Question about Karma?!

SmileyJen2009 · #1 September 22nd, 2009, 02:54 PM

I have been thinking a lot about Karma, the power of positive thinking and the law of attraction. I guess a part of me is feeling really reflective lately, and I have been thinking a lot about how some of the negative thoughts and actions of my past (jealousy over other women's pregnancies, blatant refusal to hang out with my best friend and her one year old because it hurt too much) maybe have been hindering my ability to move forward with my life.
The last couple of years have been pretty rough for me emotionally, due to family stress and the stress of (finally) finishing up with college and starting my career, the loss of my pregnancy.....etc. I have just been really down on myself about stuff. I am thinking that maybe if I changed my outlook on things in my life, I could change the pattern of hurt and emotional stress that has been a constant in my life for so long. Like if I think more positive thoughts, positive things will come my way.
I can't help but think that losing the pregnancy was a wake up call. Like God saying "Hey, Jen! You have a lot to learn! Be thankful for what you have, because at any minute it can be taken away from you. Be a better person and stop being so hard on yourself. Once you learn that life is full of wonderful things, you will be blessed with wonderful things!"
Am I making any sense? Has anyone else been thinking about big stuff like this? And has anyone read "The Secret"? It's about the law of attraction and apparently its an amazing book!

lem0ndr0p · #2 September 22nd, 2009, 05:05 PM

My husband and I both believe in karma. I have also been very negative about what has happened. I try not to take it out on anyone, but sometimes it happens. My husband and I were talking about karma today because I was being very ugly about something and he said that I would have bad karma. I'm trying very hard to think positive, but it's hard to do when you feel everything is against you. Good luck to you!

SmileyJen2009 · #3 September 22nd, 2009, 05:14 PM

Its funny the other day my s/o Mike was trying to teach me to drive a standard car and I was being downright ugly about it... ("Its just so haaaaaaard!!" lol) and he said the same thing, not to be so negative cause its bad karma.
I agree its so hard to stay positive when it feels like you are fighting against the world, God and your own body sometimes. Keep up the positive thinking though and I will too and we can let each other know how it goes!!!

missy123 · #4 September 22nd, 2009, 06:16 PM

The secret is a great book and movie as well. My friends and I used to talk about it all the time, thanks for the reminder!

lem0ndr0p · #5 September 22nd, 2009, 06:38 PM

hahah... I never learned to drive a standard and i'm pretty sure i would be negative about that too. i think karma should forgive that kind of negativity!

Kary♥RN · #6 September 23rd, 2009, 12:44 AM

I do believe in Karma in regards to what you do comes back at you.... With that being said.. After my first loss... I was positive... I still talked to a girl who got her BFP the same day as I, I was still happy for people, the second loss I had.. not so much this time around. And know with this third loss..... screw Karma.... I don't think I lost my first, second, or third due to Karma. I know I am a good person, I have to put up with a lot poop with a smile on my face and show compasion to people who don't deserve it, But I have to say ok... and look to the positive. I know alot of very bad, nansty people who go on to have healthy babies, no Karma there.... And I know alot of great honest people who have gotten the raw deal in life, .... So I don't believe that what we are going through here is Karma.

missy123 · #7 September 23rd, 2009, 06:01 PM

I don't think any of what we are going through has anything to do with Karma....

BigGrin · #8 September 23rd, 2009, 06:07 PM

I'm just going to ditto Karen. I have seen "The Secret" and I think the idea is rather presumptuous. What about that child dying of starvation in a third world country. Did he/she basically attract that demise because they didn't think posititve enough? I don't think so, s%&T just happens sometimes and it's nobody's fault.

Karma, the real religious belief, has to do with the actions in this life coming back on you in the neext life. Frankly I still think that isn't right either, because that would basically validate why children are abused. (past life coming back on them) I think what has happened to us sucks but that it's no fault of our own. We just have to support each other and keep enouraging each other in our journey to become parents.

lem0ndr0p · #9 September 23rd, 2009, 06:13 PM

well, i don't believe that because i called someone a douche the other day that it triggered my m/c. i do think that being positive and having an upbeat outlook is healthier than dwelling on the past, though.

anyway, jen, i understand what you are saying.

farasha · #10 September 24th, 2009, 04:02 AM

no one deserves a m/c. life just sucks a lot sometimes. and look! i'm being negative! but three miscarriages in a year will do that to you. it's called human nature. we're allowed to get down about things, especially when life hits you in the uterus with so many lemons. i'm approximately 100% sure that my m/c's are due to my body being completely screwed up, not about my attitude.

~Lynda~ · #11 September 24th, 2009, 06:23 AM

i read the secret and as well as i think it's great to be positive, i don' t think bad things happen to people because of what they think in their subconscious. i think the book was great for motivating people to think more positively, but loads of things they said in that book, i couldn't connect with. One I remember so well, was she said that she wore glasses to read, but when she started using the law of attraction to think positively about her diminished eye sight, she no longer needed glasses to see. her eyes were better... well that has never worked for me or anyone else i know. but i think being positive where pregnancy is concerned is just a great idea!!! it can't hurt!!!

.:Shortcake:. · #12 September 24th, 2009, 06:44 AM

I do believe in Karma but imo I don't think that is what caused my m/c.

Celena · #13 September 24th, 2009, 06:42 PM

with Kary

Karma is good and bad, but with that being said.... I've done FAR MORE positive, selfless acts and have recieved such crap. However I don't think that it's due to karma. I know I DON'T deserve it and that's just the thing. (so that goes to #2)

I dunno, I think ALLOT... always have and always will. I am open minded and can change my thoughts, perspective from time to time, day to day.

Skipping forward...

Lately I'm *relearning* how to"

1) be forgiving of myself
2) accept that I may never have "all the answers"
3) that all the answers won't make me feel better and others...