Mad at DH (Vent)

stargatemommy · #1 October 6th, 2009, 07:30 PM

My husband decided he was too tired to BD tonight! He always wants to BD even during AF (Which I think is gross) but when we actually need to, he won't! I feel like he is purposefully trying to sabotage my chances of pregnancy! We have discussed it over and over again, we BOTH want a baby. I went over it with him last night, that we would BD 3 days in a row, and he agreed! We will most likley BD in the morning. But that might me too late! Do you think it will be ok if we BDed last night and do it in the morning? Should I take an OPK in the morning? I am so pissed off! He sat around watching tv all evening and then went to sleep! Why does he have to be so difficult? Does anyone else's DH's do this?

JessP · #2 October 6th, 2009, 07:47 PM

Mine did this last night. I got him to do it the whole weekend. Then last night I was thinking was a good time too and he was to tired I was like come on mr get to work LOL. I think as long as you dtd within 72 hours of ovulation you are good. Did you O today or yesterday or tomorrow? You should be fine either way. At least that is what I keep telling myself LOL. I hope you caught the egg hun. Sorry DH is being a poop poo head

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krystal g · #3 October 6th, 2009, 08:18 PM

Believe me, mine has done the same thing. And I know he wants a baby as much as me, but there have been times when he whined about being too tired when I knew we needed to do it that night. We really had it out 2 cycles ago over this and I let him know how important it was and how I really didn't care how tired he was...if before sleep is too late, then I'm more than willing to do it after work or before dinner or after dinner...I'm flexible.

He had no more excuses after that. And this past cycle he was a trooper. But it took a heart-to-heart and a lot of tears before he really got it. I think if you do it tomorrow you should be OK. Hope you catch that eggie!

momof6lopez · #4 October 6th, 2009, 10:18 PM

I think you should be just fine! You got all the important days, and if tomorrow happens, thats just to boot!

Boble · #5 October 7th, 2009, 02:31 AM

the last 2 times I have fallen preg we have bd night then morning.. then not at all again around the O time. So, I think morning sex must work iwth the release time of my egg.. I hope you are the same

.:Shortcake:. · #6 October 7th, 2009, 03:58 AM

Aww hun my DH does that too! But don't worry I think your safe!

farasha · #7 October 7th, 2009, 05:39 AM

It definitely happens!!! But you seem like your'e doing it a lot otherwise, so I wouldn't worry too much! Good luck!

SkyBaby · #8 October 7th, 2009, 08:54 AM

My DH does that too. I dance naked in front of him and that usually changes his mind.

~InHisHands~ · #9 October 7th, 2009, 01:59 PM

That's happened to me in the past but I think we have worked through it. I think you'll be fine every other day (48 hours a part)... that's what we do & what our OB actually recommends even when DH's numbers are GREAT! I can say that it def worked last time we got pg... we only BDed once (about 48 hours) before O & it worked!

Oreobaby · #10 October 7th, 2009, 04:57 PM

I think we all have had those experiences with our DH's...it's like when you talk to them, they get it, but then when it comes time to actually do it...it gets lost in translation...

I do want to encourage you though...I O'd on a Saturday that I was away from DH for the weekend...the last time we DTD before that was on the Thursday...tomorrow, I will be 5 weeks. Please don't consider yourself out yet.