It was time

mlyster · #1 September 4th, 2009, 09:52 AM

I came clean in my blog today. I have been keeping a blog for a while and have never mentioned the pregnancies or the losses on there... until today. I am not sure how the information will be recieved but I feel great having done it. (you would never know it by all the tears today

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Kary♥RN · #2 September 4th, 2009, 10:19 AM

HUGS Michelle... What a huge step you have taken today... HUGS... We are here for you!

Celena · #3 September 4th, 2009, 10:35 AM

good for you, writing is a passion of mine... it's very healing to get those words onto paper or screen! Read them aloud and allow some more healing lady... GIGANTIC hugs to you M

#4 September 4th, 2009, 10:55 AM

I agree with Kary, that is a great step to take. very proud of you.

mlyster · #5 September 4th, 2009, 11:28 AM

it has been a ridiculously hard step. I thought writing it was bad enough. All the comments and emails from people who didn't have a clue have had me in tears all day. Some happy tears, some sad tears.

You ladies are the only reason I had teh courage to do this. So thank you. I know in the days, weeks and months to come this day will be a turning point in my journey.

Trish36 · #6 September 4th, 2009, 11:51 AM

Good for you!

jenine · #7 September 4th, 2009, 01:16 PM

That must have been tough, but good on you for doing it. It's funny how we are all told not to say anything about a pregnancy until after the 2nd trimester just in case of m/c...but then when you do that, you have no one really to support you or talk to. Sharing it on your blog is probably really helpful in that sense.

mlyster · #8 September 4th, 2009, 01:26 PM

Today has been hard. It has been the most difficult because so many of my family and friends have come out of the woodwork and told me about their infertility problems. Now granted they all have children now (some are trying for #2 or 3) but that fact that my post would make people actually want to talk about the feelings that are still so real to them is fantastic. I have been in tears literally all day but it has been worth it.

farasha · #9 September 4th, 2009, 01:56 PM

HUGS Michelle! That is so great! I know we keep ourselves to the board sometimes, but I agree... sharing with other people sometimes really makes you feel better and start to realize how common all of this is. I've started being much more open since the second loss too. It really is a great relief to be able to talk about it if I want to. I'm glad this is a turning point for you!

Boble · #10 September 4th, 2009, 02:51 PM

*hugs* I'm glad that you can see that this will be a turning point for you and I honestly believe that sometimes, when you let it all go like that, it really is the best thing for you.

oh, i forgot to mention... i have been very open about my m/c's with people in my life from the very beginning.. and it is for the exact reason that you have written in your blog. Because it seems like such a taboo subject... and I don't know why - i certainly didn't do anything wrong to treat it as taboo... and i hoped that by people knowing they may understand a little more.. and worst case scenario - if it ever happened to them then they would have someone to come to.
M/c is hard... the hardest thing some people will go through - and it isn't something that anyone should have to suffer alone *hugs*

.:Shortcake:. · #11 September 4th, 2009, 05:11 PM

Hugs hun! I am so proud of you for taking that step and talking about it.

..Penelope.. · #12 September 4th, 2009, 06:52 PM

JessP · #13 September 4th, 2009, 08:03 PM

That is so great that it has been healing for you. Hugs hun.

#14 September 5th, 2009, 04:22 AM

Oh wow, that is amazing! To find the courage to write that and share it is truly amazing. I have always been 'closed' about ttc & my m/c's, but I think I'll take a leaf ouyt of yours (& Bels book) & be honest from now on.

Good on you!

missy123 · #15 September 5th, 2009, 05:13 AM

I have not shared much about our TTC journey to others outside these boards. I think it is great that you took such a huge step. And for family to come out and share their experiences as well must be so healing.

((Hugs))

KDD · #16 September 7th, 2009, 12:12 PM

Good for you Michelle. I wrote several posts about my losses on my blog, but never published them. I don't mind telling some people, but there are certain people who read my blog that I really don't want to know. You are a much stronger person than I am.

ablake06 · #17 September 7th, 2009, 01:48 PM

that is soo good - you have me in tears!! i told some people about the first! well actually alot of people knew we were expecting b/c we were 13 weeks along - didn't tell anyone about the second one expect for family - and i agree - i just want to get it all out!!!! like you - many people have told me about their problems and so many people have told me about their miscarriages that i had no idea they had!!!!!

im soo proud of you!!!!!