[Celena]

I had to explain the past couple of months with all that have happened... she knew something was up but wasn't sure. I never did get a chance to tell her, it was hard. I realized how INFURIATED with my old doc I am today... they called again yesterday to schedule a follow-up. I guess I should go and get it over with so they leave me alone. I'm thinking of telling him that what he did was wrong and he hurt a new life. I just feel like if I get that off my chest to him that perhaps it would help me get past it, but will that just open another can of worms?

I know I'm sick and probably extra cranky from it.... but it's bothering me that they keep calling, what happened. I've been going over it in my head and I'm upset with myself again that I didn't just run out of that office that day! Grrrrr! I know I need to stop beating myself up, I know :-/ NOTHING is going to change it, so I have to move on.... hopefully that determind little one will come again sooner than later!

[mlyster]

Sounds like you need a little closure. I would schedule an appointment at tell them you will not be continuing at their office. Be sure to tell them (as calmly as you can) that the advice you were given caused even more heartache than was neccessary. They need to know so they can avoid the same rash decision making in the future. However, I also suggest finding a grief counsellor to talk to. I was very angry and very down for a while after my loss and the grief counsellor really helped (even more than I thought she would).

I agree with mlyster x

[JessP]

I agree also. You need closure and support. Hugs hun.

[~InHisHands~]

[Trish36]

Yup.. I think so too! you should pay that dr. a visit and let him know what happend. I think you will feel better once you do and finally be able to move on. Right now you are just carrying this weight on your shoulders that you did something to cause this, when it wasn't your fault.

[starrsgirl]

Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you...hugs.

[Celena]

You know what *Thank You* for all your kind words... and most esp. support!

I think I'm going to call them tomorrow and schedule that appointment... I can't say that I'm not scared to death of what to say and how to say it, but I need to get past this.

[..Penelope..]

I can only imagine how hard that appointment is going to be for you, honey. But at the same time, it sounds like it is a necessary step for you so that you can begin to find closure (as much as is possible).

I'm thinking of you. Please vent or cry to us whenever you need to.

thinking of you.

[momof6lopez]

Celena, Im so sorry your still carrying this burden. You can just relay to him that the other dr. felt that there was a strong possiblity of a new pregnancy and that since you were not in a life and death situation he could of waited maybe a few more days to evaluate you. Sometimes dr.'s feel that a quick closure will help you more than prolonging the invetable, and sometimes some women do. But not all women and he should of asked you how you wanted to proceed. My dr. specifically asked me if I wanted to go natural or d&c and it was my choice, not his.

Good luck to you and I pray that this will be the start of a more trusting dr./patient relationship for you, even if its not with him.

[missy123]

Just wanted to send you ((Hugs)) and hope you get the closure you need. I am so sorry you had to go through all of this.