I was thinking last night about all the things I have put on hold whilst ttc over the past 10 months.

These are some of the things I have put off doing in the event (or hope rather) that I fall pg.

- Stopped playing netball (I love team sports) 'incase' I fall pg and would have to stop playing and let the team down. That was back in March & today is 1st September (in AUS) and the next round of the comp starts......

- Buying a new car. I always said to my husband that once I fall pg with # 2, we will get a new car, slightly bigger, cos with two car seats & a double pram, we will need a bigger car...... Still driving my old car around........

- Getting laser hair removal. Sounds stupid, but I get waxing of most of my body every 6 ish weeks at a cost of about AUD $100. I would 'talk' myself out of it in case I fell pg. I didn't want to start a session & then have to stop when I fell pg........ yeah, still getting waxing done.

- Joining a gym. I was going to join the gym last year, but in case I fell pg I didn't want to possibly be locked in a 12 mth contract and then not procced going/working out as hard when I fell pg. hmmm.... 10 months later still haven't joined a gym.....

I know these are very material things but things I have put off........I am sure there are more......

Have you/do you put things on hold?

[JessP]

I have put off losing weight because I didn't want to be trying to loss weight and get pregnant. I was trying to loss weight with my last pregnancy and we didn't know we had gotten pregnant. So even though that wasn't why I just have a hard time going that direction. Otherwise we haven't put anything off really. And I can see why you put all those things off it makes sense.

[missy123]

You are not alone. There are a few things that I put off ""In Case"" I got pregnant. The biggest one is losing weight. I have gained 13lbs in the past 2 years and while it is not a ton of weight, I am a super shortie at 5 foot 2 so 10lbs looks like 30lbs on an average height.

[Celena]

I've put off having a drink

Taking cold meds when I really needed them

I've stopped taking most of my fibromyalgia meds

I used to relie heavily on energy drinks for energy, I no longer drink them (I don't even drink coffee... I did "treat" myself to Starbucks during my second loss)

[momof6lopez]

I put off my nipple reconstruction in Feb of this year, then finally had it done in June when I lost the baby. I have put off my pap smear that needs a follow up because everytime they have opening its around my 2ww period, and I dont want a pap done in early pregnancy. I did manage to get my nipple tatooing done this cycle, but only because it was on 8dpo and I tested negative for pregnancy. So I have just decided to get all of my medical procedures done this year, and just do the POAS right before surgery and hope for the best. I cannot keep putting these things on the back burners any more.

I still get one more surgery this fall to remove my belly fat and have it transfered to my chest wall. I dont have alot of belly fat there so when they remove it and put it in my chest, I will have a flat stomache and bigger boobs Cant go wrong there right? These medical procedures have really taken the burden off of getting pregnant for me. Makes ttc much easier when I have all of these physical improvements going on.

You guys should think about giving yourselves something back that you put off, might make the process much more bareable!

Sorry I guess I should of mentioned to some of you who dont know my backround, but yes Im a cancer survivor and have had a double mastecomy.

[mlyster]

I agree with Lori. I started putting things on "just in case" but after my loss I decided to keep living life. So I started running, going to bootcamp, travel, etc and just figure I will decide what to do "when" I get pregnant instead of stopping things and putting things on hold.

I have however stopped a few things I don't miss that much, waxing (do it myself now), manicures, shopping, etc. But those have all been money saving things and I have tried to tell myself they are not "in case" things.

[SkyBaby]

I've not brought home any more animals (I'm a pet freak) when I first got pregnant. When I lost the baby, I had to get myself another animal. I really needed something fun. I got myself a betta fish and a new tank. I'm not done yet

[n.m.hood]

Like many others, I was extremely worried about losing weight and running. I actually put on about 10 pounds since last year which I can't seem to get off! Especially since I exercise for about three weeks, and then stop during the TTW. Probably should just keep on living and stop worrying, but it's easier said than done!

My husband and I also aren't going on a (free!!) vacation to Mexico in November because we didn't know if I would be pregnant or not (we had to decide a year ago if we would go). Big time bummer! Couldn't go anyway because of my teaching schedule, but still. Main reason was TTC.

[starrsgirl]

I put off thinking about a boob job! I always wanted one and was getting pretty close to deciding to go for it. But then, we decided it would be better to have kids first and just see what happens in the boob department.

I put off trying for a deployment and going to a 6 month training school.

I put off making plans for a European vacation next summer. I guess I kinda still hope we'll get pregnant soon and won't be able to go because of better reasons.

[Celena]

Originally Posted by momof4lopez

Im a cancer survivor and have had a double mastecomy.

WOW Lori! Can I just say CONGRATS of kicking it's *****!!! You RAWK!!!!


Starrsgirl & others...

I confess that I too wanted some sort of reconstruction of my boobs, but I don't want it done until we're absolutly sure we're finished!

