What will you do?

Kary♥RN · #1 October 8th, 2009, 02:03 PM

When you get your BFP... Who will tell and when?

Will you surprise DH/SO or will it be casual this time?

Will it be different from last time (times)?

Why? To the above...

HopefulMommy81 · #2 October 8th, 2009, 02:41 PM

When you get your BFP... Who will tell and when? DH and only DH until confirmed by doctor and I pass 5 weeks at least

Will you surprise DH/SO or will it be casual this time? Well, I always would like to surprise him, but I get too excited and just blurt it out or come running to him with the HPT! LOL

Will it be different from last time (times)? I'd like to surprise him- just depends, it will be much easier to surprise him if I get my BFP when he's at work LOL

Why? To the above... Well, we really wanted to tell people early this time around, and I'm glad we didn't since I am miscarrying. I just don't want to get them all excited then have to go around explaining what happened.

krystal g · #3 October 8th, 2009, 02:48 PM

When I get my BFP this time, telling DH will definitely be casual. Last time I surprised him but now he is aware of when I'm testing so he always asks the result. I will definitely tell my family, and a few close friends who have stuck by me through this. They all ask every month anyway so I'd have to directly lie to them. I'm not sure if DH will tell his family immediately. Last time DH was so excited he told everyone at work the day we found out. I told my immediate family and my Dad told all my extended family. So needless to say, there were a lot of people to tell the bad news to....not happening again. I'm not sure when I'll tell people...I would like to last until 12 weeks but who knows...I was already showing by then last time.

JessP · #4 October 8th, 2009, 02:58 PM

When you get your BFP... Who will tell and when? Just DH at first. I haven't decided on family yet.

Will you surprise DH/SO or will it be casual this time? Its never a surprise I always tell him before I take a test that I think we are.

Will it be different from last time (times)? No probably the same.

Why? To the above... Well I am just worried about telling people as I am sure everyone can relate. And I can't keep a secret from DH

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momof6lopez · #5 October 8th, 2009, 03:06 PM

Well I will tell DH, I would love to surprise him this time, but I usually get way to excited to wait! Last time, he was so sick with diarehea (sorry for the tmi) and I ran into the bathroom and just plopped on his lap with the digi! Poor thing, he was so sick, but excited! (smelled really bad in the bathroom that day

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Anyway, this time just him and probably my gf here at work. I tell her verytime, just incase I start to m/c, so she knows why my door is shut or why I dont have make up on. I plan to keep it that way for at least 8-10wks of pregnancy.

Why different: Well it was so much easier last month with my loss with no one knowing. Did not have to look into a million eyes and replay my loss over and over again.

jensma · #6 October 8th, 2009, 03:29 PM

When you get your BFP... Who will tell and when? Just DH for a while, then we'll see how long i can hold out. I WILL do better next time!!

Will you surprise DH/SO or will it be casual this time? idk, depends on when i find out i guess.

Will it be different from last time (times)? Yeah i think so. Last time i was beyond surprised. This time i don't know, but i'm sure it will be different.

Why? To the above... i guess b/c i've already gotten my first BFP, so now i will be scared and cautious and not so naive. But I will be happy and relieved at the same time!

SkyBaby · #7 October 8th, 2009, 04:22 PM

When you get your BFP... Who will tell and when?

Immediately after I find out, I will tell DH. Then we'll tell my parents and siblings and his parents and his sister and my grandma. I'll also post here, of course.

Will you surprise DH/SO or will it be casual this time?

I'm torn between calling him at work or telling him when he gets home. I haven't decided yet. However, I am leaning towards telling him when he gets home just because I want to see his expressions and everything.

Will it be different from last time (times)?

I called DH at work. As stated above, I'll probably tell him when he gets home from work this time.

KDD · #8 October 8th, 2009, 08:08 PM

When you get your BFP... Who will tell and when? I will most likely tell DH first, and JM friends 2nd. I may tell my parents right away 'cause they were really supportive with my m/c. I don't know when I'll tell anyone else.

Will you surprise DH/SO or will it be casual this time? I'm not sure. I really haven't thought too much about it.

Kary♥RN · #9 October 9th, 2009, 02:51 PM

When you get your BFP... Who will tell and when? Well DH, and some of the people I work with... Since I would have to. since I can't take care of certain pt's nor lift.......

Will you surprise DH/SO or will it be casual this time? I don't know... Each time has been more Casual... Maybe I should throw a party.. and maybe the little one will stick around.

Will it be different from last time (times)? Yes very... I don't think I will rush to tell the family...

Why? To the above... Thier has been alot of hurt feelings.. (Mostly mine) We didn't tell anyone about the first loss... Got that thrown in my face after the second loss... (My feelings didn't count, here I have lost two babies.. and it didn't matter) And now after the third... (Still my feelings ment nothing, The week I still m/c and it was my EED for my loss in Jan... Only one person besides DH... even aknowledged what should of been,) I still feel like I am being shunned... Conversations are fake, short and generic. I have a few people I can turn to... But they are limitted in number. So I am in no hurry to sharing the news if I should become pregnant..