Anyone have a friend at home that is TTC too? (pg mentioned)

Celena · #1 August 25th, 2009, 01:30 PM

I have a friend who had special circumstances with her dh, but now they're TTC. We're sort of buddies in a way with it LOL

Anyways, I felt sorta bad sharing the things I've gone thru lately... but she said she's learning so much and she's totally not scared. She's been really supportive and helped me get out of the house when I had found out about the most recent loss.

I was just curious if you had a friend that has gone thru the same things and is TTC or is just TTC along the same time with you that you're buddies with.

I know that if she were to get pregnant that I would be happy for her, but a teeny bit of jealousy would be there... nothing against her of course just with the losses it can be a hard pill to swollow sometimes.

Kary♥RN · #2 August 25th, 2009, 01:34 PM

I did... but they have had thier babies....

momof6lopez · #3 August 25th, 2009, 02:01 PM

I do too. Although I met her here, we talk IRL and if she were to get pg before me, I would be tickeled pink (no pun intented

) We went through our losses together (withing 1 month) and talk/write eachother every day for almost 5 months now. We have more in common than just our losses, thats why we hit it off so well. When she or I gets AF we wish with all our hearts that the other one gets a BFP. In a weird way, would make us feel better if one of us were pg

Celena · #4 August 25th, 2009, 02:36 PM

Kary I'm sorry, and I'm sorry if I brought up something sensitive

I'm getting very teary eyed because I can only imagine the feelings.

Lori that's really cool! What a great buddy system

Trish36 · #5 August 25th, 2009, 06:44 PM

My SIL has been trying for years to get pregnant and she was basically given a 1% chance due to the fact that she's not Oing. The only option she's had was donor egg IVF. It's kind of neat to be able to talk to her about what's going on and all the different tests, cause she's been through it all. the only difference is that she's never had a loss. She did have a set of boy/girl twins last year and is going to do it again next month. I just pray that I get pregnant at the same time.

MrsB1227 · #6 August 25th, 2009, 07:22 PM

My close friend is Ttc currently. It is exciting to have someone else right there with you, but she has never been pregnant Before or had a loss so the experience will be totally different for her. I am hoping that we get pregnant at the same time with sticky beans. It would be awesome to have a pg buddy.

JessP · #7 August 25th, 2009, 09:43 PM

I had a friend who went through multiple losses before I was ttc #1. She taught me so much. And while it was scary I learned so much from her about my cycles and how it all works that it made getting pregnant easier when the time came. I thank her for what she taught me. So I think it is great when people can share and are open to it. That is neat that some of you ladies have buddies.

Boble · #8 August 25th, 2009, 10:57 PM

with my loss in July last year a friend of mine was preg at the same time - just a week behind me. She went on to have a little boy in Feb (2 days after my due date).

Then with my loss in Jan a friend of mine was preg and due a month before me.. she has had her little boy in July. And a girl i used to work with is due on the same day as I was due - she is yet to have her bub.

I have been happy for them.. but also very very sad for myself. It has been so hard seeing them go all the way through their pregnancies and for me to still be here, not only without my bubs but not even preg again yet.

it has been very hard for me at times.

momof6lopez · #9 August 25th, 2009, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Boble

with my loss in July last year a friend of mine was preg at the same time - just a week behind me. She went on to have a little boy in Feb (2 days after my due date).

Then with my loss in Jan a friend of mine was preg and due a month before me.. she has had her little boy in July. And a girl i used to work with is due on the same day as I was due - she is yet to have her bub.

I have been happy for them.. but also very very sad for myself. It has been so hard seeing them go all the way through their pregnancies and for me to still be here, not only without my bubs but not even preg again yet.

it has been very hard for me at times.

Boble, my heart aches for you. Im so sorry. It is YOU to whom I feel the most pain, the people that have suffered so many losses, and have yet to hold their own babies. Not that I dont feel pain for all of us, especially you Celena, who suffured two so close together.

Boble · #10 August 26th, 2009, 03:26 AM

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Originally Posted by momof4lopez

Boble, my heart aches for you. Im so sorry. It is YOU to whom I feel the most pain, the people that have suffered so many losses, and have yet to hold their own babies. Not that I dont feel pain for all of us, especially you Celena, who suffured two so close together.