[Boble]

in one word... everything!

a few examples.
- booking over seas holidays
- losing weight/gym (although we have joined a gym now)
- taking holidays from work to stockpile my annual leave to use when I go on maternity leave so I get more time off paid. I haven't had any time off work except sick leave since starting here in May 08
- going to concerts
- booking things in the future
- buying a new car (although have just put a deposit on one now)
- drinking
- going out dancing with friends
- visiting family and friends (as now i have actually put on weight since my m/c's and i am embarrassed about my size)
- spending money.. as I am scared I will need to go down the ivf road one day if we are unable to fall preg and sustain a pregnancy (again.. have just spent some money towards deposit for a car but it was a very scary decision)

that is just some i can think of off the top of my head. It has only been recently that I have started to live life again.. i have had to take a big step back from the whole ttc thing which has also included no longer taking any pre-conception and pregnancy suplements. It got to the point where I just had to stop.

[mollycat]

Can I just say to those who have put off losing weight - The last two times I fell pg, was after I had lost a little bit of weight (about 11lb).

I decided I needed to do that for myself - I have PCOS and nothing else was working - so I went back on my Low GI diet, made sure I had my metformin properly (instead of just sometimes) and started walking each morning - about 5kms (about 3miles).

Once I knew I was pg I did stop walking - only because I was walking in the dark by myself and didn't want to risk falling and hurting anything. I really need to start walking again now (and I start work later now so I can walk in the daylight) just to make labour a little easier.

It is totally understandable why so many things get put off - just in case - TTC is so consuming and I think because we have had losses we are that little bit more particular then we would have been otherwise.

A lot!
MY SANITY!!!!!!!!!


-I should be on a cocktail of meds for my pituitary tumor, so I suffer through my days with being tired, cold, dizziness and the weight gain because the meds would cost me any chance of having a healthy pregnancy.
- going to cedar point with my friends this years because it's in was in the 2ww
so bummed because that cycle was a bfn

Sometimes I feel like I have given up to much.

[missy123]

Originally Posted by momof4lopez

you guys should think about giving yourselves something back that you put off, might make the process much more bareable!

Sorry I guess I should of mentioned to some of you who dont know my backround, but yes Im a cancer survivor and have had a double mastecomy.

Wize words my friend. As you know I worked out for 30 minutes tonight. phew.... that was enough for a lifetime, lol. It does help to do good things for ourselves.

You are so amazing and such a strong woman. With all of my whining about what I have been through... and it pales in comparision to you. ((Hugs))

[momof6lopez]

Missy, your so sweet, but we all have our trials and tribulations here, I just got a nice new rack because of mine

Thanks to everyone for replying.... I'm glad I am not alone. Like someone else said, my woes/put offs are minimal compared to some.

I thought of another couple of things....

1. Donating blood. I used to do it all the time, but my GP said not to when ttc, so I don't think I have for a total of 5 years now.. (from when I first started ttc # 1)

2. Losing weight - yeah that is a massive one for me too & the reason I think I may have anovulatory cycles (unconfirmed yet). I agree with you Helen, I know if I even lost a couple of kg's (pre DD weight), I'm sure I will get my bfp. Not sure what is stopping me considering I just want another bubba

MWAH to you all! x

[Trish36]

stopped excercise - in case it messes with my cycles and I don't O.
stopped drinking coffee - drink 1 cup of tea instead
don't take cold meds anymore (can't wait for the flu season to start )
stopped getting my hair coloured (only get high lights when I know that I am not pregnant and then it's usually only every 4-5 months)

[farasha]

First - wow Lori. Congrats on beating cancer! I think your new boobs sound fabulous!!!

Second, DH and I put off vacation plans when we had the pregnancies, but then when we lost both, we decided we couldn't keep doing this to ourselves. We're used to traveling every few months. So we just planned a vacation for within a few months of our second loss. I probably will just keep planning them in the short term, so I'm not that far along if I do get pregnant again.

I stopped drinking coffee frequently, but I still drink tea every day. I'll try to switch to decaf tea or decaf coffee when I can. I figured one caffeinated beverage or two during my AF won't hurt.

I stopped dancing. Which makes me really depressed. I haven't started it up again only because the classes are a lot of money, which I'd be afraid to waste if I can't make the classes. I used to teach dance, but I don't want to commit to teaching something I have to quit. So, I've been signing up for "cheaper" exercise classes, so that at least I'm doing something to keep active, and I won't feel too bad if I have to stop. Even when I get pregnant, I'll still keep up with yoga or walking. Keeping in good health is good for me, pregnant or not, especially since I know I am now prone to blood clots.

I'm tired of putting our lives off, so I'm trying to live more in the immediate months. It's not the same... but at least it's not as bad as living AF to AF.

[mollysmom2008]

1-vacations
2-losing weight
3-finishing the house projects
4-looking for a new job
5-buying new clothes (that i really need at this point after gaining 20 lbs over the last 3 years)

all in all, my whole life is on hold until this happens....

[missy123]

Originally Posted by farasha

First - wow Lori. Congrats on beating cancer! I think your new boobs sound fabulous!!!

but at least it's not as bad as living AF to AF.

That is how I was living my life, wow... you really hit the nail on the head.

and Horray for Lori!