[Magicaledelishus]

Sooo...
alright...
There are a few girls at my work who a) just had babies or b) are pregnant or c) are trying to conceive..
It's in the water, I dunno..
One of the girls is about 18 weeks pg and just found out the gender. I was genuinely excited for her, although I haven't known her long..
And she replies with, "yeah i'm glad it's a girl but I didnt even want a 2nd baby. Every time I got off birth control, I get pregnant. Oh well."
I dont know why, but this really bothered me.
I just sort.. nodded and moved along. Well my other coworker, who I told in secret that I was ttc after losing my baby back in july, tries to stand up for me a bit after hearing this and says, "well some people try and end up losing theirs; count your blessings M."
Now, I appreciate her trying to stand up for my feelings, but this suddenly puts me on the spot. I want to run away. Disappear.. I feel angry and embarassed all at once...
M kinda looks at me, and goes, "Oh are you trying to have a baby?" and I just nod a bit. She goes, "oh you lost it?" and I nodded again, trying to look busy with meds for a patient..
then she goes, "I wish." ...................

What?
I was so mad I had to excuse myself....

[sallyk61]

That is shocking and I would be so so so angry.
I think some people have no idea at all, and they have such a low understanding that they dont even realise they need to think before they talk.
Just remember to keep breathing...

[jensma]

wow, yep she seriously lacks tact!! sorry she had to be so insensitive!

[Trish36]

WOW.... don't have any words for that. If she didn't want another baby then maybe she shouldn't have gotten off birth control. Maybe one day she'll realize how blessed she was to have 2 children. HUGS!!!!

[JessP]

I see what your friend was trying to do. That was nice of her. That other girl needs a good slap LOL. Sorry you had to go through that.

[noworries]

Oh.my.goodness! I don't even know what to say....I either would have been so shocked that I couldn't say anything or I would have gone off on her.

[Celena]

What a snotface, that's not totally uncommon... people are so freaking oblivious!

I have to say tho Kim, I'm glad that co-worker stood up for you. I know it puts you on the spot, BUT *slap* to that wench in the face! She should be a little more conciensous! Some people don't know how blessed they are until they're told what the other side of the fence holds. So please don't be embarassed, feel VINDICATED!!! Perhaps this snotface will be more mmindful next time, but don't hold your breath

God bless you girl, sounds like you work in amoungst the wolves... hang in there, we're here for you!!! Just let me know if I need to make a trip to stomp on her foot and run away

[zkat]

Oh Wow! Kudos to you keeping your cool and composure. My sister has dealt with this some (she has 2 m/c and a stillborn). Her usual response is "I know a family that would LOVE to give this baby a caring home, just let me know" It usually shuts people up. Of course, she has always been more tactful and patient than me. I probably would have gone off and let her know exactly what I think, especially since I am crazy hormonal right now!!

Sending you some hugs and comfort to get through the day.

Kat.

[krystal g]

Wow. That is awful. I think it was nice of your friend to stand up for you and I think it was beyond horrible what your coworker said. Some people shouldn't speak much less breed!

[.:Shortcake:.]

That is terrible. I'm not sure I could have kept my composure.

[Magicaledelishus]

Yeah.. the more I thought about it, the more I have considered saying something to her..
I dunno.. bah.. The part that really bothered me was the laughter that came out of her after she said "I wish".. I know it was supposed to be a 'joke' .... but it's not funny. Period.

[PixieQueen]

That's exactly what I'd tell her. "I know it was supposed to be a joke, but a baby dying is not funny. Period." She was completely out of line. Hugs!

[Kary♥RN]

This is why "WE" the ladies who have endured a loss will be better mothers.. Just say a prayer for that little girl that is being brought into this world.. under circumstances like that.. Some people will never appreiciate the miracle they are given.. Shame on her.

[Boble]

no.. thats not funny at all.. if she had of caught me on a bad day she would have copped it.. wow.. i cannot believe someone would say that after finding out you lost your baby. eek.. she sounds horrible

My jaw just hit the floor. What an insentivite cow... I can't believe someone would even make a comment about it - joke or no joke....

Hugs hun
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