[ldovey83]

When you had your loss did you go through a phase where you just didnt feel sexual.. I mean my poor DH he has been wanting some kind of release and I am sorry if this is TMI, but today I finally told him to go to the bathroom and take care of hisself. I mean I love my DH, but that is the last thing on my mind right now.. I have been depressed, but I dont let it show and I definitely don't want to talk to DH about it cause he last time I tried to talk to him about it he told me I just need to get over it, and that is life... It was hurtful and I dont think he realized how much that comment hurt me.. I am glad that I can talk to you ladies about it. I also know that when I am ready to get sexual ttc is going to come to mind cause I want that baby so bad. Life is cruel sometimes.. I am sorry that all of us ladies have had to go through these moments.

[Celena]

Oh that was something plaguing me horribly after our 1st most recent loss... DH just didn't understand and really PISSED ME OFF because I couldn't understand how he could be so dang selfish at a time like that. I had no sexual desire for the most part!

I think we can all understand those feelings

Oh btw, sometimes men associate sex with love so if they're not "getting any" they feel like we don't love them. It's part of their hormonal and genetic make-up, because rationally they would KNOW better lol

[JessP]

I totally agree with Celena about they why men act that way. Also a lot of men while they are sad about the loss don't experience it like we do. They aren't as attached to it as early. My DH said something similar once. And to some extent I can see why, he just wanted me to move on and be happy and not be the emotional crying basket case I was. He hates to see me sad. And he couldn't fix it so that made it worse. It will get better.

[hearts.0nfire]

my dh is the other way around where he's fine without doing anything and so it worked out for me since I felt exactly the same way.

[jaypbee]

yes, we had a dry spell for several weeks after my d & c. my dh is a rock star when it comes to stuff like this-he totally understands and "gets" it. also remember that men do feel more connected to us through sex. and even though he hurts, too, being intimate w/ you would make him feel better. hang in there.

[mommie2many]

After my m/c it was me who wanted it.

When I am pg I dont want it at all.

[Trish36]

Yup! Men just don't get it. When I've just had a m/c and am still bleeding or if AF showed up when I was hoping for a BFP - the last thing on my mind at that moment is making out. But I guess for men that is always on their minds.

[SkyBaby]

I'm right there with you. I have like almost no drive. I too have been depressed. I hope things get better for you and all of us here.

[Kary♥RN]

YES.... After my D/E... it was over a month and half.... thank goodness DH had back surgery... right after I was released from pelvic rest. But it was hard to get back into that feeling. I think I had to talk myself into the TTC... mind set. But It was hard to "enjoy" it. It was more going the motions (no pun intended) Just to get pregnant.

[missy123]

Hugs to all of you and I am sorry you all feel/felt this way. I wish you weren't going through all of that.

[charm]

*HUGE HUGS* I completely understand I haven't even discussed this loss with DH and quite frankly I don't want to at all I have been chatting to all these beautiful ladies instead.I also have lossed my drive completely but broke only hoping and praing for a chance to get preg again but for two weeks after I was a mess and it was the last thing on my mind. I hope you feel better soon (sorry I know that sounds dumb) I hate seeing people sad.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Men have a different way with dealing with it than we do. Men are from mars women are from venus lol. Hugs hun!

[Mom2DyJessAva]

I have to agree with the rest of the ladies...My SO cried with me the day we found out..the next day i was still upset but tried to hide it as much as possible because he didnt seem to mention anything...we bond so early where as i think men just take awhile...**HUGS**..