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*MomofO&Nat* · #1 September 21st, 2009, 04:55 AM

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farasha · #2 September 21st, 2009, 05:06 AM

HUGS hun... I'm glad you vented to us. Please feel free to do this whenever you need to. I'm glad your hubby is being so helpful, but its true, it will be hard for him to fully understand what has happened. This first week is very tough, and all these feelings you're having a very normal. I'm sorry you had to go to that shower too... sometimes I think we should all close ourselves up against pregnancies/babies for a month or two following a loss. That is not an easy thing to do. I hope you can avoid more of it for a while.

I wish I could give you some good advice, but I think the best advice sometimes is to tell you to cry and vent and FEEL everything. It's worse when you delay it. It takes a long time to move on from a miscarriage, and none of us ever really forget our little loved ones. It will get a bit easier day by day, but it will take time. I cried every day for three months after my first loss. I tried to plan fun events with my DH to try and take my mind off things, but other than that, the only thing that really helped was talking it out or writing it down.

I just want to give you a BIG HUG and say I'm very sorry for how things are going right now. We're here whenever you need to lean on someone.

.:Shortcake:. · #3 September 21st, 2009, 05:27 AM

Hun it is "normal" to feel that way. To be honest there is no certain way you should/will feel after a m/c. Everyone deals with with it differently. But cling to your DH no he doesn't know exactly what your going through but it was his child to and he is grieving in his own way. We are here for you and if you just want to vent please PM me at any time. Hugs! I am so sorry for your loss.

missy123 · #4 September 21st, 2009, 05:30 AM

Hi. I am glad you found us. Everything you are feeling and going through are completely normal. It is so painful and even harder when your friends and family try to support you but don't fully understand what you are going through. Give yourself time, everyone heals differently and no one can expect you to feel better after just a few weeks. We understand. I am so sorry for your loss and wish I could take your pain away.

*MomofO&Nat* · #5 September 21st, 2009, 07:36 AM

Thank you everyone! I feel better just getting it out. Thank god for my son, he makes me laugh and keeps my mind off things a bit. If I can just make it through the U/S today, hopefully I can start getting myself back on track.

Trish36 · #6 September 21st, 2009, 08:02 AM

I'm so sorry for you loss! Just wanted to send you some HUGS!!!! M/c is really hard to deal with and not a lot of people understand what you are going through. It must have been especially hard to go to your sister's baby shower and it's only natural that you would be sad and upset afterwards...this is still so fresh. It's been 6 months for me and I still break down once in a while. In times like that I cuddle with my 2 year old to make me feel better. Your DH sounds like he would understand what is going on with you...at least he's trying. You need to take the time to grieve in your own way and hopefully that will help with the healing process. Take as long as you need! I wish that none of us would have to go through something this painful.

zkat · #7 September 21st, 2009, 08:44 AM

I second what Trish said - I can't say it any better so I will just send Hugs to you!

SkyBaby · #8 September 21st, 2009, 10:40 AM

It is so normal to feel the way you are feeling. I felt the same way. My MC was almost 2 months ago. I still hurt. You'll notice, after a couple weeks have gone by, every day will get a little easier. Vent whenever you need to. We all understand where you're coming from. I'm sorry sorry hun. *hugs*

krystal g · #9 September 21st, 2009, 12:15 PM

Loving6 · #10 September 21st, 2009, 06:04 PM

I'm sorry for your loss.It helps to get your feeling out.I hope you get to feeling better.Time will make it better,never forgotten.

baby4me? · #11 September 21st, 2009, 06:16 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. I felt the same way after my first and second loss. I was really depressed and ended up seeing a counselor and taking medication. I also became very angry with DH because I didn't feel like he understood and he just didn't feel the same way. I don't really have any advice except to give yourself time. I understand the fear of not wanting to talk with DH because you are worried about what you will say... I hope you can talk to him soon and let him know how you feel.

Celena · #12 September 21st, 2009, 08:53 PM

Hi Kelsue!

I'm sorry for what you're going thru

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time right now. We understand tho!

Altho you may feel alone, you're not

We've all experienced at least one or more losses, unfortunatly we know your same pain all too well. It does get easier even tho the wound is so fresh! Be easy on yourself, be forgiving of yourself... you are going thru a grieving period and so it's going to be painful.

Try taking DS to the park and get outside, some fresh air and sunshine. Easier said than done, but it helps

I'm glad that DS makes you laugh and takes your mind off of things

I found an article today that described so well what I've been going thru, but know that allot of us have gone thru or are going thru... (I posted it in the main board today) Perhaps you may find it resourceful to read it or even share it with your DH, maybe family members...

Please feel free to come here and vent away, ask questions, just for support... whatever, we're here for you