[Oreobaby]

So, I'm just thinking...is it possible that I had a chemical pregnancy, and the progesterone is just keeping AF from coming? My temp dropped down this morning, and it has made me concerned...and since my boobs don't really hurt like they did last time, that makes me even more concerned. What do you girls think...am I just being silly and I just need to sit back and enjoy this pregnancy already, as difficult as that may be...

[missy123]

I think being pregnant after a loss is very stressful and gone are the days of being pregnant and carefree.

I have been over analyzing every little thing about my body since the loss and I am not pregnant!

I know this is the generic answer but if you have concerns please call your doctor.

Is there anyway they will do beta draws so you can monitor your numbers? Would that give you some relief or cause you more stress?

[krystal g]

with everything Missy just said. Yes, you may be over analyzing, but that is to be expected and I would do the same thing...I still do, and I'm not pregnant. But if you are concerned, I would definitely call your Dr. and try to get some blood levels to ease your mind. I know it may be impossible to just relax and enjoy, but you should try, hun. I'm trying to have a more positive attitude...the lack of bad news = good news. So unless you know something negative for certain, just try to keep positive. Easier said than done, I know...

[Oreobaby]

It would definately cause less stress, and I plan on calling the dr. today and see if he can get me in for betas...i'm just nervous that he will tell me to wait till my appointment on the 13th. (which is only a week away I know, but a weeks seems so long) I will hopefully be able to go in earlier to get beta's done...but we will see what the dr. says.

[momof6lopez]

Your overthinking, but that is to be expected. When are your calling your dr. for the first set of bw? We will never look at our pregnancies the way we did before loss, try to stay positive, even if its just a little!

[mlyster]

Marci I am having the exact same thoughts and i am having symptoms like my first pregnancy. But I still think it could be chemical and I also think I could be headed for the same fate as my first one. Here is what I am trying to do - I am trying not to think about the bad that could happen.

I see you are still temping - which you know is a no no... have you tested? I have been testing just to get a sense that the lines are still there and getting darker (another no no). If you have not tested that might help - I know with Kary's last one she knew something was not right because the lines stayed really really light.

Call you doctor and see what they have to say?

[*MomofO&Nat*]

Oh hun, I mean this in the nicest way but it just SUCKS that we all have to feel that way now, that we have been robbed of ever just enjoying the pregnancy again. That said, you have reason to doubt obviously, but the stressing may make things worse (i.e. creating symptoms that freak you out more, stress is a nasty thing and does nasty things to our bodies) so checking in with the OB may put your mind at ease. There is really no good way to be sure until you see that baby on the u/s, but until then I liked mylster's idea from a previous post of making a list of mini-milestones to get past each week so you feel like you are progressing and moving towards your goal. I plan to steal that idea if and when I get pg again. We are all so excited for you and sending good vibes your way!!

[Oreobaby]

I know temping is a no no... I have not tested again yet...I only have one test left, and was going to wait a bit to let the HCG build up...if it's going to I guess...tests are so expensive here...and I bought the super cheap ones, which is probably why it was so light to begin with, I might go buy a FRER after work today, and try that in the morning if my dr. can't do anything for me till the 13th.

[Celena]

Awe Marci I'm so sorry you're stressing over the little things.... with the girls it could be that your over analyzing things, but for peace of mind get into your doc! Having him do you quatative beta's isn't a bad thing at all!!! It will reassure you things are moving along right?

No harm no foul, right?

I hope you can get in there and get your mind at peace

[stargatemommy]

I know, I stress out everytime I get a BFP. I actually freak out when thing are like past pregnancies. Since none of my pregnancies even made it to the second trimester, I feel like if I have the same symptoms, it will have the same outcome. Silly I know. I really think you will be ok. I also think testing again can't hurt. It might me comforting to see that second line really dark. I am sorry you are so stressed. It sucks that we will never be the care-free worry-less pregnant girls.

[Trish36]

Marci. put down the thermometer and don't POAS anymore. It will only make you crazier!!! Trust me. Last time I got my BFP I went out and bought 5 ept's so that I can compare the lines. And it did me no good. Call your dr. and beg to go in for a bt so you can have some reassurance. It just sucks that we can't enjoy our pregnancies the same way anymore. I know you will feel much better once you've passed 5 weeks and your dr. confirms with a bt. Hang in there!!!!

[mlyster]

Marci - I just got back from my doctors appointment (will post about it in the main thread and PAL soon). But the biggest thing she said is to be very careful about stress. She said stress can have a huge affect on a pregnancy. Keep taking the progesterone, write what you need to write, vent when you need to vent but keep positive! Take one day at a time. If it was a chemical you would probably already be bleeding right? and since you are not (yay) that means you are "clear" of the chemical pregnancy.

(BTW i don't know the rule about what is chemical and what is not but this is meant to reassure her and lower her stress about it and this is also my view of what "chemical" is).

[~InHisHands~]

I agree with everyone else! I hope it is nothing!!!

[JessP]

Marci I hope your doctor will get you in if nothing else to ease your mind. I hope you start to enjoy your pregnancy and remember no two are ever exactly alike.

[Oreobaby]

Well, I didn't listen to you ladies...my dr. won't do Beta's unless there is a medical reason to THIS pregnancy...so unless I start spotting, or cramping really bad, they won't do Beta's...the good news is...I just couldn't resist going to Walmart after work and buying two FRER. They aren't the ones I used before...but the line is clearly darker with afternoon urine...so I am definately feeling better now that it isn't a chemical pregnancy... YIPPEE...looking at the lines...the test line is as dark as the control line and much darker than the line on both of my first tests...I think I can relax a bit now...it's not chemical...Once I get past the long weekend (thanksgiving here in Canada!!) with no spotting...(starting praying already) again, I will feel better...and maybe even entertain the idea of telling my family. I told the guys at my work, because I really want to limit my lifting to about 10 lbs...(we have some motors that weigh up to 60 lbs, which I usually lift no problem...but I'm just being extra cautious. Thanks so much girls for listening to me, and helping reassure me...oh...and my dr. changed my appointment. He said that the 13th was too early for an early ultra sound, so he changed it to the 22nd. Which will be approximately the first day of my 7th week...I'm hoping he will be able to see something...but am trying to not stress about it...as I know stress can greatly effect the baby!! Please remind me of that if I decide to stress again!

[Kary♥RN]

I am glad you POAS.. I was going to say When I took the HPT They never got darker.... When I tested they were light, got darker, and darker... then never got any darker than that third test. I went From my original BFP (I would say about 15) Than I took another when I know my levels were 31 (given the number from Bloodtest) than another at 91.... I took another.. and they never got darker than that. The last blood test I got was 93..... That is how I knew... And I would of started bleeding sooner.. But I was on the progesterone. I was told to stop it so my body could start to miscarry.

So with all that being said... as long as those lines are getting darker... Those numbers are going up!!!!!!! CONGRATS!

[mlyster]

YAY marci!! I POAS IC this afternoon as a "precaution" needed to make sure it was positive in the afternoon too

I understand about the beta's. My dr isn't doing them either and her reasons were good ones... I have no reason to believe I need them right now so she just wants to leave everything alone and let my body do what it needs to do right now.

[KDD]

I'm glad you're feeling better than this morning. Somehow seeing those 2 lines can be so reassuring. Remember - one day at a time!