretty good. But sitting there and waiting I was getting anxious and started tearing a little but my friend kept telling me to not think about it. Well, he came up to me and showed me the paper and he said my levels were at a 6 so they need to be a zero. Once I heard that I knew ok, I definitely m/c. It's like I didn't believe anything he said before that. Then, he asked me to sign the papers and I felt the tears well up in my eyes. I just kept nodding my head while he was talking and when I looked down at the paper I saw the words "Spontaneous abortion- complete- it appears your pregnancy has ended suddendly". I just broke down after signing my name. The doc actually hugged me and my friend took over. I was a mess. I bled for maybe 5 more day after that so counting from the day I started spotting, I bled for 9 days. It wasn't that bad at all actually and I've had 2 losses before this one and I bled a lot more and I was in a lot more pain. This one hurt me more emotionally though for some odd reason.

My God, this is so long, I'm sorry. Anyway, on the paper it said to avoid sexual intercourse for 3 weeks because your cervix is slightly opened while bleeding and you can get an infection. But if the bleeding stops you can have sex again as long as you feel ready. Dh and I had sex EXACTLY 14 days from the m/c and I was extremely fertile. We had sex 2x and I may be pregnant right now actually.

So, honestly, to answer your question...you SHOULD find out why you're bleeding still. I mean, everyone is different and miscarriages are different. My friend miscarried 3 days after I did and she bled for only 2-3 days and it was just spotting, that's all. Every miscarriage is different. I went to get my levels checked 2 days after the m/c and they were at a 1 so I was okay. I was supposed to get checked out and see if I needed a d&c but I didn't. I felt I passed everything and I was okay.

Anyway, having sex now should be outta the question only because you're still bleeding. Get checked out to find out what's going on.

I can't believe this was SO long. I just thought I'd share with you my story.

[Trish36]

I had my m/c a day after yours and I'm still spotting also. I find that after my first m/c my AF is weird. It lasts much longer than it used to . 9 or 10 days sometimes. I'm on day 8 today, so hopefully this will stop soon. Usually by day 10 it's done with. If you continue bleeding past 10 days, definately see your doctor and get checked out. I guess it's a combination of m/c bleeding & AF - you are shedding the lining. I hope it stops soon and you can move on. HUGS!!!

[Loving6]

I'm very sorry fr your lossI had spotting for 2 weeks after my d&c.I got AF 11.5 weeks(81 days) after my m/c.

[JessP]

I would call the dr if you are worried. Although sounds like it might be normal too, for some. Everyone is different but whenever you are worried you should call. I hope you stop bleeding soon. I was told to wait three cycles to TTC and wait till the bleeding stopped for sex. The last part because of infection like the other ladies said. Sorry you are going through this lots of hugs hun.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I had to have medicine to bring on AF after my first m/c. After my second m/c it came around 6 weeks later. Both times we started DTD as soon as the bleeding stopped.