Lori thank you so much for you kinds words. I am lucky that I have a gorgeous 10 year old son (from a previous relationship) and he is just my world! Without him I dont know how I would have made it so far in this whole TTCAL "journey". My DH however is yet to have a baby of his own and although he is a great step dad to my son... he missed so so much. He has only been part of DS's life since he was 7 so he missed all those great years before that. He has never held a child of his own, watched them grow, learn to walk, talk and develop their own little personality.. so I feel blessed that I have had that opportunity and sad that he hasn't.

I hope we all get nice sticky beans soon x

.:Shortcake:. · #11 August 26th, 2009, 03:32 AM

Actually I really don't talk to alot of my old friends. They all have children and seem to think that because I don't that I shouldn't be included in girls night out... so basically its just me, my hubby, my mom and you ladies.

farasha · #12 August 26th, 2009, 03:49 AM

I have two close friends who are also trying for their first. The three of us were roommates from college. They've been trying for years without a BFP. They're both going through fertility treatments now. I used to feel guilty when I got pregnant both times so easily, but when I lost both pregnancies, I lost that guilt too. We are just going through totally different things... Still, it's nice to have them to talk to and I love them SO much..

I truly hope they both get pregnant soon and don't ever have to go through loss, but I know it will hurt a bit. But, it's a hurt that I'm more than willing to go through, because they are so dear to my heart. I really want this for them and I know they really want it for me. Sometimes they say that when one of us finally has a baby, it will be a baby for all of us.

missy123 · #13 August 26th, 2009, 04:27 AM

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Originally Posted by momof4lopez

I do too. Although I met her here, we talk IRL and if she were to get pg before me, I would be tickeled pink (no pun intented

) We went through our losses together (withing 1 month) and talk/write eachother every day for almost 5 months now. We have more in common than just our losses, thats why we hit it off so well. When she or I gets AF we wish with all our hearts that the other one gets a BFP. In a weird way, would make us feel better if one of us were pg

Awwwww... I love you so much Lori! I honestly am jealous of when I hear of other girls IRL being pregnant but with you I hope and pray that you get pregnant fast and get all sad for you when you tell me AF came. I can't wait for your BFP and let me tell you Aunt Missy will be right there when the baby is born! I can't wait until you are pregnant and fat and complaining of whatever we complain about when we are pregnant, lol.

Actually, I don't get jealous of any BFP's on this board. We have all been through so much pain and anguish. Having a baby should never be this hard.

((Hugs)) to everyone and I hope we all graduate out of here soon.

~Lynda~ · #14 August 26th, 2009, 06:48 AM

my friend is almost 8 months along now!!! i was pregnant before her, but then lost two babies and she got pregnant and is doing well!!! i'm happy for her, but it's very hard for me!!!!

missy123 · #15 August 26th, 2009, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by ~Lynda~

my friend is almost 8 months along now!!! i was pregnant before her, but then lost two babies and she got pregnant and is doing well!!! i'm happy for her, but it's very hard for me!!!!

I am so sorry Lynda. One of my close friends girlfriend is pregnant and he talks about her pregnancy all the time. It is hard to hear at times and sometimes I feel like that should be me!

irishblessing · #16 August 26th, 2009, 10:29 AM

A couple of our best friends who are also married are TTC. I hope we both get pregnant at the same time!

Oreobaby · #17 August 26th, 2009, 01:15 PM

Unfortunately no...my sister is TTC as well (almost 2 yrs now with no success) but she is not open to talk about these things with me...although I wish she was.

krystal g · #18 August 26th, 2009, 02:09 PM

I have a really good friend who is not currently TTC but is thinking about it in the near future. She has a 3 year old and an 8 month old and had a loss before each these pregnancies...she almost expects another loss before she has baby number 3, like it's a pattern with her. She was a really big help when I went through my loss, but it's still bittersweet to be around her littlest one.

#19 August 26th, 2009, 10:27 PM

I have two close friends IRL ttc. One suffered a m/c approx. 8 weeks ago & she has been great to talk to, although I have tried to focus on her more than me as this is her first loss.

The other friend hasn't had any losses but is frustrated b/c it is taking her longer than anticipated (she has been ttc for approx. 3 cycles). I don't talk her about ttc and the fact that for me it has been 10 mths & 2 losses, it's too hard for me to be upbeat and bright about her ttc journey when that is her only gripe.

I am secretly hoping we all fall pg around the same time. I had only 1 friend who was pg when I was last time, but she was approx 5 months behind me.