Am I the only one?

Oreobaby · #1 September 24th, 2009, 06:37 PM

I am getting so tired of women complaining about their kids. I have a friend of facebook...(who knows about my difficulties trying, as well as my loss) that complained about having to get up early to get her kids ready for school. When I posted on her facebook that I couldn't wait!! She said really, my sleep is way to important to me. To which I replied...Kids are worth it. This is not the first time I have encountered mom's complaining about their kids, or stating to me...at least you don't have kids, or at least you don't have to haul two kids around with you, or do this or do that, and I'm so freaking tired of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Am I the only one?

(no offense to those who have kids, I'm sure when I am a mom I will have those moments too, where it just seems like a lot of work...but sitting where I am now...I don't see that happening!)

Celena · #2 September 24th, 2009, 06:51 PM

Marci it bothers me to and I am a mom... my thoughts are WHY THE HECK did you have kids? My kids are my LIFE and my UNIVERSE!!

I'm sorry for their insensitivity, but I FEEL you... that sort of stuff really pisses me off.

They should be grateful to HAVE the children they have!!! So many have lost or are trying, with or without children already.

I over heard a lady in the store today complaining she had a young child prolly 2yrs and was hugely pg... I wanted to slap the cell phone out of her hand! GRR!

lem0ndr0p · #3 September 24th, 2009, 07:01 PM

I have 3 kids and there have been times when I have wished that I could sleep a little later or do something fun on the weekend instead of staying home with kids. But I've thought a lot about what you posted and I just don't think I have said to someone at least you don't have 2 kids to haul around or that sleep was more important. Some people just do not realize how lucky they are and I hope that they never have to go through what you or anyone that has had difficulty or a loss has had to go through.

KDD · #4 September 24th, 2009, 07:53 PM

I'll give a different example than my response in TTC #1.

I was at a candle party last year. One woman was 6 months pg (and has a 2 year old) and was complaining about being uncomfortable and some other stuff. Another woman who has an infant was complaining about how hard it is! I know that raising kids is not easy, but it was all I could do to not scream out "but you have healthy children in your arms - stop complaining!"

Let us all remember these moments when we are pg!

missy123 · #5 September 24th, 2009, 08:00 PM

Do teenagers count as kids because I have some complaining to do let me tell you!

Just kidding, I am actually so freakin lucky to have such wonderful boys. Their one downfall is they are lazy and messy, like really messy!

Marci, I understand what you are saying. It was really hard for me when they were little. 2 months after Kyle was born I got divorced and I was a single mom with 3 boys under the age of 5. I was broke and tired from working 2 jobs but I was always so happy with them! We had so much fun together... I gave up going out to parties and made tons of sacrifices and I got to a point where I was so stressed out and just wanted to have some fun. My friend Jennifer paid for a babysitter one night and we went out and had a blast. After that, every other Friday night was girls night and it helped me have the adult time that I craved for. Maybe that is what your friend is trying to say but doesn't know how to word it?

Anyway I am babbling.... I am sure I complained a lot back then.

Marci, you are going to make a great mom!!!

momof6lopez · #6 September 24th, 2009, 09:12 PM

Marci, when it comes down to it, she should of know better. She knows what you are going through and could of been a bit more sensitve. Like the other mom pp'ers, we have our days, but when complaining to someone who does not have any and not by choice, there should be some tact. Like complain, but end it with, I would not trade it for the world. Im sorry your stuck with comments like this from people who should no better, and I agree with Missy, you will be one of the "better" ones out there when your lo is laying in your arms soon.

mum74 · #7 September 24th, 2009, 09:32 PM

You know what, you will have moments when you are a Mom where you will feel what she is feeling. BUT, no one (particularly if they know you've had a loss/been trying) should ever be saying 'at least you don't have kids' or any other comments like that because that is not fair and just inappropriate. And it is perfectly normal to not want to hear other people complaining about their kids when you'd give your right arm to be tired because your kids had you up all night or woke you early.

SkyBaby · #8 September 24th, 2009, 10:09 PM

I wonder how many losses (if any) these women who complain about their kids have had.

*MomofO&Nat* · #9 September 25th, 2009, 06:28 AM

I can definitely tell you that I have complained about lack of sleep/sick baby/etc. much much less since my m/c because it made me realize how lucky I am to have him and he is the reason I am getting through each day right now. I think I will be much more aware of what I post on FB etc. now because of this experience. I will say that most of my friends on FB are moms with same-age babies to mine, and their statuses are ALWAYS so and so woke up early ugh or so and so is so whiny today or so and so won't eat the food I make. It is a complain-fest on there! I agree with above posters that you will definitely have times of wishing to sleep in etc. but I understand where you are coming from too.

Trish36 · #10 September 25th, 2009, 08:17 AM

Like kelsue said, I too have stopped complaining about anything kids related since my m/c. Everytime I feel like the kids are driving me crazy or have to get up in the middle of the night to run to the baby...I don't! Now I actually enjoy going into my dd's room and cuddling with her or sitting down with the older 2 and reading them a story at bedtime. And I am sure that in the past I have complained about everything under the sun, now what would I give to do this all over again. So when I her another mom complaining I also feel like telling her to count her blessings.

~Lynda~ · #11 September 25th, 2009, 09:45 AM

i would never even think that about my kids. there are good days and some not so good days, but i wouldn't change a thing!! that is very very insensitive - especially if they know your situation!! hugs to you!!!

HippyMomOf4 · #12 September 25th, 2009, 09:55 AM

I have days where my kids drive me crazy, but its all worth it. I feel very blessed to have 2 healthy girls. But i'm not gonna lie i've done my share of complaining, usually about how they are acting for the day. But i agree i don't mind getting up early and i never complain about lack of sleep, if she is that tired maybe she should go to bed early and get a good nights sleep. I'm sorry she upset you.

Oreobaby · #13 September 25th, 2009, 04:59 PM

I'm glad that I didn't upset any of you women that are mom's...that would be horrible...I know that I will have moments where my kids are driving me to drink!! I hope that I can be more tolerant, because of my loss, and the time that I toiled to have my kids...

The women that I have spoken like that to the best of my knowledge have never had a loss...and I know, you can't understand till you have been through one...but I would never wish it on any of them...no matter how much they upset me and piss me off...they should definitely count their blessings...cause that's just what kids are, even if some of them may think they are a right.