How long to wait after m/c?

jacqueline80 · #1 September 10th, 2009, 01:40 PM

I had a m/c on 8/27 with a D&C on 8/28... I was 10 wks and it was my 2nd m/c. My first m/c was "spontanous", meaning I miscarried the baby on my own at home. With the 2nd m/c I had to have a D&C.... With both m/c's I was told to wait 3 cycles before ttc again. After my first m/c I only went one cycle before conceiving again and had a healthy girl 9 months later... We didn't necessarly try to conceive again but we didn't do anything to prevent it either....
What is everyone's take on how long one should wait before ttc again. I don't mean to disregard the doctor's advice or anything... I'm just not sure why I'm told to wait... I will see my dr. on Friday and definitely ask but wanted to see what you guys think....

Kary♥RN · #2 September 10th, 2009, 02:00 PM

I am so sorry for you loss...HUGS
Well.. this is always a question... One that has no medical reason to wait. Unless you have had a D/E D/C.. than you want to wait two weeks to cut down on the chance of getting an infection. If it was natural you can start to try after you are done bleeding. As for the whys of waiting? For emotinal and dating. But waiting that one cycle.. the Doc has a LMP. As for emotinal I feel it when you are ready, after you have morned. Than let the TTC start. I hope this helps... GOOD LUCK

Trish36 · #3 September 10th, 2009, 02:06 PM

Welcome and I am really sorry for your loss. My dr. originally told me to wait 3 cycles. I think that must be a 'standard' thing they tell their patients. I asked the nurse and basically she said that they want you to at least have one AF so that they can date the pregnancy easier, but the 3 months is more for your emotional well being. As long as you wait a couple of weeks after the m/c and make sure that you have stopped bleeding, so you don't get an infection, I don't see why you need to wait to ttc. Again, this all depends on how far along you are...I guess the further along the longer you should wait probably. I was 12 weeks when I had my first m/c and we started ttc again right away. good luck!!!

sodagirl · #4 September 10th, 2009, 02:30 PM

Having not waited once and mc right away - I would give it at least once cycle. I know there isn't any real evidence to support waiting - but when I had the 2nd mc I really felt like my body was depleted and not ready. I only waited 2 cycles after the 2nd mc to ttc. It took 3 cycles of ttc- and now I'm just praying that 3rd times a charm . . .
If you chose to ttc right away I would recommend charting - so you can tell them your own dates! I would also recommend making sure you are getting your vitamins and eating really well. good luck!

bev26 · #5 September 10th, 2009, 08:06 PM

I was told to wait two cycles, but I agree with everyone else, it's mainly to give them a way to date your next PG and to perhaps allow your body some time at recovery. I wish you the best of luck, though.

p.s. I live in the Middle Tenn. area, too!

JessP · #6 September 10th, 2009, 08:37 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. As far as waiting I think it is personal choice. I hope you get a bfp when you are ready

. Good luck and sticky dust.

Celena · #7 September 10th, 2009, 09:07 PM

I'm sorry for your losses Jacqueline

I hope you are healing and feeling well!

with everything Kary, Trish said I couldn't say it better!

I've been given conflicting information from dr's and nurses at my old and new ob office's... primarily they said it is for pregnancy dating and emotional well being like Kary & Trish said.

I posted an article about a study done supporting that there is no medical reason for waiting, that it doesn't increase the rate of mc etc...

charm · #8 September 11th, 2009, 03:17 AM

[FONT="Century Gothic"]*HUGS* I am sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board and I am sorry for the reasons that you are here but the girls are all fantastic and supportive .The question of when[to ttc with my first m/c I started ttc about 3 weeks after my D&C and this time I had another m/c 2.5 weeks ago spontanious though I waited uhm not very lond

bad I know I believe my body will do right by me it took me 5 months to get a bfp last time so this time I will see what happens. I wish you the best of luck with what you decide and I hope it doesn't take long to get your bfp!!/FONT]

Mel1979 · #9 September 11th, 2009, 03:38 AM

I am sorry for you losses

I have also had a natural m/c and a D&C and have not waited either time. My Dr told me my body would not fall pg if it wasn't ready. I fell pg on my 3rd cycle after my 2nd m/c (I am just over 7 weeks) so as long as you feel emotionally ready and there are no medical reasons I say go for it! Good luck!

Mom2DyJessAva · #10 September 11th, 2009, 03:52 AM

After my miscarriage we didnt wait..we didnt try but we didnt prevent either..This is our first month REALLY trying..since last month was really bad part in our relationship...i dont see why doctors like you to wait..maybe for emotional as well as being able to date things..i truly am sorry for your loss..

.:Shortcake:. · #11 September 11th, 2009, 04:27 AM

Hugs hun. Basically when I asked my doctor they said to wait one cycle but you don't have to wait at all. If your body isn't ready you won't get pregnant

momof6lopez · #12 September 11th, 2009, 06:02 AM

Im so sorry for your loss and Welcome.

I had a d&c also and dr. told me to wait 3 cycles. He said, to make sure your body has fully replenished itself from loss of vitamins. He said for every month your pregnant, to wait that amont of time to TTC again. I was 9.5wks, so that put me at 3 months. I waited one cycle though, and then NTNP was in place. He also said the lining needs to build back up properly from a d&c to properly support another pregnancy. But I agree with the other ladies, if your body is not ready, it will most likely not get pg again. One month for sure, to properly date a new pregnancy is very important to me. I have seen many women who have gotten pg right before first AF and go through an emotional roller coaster becasue they are not sure if it is from the last pregnancy or a new one. Good luck to you and wishing you a sticky BFP this time around.

jacqueline80 · #13 September 15th, 2009, 07:44 AM

I'm sorry I didn't reply right away... I was without a computer for a couple of days and off work too so I wasn't able to log on....

Thanks you so much for all of your responses. I knew that I was advised to wait so I could heal emotionally but I wasn't sure if there was also a medical reason. I had no physical pain whatsoever after my D&C and my bleeding stopped after about 1.5 weeks.... However, I had to go to the doctor every week since my D&C to have my blood levels checked, as they were not yet were they needed to be... Apparently I had a form of GTD (Gestational Trophoblastic Desease) where small non cancerous moles formed on my placenta.... Don't quote me on this, I'm not a doctor - he said this is harmless but that's why I had to go in once a week to have blood work done.... I go in today again, hopefully for the last time and should be fine after that . I was definitely going to wait for one regular AF (due ~Sept 29) but will then probablly ttc again or at least not prevent it....

@ Bev26, cool

My doctor/hospital is UMC in Lebanon, TN