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September 14th, 2009, 01:03 AM
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Mommy to Orion
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I worry that I'm that creepy lady that wants to hold everyone's babies....
Am I alone?
lol I just hold my bff's daughter all the time, and I always want to hold other ppl's babies.. It's embarassing! I know they can see the longing in my face!
Ughhh..
/vent
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September 14th, 2009, 03:20 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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No hun your not alone. I do it all the time. I just cant seem to help myself.
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September 14th, 2009, 03:30 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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your not a creepy lady..but i do im the opposite...i try to stay away from babies because im scared itll being more hurt..
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September 14th, 2009, 06:01 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I also avoid holding babies (even my niece) and it getting really hard. So I have decided to change that and now I am going to be that person - the one who volunteers to hold the baby as soon as there is an opportunity.
I was concerned about comments before but I am doing ok with that part now. Granted today is a good emotional day!
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September 14th, 2009, 06:06 AM
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Mom of 4
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Hey as long as you know the person I think that's okay and normal. Now if you walked up to me and I didn't know ya and you asked to hold my dd, I'd run. LOL 
I've actually been cuddling my 2 year old more and more. I guess I'm trying to hold on to her 'babyness' for as long as possible.
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September 14th, 2009, 06:32 AM
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Lovin life and family
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I agree I think you are ok . I was cuddling with my niece the other weekend smelling her hair LOL. I love babies.
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September 14th, 2009, 08:23 AM
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No you're not alone, allot of my friends are that way... some with kids some without, but I don't think a single one of them has had a loss.
I on the other hand can and have only held my neice... it's just too hard to hold anyone else's. She's just somethin' special to me, she was coincidently born on the day I lost my babe in July. Weird huh, it was pretty hard at first... now I just want to gobble her fat cheeks up.
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September 14th, 2009, 08:40 AM
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I avoid babies in general. I love to be around my friend's 10 month old, but that's about it. Newborns still make me sad and jealous.
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September 14th, 2009, 10:43 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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It took me four years to be able to hold a baby....but I did it!
(And he didn't break or anything!!!)
Soak in some of that baby smell for me!!!
Hugs!
Dawna
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September 14th, 2009, 03:02 PM
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i'm still weird about holding kids/being around them. I can handle toddlers and older kids, it's just babies.
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September 14th, 2009, 05:59 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Lol I hold everyone's babies. I'm lucky there are lots of babies in my family though. They all know how much I like kids.
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September 15th, 2009, 03:02 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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im a baby hog.. my friend has an 8wk old and every time i walk in the door she hands him to me.. i change him and even got to give him a bath the other week.. but, it took me a very long time to get to this point
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September 15th, 2009, 10:24 AM
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Mommy to Orion
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Glad to see I'm not alone. Although I knew we'd be either extreme; want to hold, hold, hold or do anything to stay away...
The only time recently where I did not want to hold a friend's baby is when our two friends had their baby; it's going to sound so mean and selfish but they don't really even care about each other in their relationship, their baby was a surprise and I dunno... I feel more deserving somehow.. Which gah, that sounds SO terrible to say. Humph... But yeah, I wouldn't hold him; not out of being a rude person but because it hurt to look at him. I didn't even want to SEE the baby.
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September 15th, 2009, 06:09 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Magicaledelishus
Glad to see I'm not alone. Although I knew we'd be either extreme; want to hold, hold, hold or do anything to stay away...
The only time recently where I did not want to hold a friend's baby is when our two friends had their baby; it's going to sound so mean and selfish but they don't really even care about each other in their relationship, their baby was a surprise and I dunno... I feel more deserving somehow.. Which gah, that sounds SO terrible to say. Humph... But yeah, I wouldn't hold him; not out of being a rude person but because it hurt to look at him. I didn't even want to SEE the baby.
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I understand where you are coming from with that.. I had a similar thing with a old work friend who had a baby only recently (3rd sept) and she came in to visit me and she was being such a good mum - and her and her partner were acting really lovely and loving in general towards each other and bub and it was very healing for me (full story is in the big 2010 by 2010 thread )
but.. its understandable the way you are feeling.. and I have been there.. the emotions we go through while ttcal are MASSIVE and some of them wont make you feel great.. but this is the road we are on. *hugs*
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