have you ever gotten so frustrated that you thought of other options than TTCAL. I think I'm in a dark place right now. I'm thinking that if AF shows this week it will be my first low moment dealing with AF. I'm usual okay when she shows but this month I feel different. I have been playing around with the idea of seeking other out options. example adoption

What do you ladies think

[starrsgirl]

I'm so sorry you are feeling down...sometimes I feel like I can't physically express how upset I am over this TTC road. Like I want to scream or punch things or lose my mind but I can't.

We haven't considered adoption yet. We have considered though whether we should have kids at all. We are not religious but maybe this isn't just meant to be. I don't feel that way all the time, just when I'm really down.

I hope the best for you in the next few months. Just stick with us, we will help get you through!

[baby4me?]

After my 2nd miscarriage, I totally felt that way. I started researching becoming a foster parent and adoption. (Though adoption can be pretty expensive and a difficult process from what I have heard from friends). Right as I started looking into other options we got pregnant with my DD.

So hang in there and don't give up!!

[Kary♥RN]

This last cycle, When I went to the OB/GYN on the 17th of Aug. I spoke to him about blood work... I had told DH that it was just getting to much, of ttc on our own. I had gotten to the point that this was our last cycle on our own. And I can tell you if the blood work came back showing nothing.. I think we would have stoped for a while, if not forever. I know at this point adoption would not be an option. I think we would just of went on just the two of us, my son and the two dogs. The past few cycles I was at my lowest, darkest place. I think sometimes you have to let your self get to that point so than your body takes over and does what it has to. Hang in thier Aimz... Your time will come. Have you talked to your Dr? Will they start the blood work, U/S, and SA?

[missy123]

I feel like that often in the past few months. My BF said that I need to come to grips that I may not be able to have a baby but that we have each other. He briefly talked adoption. Really this is why I started down the road of all of this testing. I don't have insurance and it has cost me a lot of money so far but I guess it has been a good diversion from TTC. I feel like in a really dark place too sometimes, but I haven't given up yet. ((Hugs))

[JMbreaksthelaw]

I would give up TTC in minute if my DH was willing to adopt. He says NO WAY, he wont even consider. I want our son to have a sibling but I am too in that place where I dont feel it is ever going to happen. I think adoption is a great thing if both partners want it.

[JessP]

I think whatever works best for your family is what you should do. I would talk to your dr and let him/her know how you feel. Maybe he can help too. I am so sorry that you are frustrated I wish I could offer more than just cyber hugs. I hope this is your cycle and you don't have to be frustrated anymore.

[mlyster]

Aimz I have been there. In fact I may still be there. I was pretty down at the beginning of this cycle and have set a sort of taget for myself. A third miscarriage and we start looking at other options (obviously the first would be a whole wack of testing to see what is going on).

I have actually always thought about adoption as an option but always thought it would be in addition to our own kids. Lately I have started to realize it might be instead of having one myself. I am not ready to give up (too young, haven't been trying long enough etc) but I am definitely thinking about options for the future.

thanks ladies, I know this is a tough subject, that is why I was seeking advice. DH is on the fence I think if we had another loss he would game for it. I think I'm just scared of being hurt again in some shape or form. Hopefully this will get better.

[KDD]

I've some initial research into adoption. DH and I aren't ready to go there yet. I think it's a good idea to know what your options are. DH and I have discussed what our ART limits are. And we discussed setting a time limit on when we give up.

[Celena]

I dunno what happened, I thought I posted to you on this... maybe it was a figment of my imagination? Or I hope that it wasn't offensive, I have the best intentions in mind!!! (or maybe I posted to another post of yours and hadn't gotten here) I'm so fricken spacey right now, I'm sorry!!!

Aimz, I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I think several if not most of us can relate with the feelings. Please hang in there and know that your feelings are totally valid. Ugh, I cannot express to you what I'm thinking... I want to say hang in there and don't loose hope yet lady! We'll be your cheerleaders when you need a pep me up Just remember you're not in this journey alone

I cannot remember everything I said before, or thought I said... but I'm sorry that you're feeling so low. I wish that I could make you feel better with a flick of a fairy wand and make all the pain, sadness, frustration go away and bring you your dreams come true.

Any options aren't bad options to consider, I don't know how or what you consider the time to take a different direction. I guess considering all options and what the pros and cons of each could be useful in the future... I don't know what avenues you'e travelled so far?

I've known several couples to adopt, however I don't know the ins and outs of it... like the processes they went thru, etc.

[farasha]

HUGS hun. I think I know where you are.

After our second loss, DH and I went to four adoption meetings in town (international and domestic). We wanted to know what options we had, especially since a Dr. flat out told me that I could have a lot more miscarriages before I carry to term. Some days I don't think I can handle that... I don't know if I can go through this pain again and again and again...but I know DH wants to keep trying naturally at least for another year or so. I've had two losses in a year. What if I have two more by then?

Adoption costs a lot of money, and takes a lot of time, and it isn't an easy road either. Sometimes though, it seems like that's all OK because at LEAST I'd know I'd get our child eventually rather than "maybe." At least I'd feel like I was doing something constructive rather than waiting around every month to see if things work out, and then tip toeing through a pregnancy to see if it will work or not. We think we will definitely adopt a child during our lives, but whether or not it's in addition to our family or to start out a family is still up in the air... DH really wants to keep trying right now, so until I completely break down, I'm trying too. Lately, I've been trying to have him set a time frame for us so at least I have things to work towards. We're fairly young, so I think another year of trying (we've been trying a year) is reasonable for us.... even though that feels like an ETERNITY.

[.:Shortcake:.]

DH keeps talking adoption and honestly at this point I'm not ready for that. I dream of having that baby in my belly again, talking to it and feeling it move inside me for 9 months. I am determined to have a child of my own. Even in my darkest hours I know that someday some way I will have my child.