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September 6th, 2009, 09:00 PM
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Since its the long weekend the family got together at my sils house. She is 21 weeks pregnant, my other sil had a baby in July this was the first time Ive seen him since he was born. So everyone is just loving the baby up. I started talking to him and he coos so I picked him up to hold him. I thought I could handle it. Boy was I wrong it took everything I had not to cry. I ended up giving the baby back within 3 mins of my talking him. My pregnant sil decides to take belly pics for facebook, and Im standing right behind her. I told Dh I couldnt handle it and packed the kids up and left.
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September 6th, 2009, 09:18 PM
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I'm so sorry,I know it's so hardThe only thing I can say is time will make it better,never forgotten,but better.I wish I could be there and give you a big hug.(((BIG HUG)))
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September 6th, 2009, 09:23 PM
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I'm so sorry. I can definitely relate, my SIL had her second daughter last Sunday, and while I love getting to know my newest niece, part of me is so heartbroken that my son is not here to meet his cousin. My niece was born 8 pounds, holding her in my arms is hard, my son weighed only 5 ounces.
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September 6th, 2009, 09:30 PM
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September 6th, 2009, 10:37 PM
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Ah hugs hun. I am so sorry this was so hard for you. I wish there was something I could say that would make it better. At least you were able to go home and be alone.
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September 7th, 2009, 06:33 AM
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I know what you are going through. My sister was pregnant at the same time I was (about 5 months farther along) and she had me take her belly pictures! The day I met my very first niece was perhaps the hardest day since the actual loss. Everyone standing around excited about this new baby and all I could do was think about mine. I hardly held her... BUT it gets easier. Trust me it gets easier in time. Hang in there!
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September 7th, 2009, 07:16 AM
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I feel your pain. I had just gone through my m/c when my SIL's baby was born. I thought I would be able to handle but I ended up bailing out at the last minute. Don't try to push yourself too hard.
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September 7th, 2009, 11:47 AM
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September 7th, 2009, 12:32 PM
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It's not easy, I'm sorry! I have a hard time now with my neice, but at the same time she makes me all warm and fuzzy inside too. It's hard to explain... I have the hardest time with seeing pregnant bellies, newborns and infants. My neice was born the day I miscarried and while it's hard, harsh reminder she's easier for me to hold, look at than others.

hang in there, time has a way of healing... that's all you can do is give it time. We're here for ya
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September 7th, 2009, 12:37 PM
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That must be so hard. You don't need to force yourself to pretend to be happy and be around them if it's too much for you. Be kind to yourself and just do what you need to. Sorry you are going through this
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September 7th, 2009, 01:00 PM
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September 7th, 2009, 05:28 PM
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That sounds rough. I am so sorry!
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September 8th, 2009, 05:01 AM
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I seriously feel what your going through..i hope things get better
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September 8th, 2009, 05:08 AM
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I am so sorry. You are at the beginning of your grieving process which makes it even that much harder. I still have little twinges of pain when I see pregnant women, I can't even begin to imagine what you were going through with it being your family and right there in your face. (((Hugs)))

As Loving4 said, it does get a little easier as time goes by but for now it is so hard to even imagine that.
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September 8th, 2009, 05:12 AM
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September 8th, 2009, 06:19 AM
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that must have been so difficult!!! Those situations stink!!! HUGS to you, and don't feel bad for bolting, I would have done the same thing!!!
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