[mommie2many]

So as you all know I m/c Aug 17th and am still m/c. My sil is pregnant and due in Jan.

My Mil just called me and said Baby girl Rochon coming in Jan.

I started crying and hung up( Im not one to cry on the phone)

She called me back and said why are you crying ?

I said think about it and gave the phone to my oldest dd.

[mlyster]

I have had those moments! It is so hard because it feels like no one seems to remember that you lost a child - not just a pregnancy... a child. That is the part I have trouble getting people to understand. No matter how long you were pregnant you had hopes and dreams for that child growing inside and they were taken away. I know it has always been especially hard when its my family who act that way... it feels like at least THEY should be able to understand what is happening... but they can't unless they have gone through it.

It was insensitive of you MIL to call today and tell you about baby girl Rochon and I hope you are doing alright after a good cry. I find tears did wonders for me... make sure you take the time to cry and then call her back and explain why you were crying so that maybe next time she will think about it before she blurts out news about a new baby.

[Oreobaby]

It's weird how people just don't understand some times.

You will get a sticky bean soon!!!

Well said mlyster....... couldn't have put it better any other way.

Hugs to you m2m, sorry you are still m/c.

[mommie2many]

Thank you ladies, I seems no one understands what its. Mil did call me back and said she was sorry.

Dr also called me right after my good cry to let me know my betas are down to 15 and wants me to do another beta this week.

[JessP]

That was nice for her to call back and say she was sorry. She probably got excited and didn't think. It doesn't make it easier I know. I hope everything gets better soon and your body goes back to normal soon too. Hugs Hun.

[~InHisHands~]

[..Penelope..]

I'm sorry, honey.

it's hard when the family puts you in positions like that I have posted about my sil a few times. It's never easy when people forget about your feelings. I hope it get better for you. Big hugs.

[momof6lopez]

I pray I never forget about my losses when something like this happens to one of my daughters or DIL'S, Im so sorry you had to experience this. Down one hurdle and Im sure several more to go with your sil's pregnancy. We will be here for you through it all....

[Trish36]

HUGS!!!
I finally told my mom about my other losses (the 2 chemical pregnancies I just had) and that I'm going for testing etc. You know what she said to me: 'I guess you are just getting older'. Grrrr!!!!! Thank God I'm not one to cry and can just brush it off.. I know she means well and just says stupid things. I"m sure your mom just got too excited and didn't think. So sad that people don't remember to be more sensitive! Remember what doesn't break you makes you stronger!

[farasha]

HUGS! I'm so sorry. I know how insensitive people can be!!!!

I think the most people will never understand... I find comfort in knowing I at least have some good friends, DH, and this board to understand and listen to us!