[ldovey83]

I went in today to see my OB since I wanted answers as to why I keep miscarrying.. We went over my charts and when I got my cycles and my BFP's.. Well because I never got another blood beta after I went to the ER with my first miscarriage and I just did another home pregnancy test he dosen't think I had a second miscarriage.. I told him that I didnt have insurance at the time so I had no way to get one.. He said that urine can show neg but blood could still be pos, and there still be tissue.. I told him about how I got a cycle before I got pregnant and used an OPK to determine when I ovulated and he told me that I could Ovulate the day I miscarry.. It all deteremines on when the ovaries reset themselves and that OPK's are a waste of money.. So then I had to hear that from DH.. Well he did a beta blood level check on me and an internal to see how my uterus was since I didn't go to the ER with this last miscarriage he wanted to know how I knew I wasn't still pregnant.. Well the internal showed my uterus was small so he said he isn't pos but is pretty sure that my blood test will come back negative. Then he wants me to wait until AF shows and try after that. He told me that when you miscarry your body dosen't cleanse itself and get rid of the old stuff properly so that is why you should wait, but I thought that is why you bleed cause your body is dispossing of it all.. I am confused and felt I got no help what so ever... I fell that he dosen't even care about how I felt, and dosen't want to try to help me so I don't miscarry again.

[JessP]

So sorry hun sounds like a doctor I would not want to see. It sounds like he just told you that you didn't know what was going on with your own body. Which is crap because we all know our own bodies. I would try to find a new doctor if you can. Hugs hun!

[missy123]

I would find a different doctor. He did not listen to you at all. Even though doctors don't always have the answers, they still need to listen to your needs. And now to have DH doubting the situation?? Completely unnecessary.

I am sorry you had to deal with that. I am mad for you. grrrrrrrrrr

[Trish36]

I agree that you should find another dr. If he's contradicting everything that you know is going on with your body, then I wouldn't want to deal with him for anything else. Sorry that DH is taking his side. HUGS!!!

[krystal g]

Oh, that makes me so mad! I would dump that Dr. & find a new one. He obviously doesn't care enough to listen to you and sounds like one of those Dr's who thinks the patient knows nothing. I'm sorry, but knowing your own body, charting, using OPKs...that's what you do! And to my knowledge, a miscarriage and the bleeding that goes along with it IS your body cleansing itself! Grrrrrr. I've personally had enough of crappy Dr's lately and think we all deserve someone who will not only listen to our needs but actually WANT to help us!!! That is what we pay them for, right? OK, sorry about the rant. I hope you find someone who will help you soon.

Sorry in advance my rant is different than the other ladies.

If you feel like you need to change doctors, follow your gut. But he isn't fully wrong when he says give it some time, it may take a bit to get all the ducks in a row after miscarrying. I know for me it took over 5 months for the heavy AF and small clots to stop. I had to keep going for blood work that whole time because I was still showing a low level and testing positive. Your body also does strange things when you have a loss. And it's not unheard of to ovulate during or right after miscarried. But to piece the puzzle together why you are miscarrying may not be the easiest thing for a doctor without the right tests being done after or during your miscarriage. I know it's frustrating but you want your body in pike condition when you get pregnant again.

[ldovey83]

Thanks ladies for all the advice.. I think I am just going to keep staying in tune to my body, and I am going to use the method NTNP that way it is no stress on me, and when God is ready to bless me it will happen. Can't say I won't try to bed more around O time..LOL, but I am not going to use OPK's...

[Celena]

LDovey... I would get a second opinion from another OB office. It wouldn't hurt to hear what another doctor might say. At least right now you have the opportunity to do so having ins right?

I totally sympathize with you, my old doc totally screwed me and my little pea because of his lack of concern. (or lack of time invested, dunno)

If you're happier not stressing the OPK's then forget 'em, I think sometimes it's easier to listen to what our bodies tell us... altho' those little things help reinforce what we think is going on they are a double edged sword if you KWIM, we use 'em to help us and sometimes they just stress us out. Only you know what you can take and can't take... you have to take care of you which includes your sanity and stress levels.

I'm sorry that doc was such a turdmuncher! Please consider a second opinion,
it might give you a peace of mind!

[Kary♥RN]

I am sorry for your feelings with this Dr. Regardless of how this appt went, you need to be happy and compfortable with your dr. If this is the person you are going to rely on getting pregnant and durring your pregnancy, and you are going to need this Dr to ease your mind since your have had TWO m/c, (we all know our bodies, and when you test +, after having a - HPT) And to be able to hear and voice your concerns. I think that he "did" the right things, but I wasn't thier to know how he treated you. On the 17th I my yearly, my Dr told me OPK's were a waste also and not to use them. He also wanted me to wait a few more cycles before doing Blood Work to check the hormones.. since he feels my body only recentaly got back on track, while I didn't want to hear what he was saying, and pressed the issue to start blood work, and he agreed. He is the Dr. and I do trust, and like him.

You have to like and be comfortable with the Dr. Good Luck... HUGS

[Mel1979]

It's so important to have a Dr that you trust and that is willing to do anything to help you so I would definitely be looking for a different Dr. This journey is hard enough without having unsupportive people around! Good luck!

[ldovey83]

The hard part is I really do like my DR... He saw me my whole pregnancy with my son and he was the one who did my csection.. The office has a few different DR's in the same group, but I chose him because I have seen him more frequently then the others... I just feel that I got the brush off on my concerns.. I mean I waited a cycle before I got pregnant last time and I still miscarried.. So al he told me was to wait a cycle and start trying again.. So I mean how does that help me to know I am not going to miscarry again a third time? That is what I am torn about.... I am scared to death about it happening a third time cause I just can't emotionally deal with it a third time..

[charm]

I am sorry hun It's hard when you do like the doctor I am with you scared about m/cing the 3rd time it's like sheesh haven't we been through enough already.When I had my first m/c in Feb my DR said to wait to good cycles before ttc I don't know it's hard it's personal preference and I know it's hard waiting follow your gut you will know when it's time goodluck.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I'm sorry your going thru this. I just changed doctors because I need someone who really believes in me and wants to help me. I hope things work out for you soon. Hugs.