[baby4me?]

DH actually asked me to post this...

DH and I got married in June, 2006 and started trying right away and got pregnant my 2nd cycle. I miscarried by 5 1/2 weeks. We got our 2nd BFP in December and I miscarried just a few days later (before 5 weeks). Our OB went ahead and ran some blood tests (I can't really remember which ones.. I also had a HSG- everything came back normal). Well, I got pregnant with DD and used progesterone cream for the 1st trimester (without asking or talking about this with the doctor). DD was born happy and healthy in January 2008. I am not sure if they checked my progesterone levels when running the blood tests... I know they never monitored progesterone when I was pregnant.

Fast forward to now... DH and I started talking about trying again and the first month we didn't try but didn't prevent, we got pregnant. I was supposed to be 7 weeks 4 days but the u/s only showed a sac measuring 5 weeks 1 day. When I saw my doctor for a follow-up he said it was probably just more bad luck. Though when I asked if I could TTC again (after my first AF came) his assistant said that the Dr. recommends waiting two cycles especially for women with recurrent miscarriages because they are at a higher risk for another miscarriage. So this confused and upset me... because either there is something wrong with me or it is just "more bad luck"???? At my follow-up the Dr. also said he would run some of the same tests he ran last time. I am not sure how that is supposed to help since they all came back normal last time.

Anyway, I recently got my 2nd AF and called Friday to find out which tests he would order. He was out of town all last week though and I am waiting for them to call me back. He also said that if I got pregnant again, he would put me on progesterone (after I told him about the cream I used with DD). Though he said that taking progesterone is voodoo and there is no science behind it.

So DH and I are wondering if we should stick with our current Dr or find someone more proactive. Our current OBGYN did run some tests last time, but we are not sure if more should be done after this last loss. He is not too concerned about finding a cause for the miscarriages. It seems more like he just wants us to keep trying until it works. He also seems very rushed during appointments and I feel very stupid when I ask him questions. I do like him though... he was very nice and sympathetic after this last m/c.

I know I have 1 DD but I just feel like my record is not very good. I am just don't want to go through another miscarriage and I have a hard time believing that this last miscarriage was just more bad luck.

So if you actually read all of this Thank you very much and what would you do???... If you didn't, I understand

[Trish36]

IMO I would look for a fertility specialist who can run specific tests and monitor your cycle to see what is going on. There's got to be a reason for what's happeninbg and low progesterone could very well be your answer. Good luck!!!

[momof6lopez]

I say go with your gut feeling. If your gut told you to use the progesterone cream with your DD and you had a successful pregnancy, and all others ended in m/c without the supplement, then the odds are you do have a deficiency. But if your dr. is willing to give it to you with next pregnancy, just to make you feel better and you like him, then I would not switch. My Dr. does not believe in supplements either for women who have had living children without the supplement. But he does agree to give them to me if I want them. That is what is important. He does not have to agree with you, but has to listen to you and be supportive of your wants and needs.

[farasha]

Ugh I've been thinking about the same thing. I do think you need to feel comfortable with your Doctor, as well as believe that he/she is doing all that they can to help you. Still, I've been to five doctors here (OBs, Prenatal/High Risk, and RE) and all of them tell me the same thing: Probably can't help you, just keep trying. I've come to believe that this is based off their meetings that the medical community have here together to discuss their strategies.. hence they all have the same plan of attack or lack there of. I don't have many more options of places to go. If you are thinking of switching, I'd recommend going somewhere outside the medical community where your Dr. is now. They might have different practices. By all means, I suppose a consultation wouldn't hurt if you want to see how other OBs are!

[Boble]

i agree... no harm in trying someone else... I wasn't getting any love from my gp.. she just told me that it was bad luck.. and I do like my gp - she is generally great. So, I went to my mums dr, who is very agreeable.. and I got a referral to an obgyn.... he sent me for tests and referred me to sydney ivf which runs testing for recurrent m/c... they didn't really find anything, but that means my chance of m/c is the same as anyone my age - so it does give us some hope
I will probably go back to my gp once preg again.. but I am unsure.. im sad that she didn't help me when I needed it. And feel very bitter because of that.

so... i say, no harm in trying someone else.. if you are unhappy with them.. you can always go back to your original dr

[Celena]

Liking your doctor is one thing...

Liking how he handles your health is another...

If you have any doubts, then it's time to branch out...

If you feel comfortable with how he is handling your health & your losses, then stick with him and stick to it. *IF* that is what you want... To me it sounds like you're unsure if he's doing everything he can for you.

What *exactly* do you want him to do? (write it down, make notes)

Have you considered telling him what exactly you want?
(take a paper with all your concerns, questions and what you want from him)

Try that and if he's still not what you want, then also ask him if there is someone he could refer you out to a specialist. You won't be breaking his heart and I think he would understand

[mlyster]

The question I would ask yourself is do you trust your doctor is doing as much as possible to help you. If not I would look into switching. You can not go through this journey not trusting your doctors opinions. We have seen a lot of strange things and difficult decisions that have come down to needing serious advice from your doctor.

The next thing I would think about is the alternatives. Do you have referrals that you think you could get into? Around here it is difficult to into doctors so I would be considering the doctors that would be available. I know I would have options once pregnant but in terms of family doctors it would be difficult to find another one and might take some time.

this is a difficult decision and I wish you luck making it.

[charm]

I say how frustrating and it won't hurt to get a second opinion some DR's are stuck in there ways maybe you could find someone willing to try different things I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide but you are entitled to the best care.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I would look for someone else. I just recently switched doctors and couldn't be happier. My new doctor actually listens to me.

[~Lynda~]

i agree with go with your gut. do what feels right to you!! a second opinion can't hurt though. good luck!!

[Mel1979]

Having a Dr you trust and who listens to you is so important so if you are not happy or don't feel comfortable then I would start looking for another one. Good luck!